Butch/Femme dynamics have always held a special place in my heart. Alright, in my heart and in my pants. Yep, I think butch/femme dynamics are super duper hot. There is something about the delicious performances of masculinity and femininity that fit within that queer framework that give my bottom that special tingle. Maybe it’s because I identify as a femme and I’ve always had my eye on masculine-identified queers, be they butch women or transgender men. Or maybe it’s just this amazing subset of society that has a rich history that I find alluring. Either way, I totally jumped at the chance to read and review Sometimes She Lets Me: Best Butch/Femme Erotica edited by Tristan Taormino.
I guess before I go on, I should probably give a rundown of what are butch/femme dynamics. The whole thing is a much bigger conversation than I can fit in this post, but here are the basics. While a person’s sex is male or female (though there are plenty of intersex folks as well!), the genders that they take on are masculinity and femininity. Anyone can take on any role and perform gender in the way that they feel most comfortable.
For some queer or lesbian-identified women, feminine presentation and gender roles are not their preference and they instead gravitate to a more masculine presentation, and still identify as a woman. Femmes, on the other hand, are women that embrace femininity, but do so in a more performed, intentional way. While there are tons of relationships that include two (or more) butches, and two (or more) femmes, what I am talking about by butch/femme dynamics, I am referring to the ways that butches and femmes interact and relate with one and another. There has been a lot of tension in the community in the past (and present) about butches and femmes replicating hetero-normative culture and perpetuating stifling gender roles, but we aren’t here to talk about that now… we are here to talk about how very hot these dynamics and relationships can be! Alright, now that we’ve got the initial info down, let’s get to it!
Along with having a thing for butch/femme dynamics, I also have a major boner for written erotica. I’ve always been hot for the written word, but I’m pretty sure that watching porno for a full-time job has my visual erotica response dulled, which has increased my excitement for erotic writing. And since “Sometimes She Lets Me” mixes two things that make me incredibly hot, it only stands to reason that this book should light me on fire. And oh, did it ever.
Each of the 23 stories in this erotic anthology of hotness is perfectly crafted – never revealing too much too soon or dragging along. In fact, each story is executed exquisitely, with just the right build up, climax and cool down. Sound familiar? And it doesn’t just read like a delicious orgasm, it doles them out, one after another, story after story making the reader’s face flush with that special red of arousal. Or maybe that was just me.
I’m not even sure how to talk about which were my favorite stories, because each of the 23 had their own piece that tickled both my fancy and my bottom. I will say that the folks who I knew would be amazing (like Sinclair Sexsmith and S. Bear Bergman) were every bit as alluring and wonderful as I had hoped, and many new names for me are now prominently etched into the subconscious of my spank bank. Need I say anymore?
If you are into butch/femme dynamics, or even just like hot erotica, Sometimes She Lets Me needs to make it onto your reading list/bedside table!
I ran into this amazing spoken word piece by author/storyteller Ivan Coyote and just had to share it…
As a self identified femme, this piece makes me swoon hardcore.
And if you’re feeling a little tingle in your bottom after watching this brilliant video, check out Madison Young’s fabulous Femmetastic! and all of our other feirce femme flicks!
Or if a little butch dyke lovin’ is more your thing, not to worry – we’ve got you covered.
Rubbing away my goosebumps and thinking of England…
Happy Friiiiiday! It’s rainy and freezing out, but I’m in a good mood, so I thought I’d pass it along. I feel like I’ve posted this on Mixtape Rewind before, but I can’t seem to find it in the archives, so I guess I haven’t talked about it before, or if I did, it was before our blog was actually on this site. (And that was about a million years ago, and you can stand to see this again!)
Happy Humpday! Welcome back to the midweek stretch. Today is 09/09/09, which, coupled with the shortened week, means that today is an extra special Humpday. Humpday Extraordinaire! Let’s celebrate this super exciting day the best way we know how, with a little Link Lovin’! We’ve traveled to the end of the Internet per usual to bring you the best of the best of what’s out there. Enjoy!
- These days, safe sex ads are getting more and more brazen in their attempts to ditch the sugar-coating and get their point across. The Frisky rounded up the 12 craziest ones – including two that feature Hitler… which is enough to put the breaks on feeling sexy at all. Seriously, who wants to think about Hitler before they get busy. I guess the ad works.
Michigan has brought us a ton of good stuff over the years. Madonna, Anthony Kiedis, major car production, gun laws that allow teenagers to have handgun licenses… ah that good old Great Lakes State! Well now we are thankful to Michigan for bringing us another awesome local commodity – hot queer porn!
HotMoviesForHer officially welcomes our new favorite queer studio to the VOD family – Butch Boi Productions!
If you know anything about us over at HM4Her, you know that we have a major lady boner for anything queer, gender-blending, trans, butch/femme, raw and real and Butch Bio really takes the cake when it comes to adding checkmarks next to all of those super sexy traits we love in our porno.
As of right now these fabulous queers only have one video out, but if our wishes are granted, hopefully there will be many more to come! …And to cum to!
From fucking atop a washing machine in the opening moments, to about twenty minutes of additional still photos after the movie, this flick pretty much tops the list of amateur queer/trans porn I’ve ever seen. In fact, it’s the D.I.Y. feel makes it so good for me. Whether or not this is really the case, the movie looks like a bunch of friends got together and decided to make a porn of how they fuck, complete with all the giggling, passion and excitement that comes along with screwing your buddies. The whole thing has a sort of 8mm film feel and even though there is music, you can still hear dialogue and laughing in the background, which I love. All in all, it looks like everyone was having a really good time.
Welcome to HotMoviesForHer, Butch Boi! We hope to see as much of you as possible!
Only a few minutes ago, Sinclair Sexsmith of Sugarbutch Chronicles launched TopHotButches.com, a “top 100 list in the spirit of AfterEllen.com’s Hot 100 and GO Magazine’s Women We Love, focusing on transmasculine queer people of all kinds – butch, tomboy, androgynous, masculine, AG, stud, dykes, queers, and transmen.”
Along with a bevy of musicians, writers, actors, comics, etc., the insanely hot lineup has some of our favorite porn butches, including: Read the rest of this entry »
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