5 Reasons Porn is Good for your Marriage (or Relationship)

I have recently had a few conversations with my girlfriends about porn and their husband’s and partner’s porn viewing habits and almost all of them lump porn in with cheating or going to strip clubs.  I personally don’t mind if my husband and his buddies want to go to a strip club, but I guess if I reach I can understand why it bothers them.  Cheating on the other hand, I always feel is completely unacceptable in a marriage or relationship.  Porn, though, really?  I think Porn is good for your marriage and can be healthy, exciting, and empowering.

 

Here are 5 reasons that porn is good for your marriage or relationship.

 

1.  Porn can get you in the mood.  Let’s face it, after a long day at work, or a long day at home taking care of toddlers, you don’t always feel so sexy.  You are tired, you got bags under your eyes, haven’t shaved your legs since last summer and you just want to put on your long-john-looking pj’s and pass out when your head hits the pillow.  But, you can’t do that every day. Sex is actually a great stress reliever and can help you sleep better and we all want to have it, we just aren’t in the mood.  Cue the porn!  Watching porn alone or with your partner can help get you in the mood and ready for some hot sexy lovemaking (or quick no so sexy lovemaking if you don’t have time to shave your legs first!).  Watching porn to get in the mood doesn’t mean your marriage or relationship lacks intimacy or desire for each other, or that your partner is not attracted to you, it just an acknowledgement that sometimes you need to a little kick start and fantasy to get your head of the stresses of your everyday life.

2.  Porn can give you that extra push to explore your fantasies (or your partners).  Ever been in a relationship and your partner told you they like something you have never tried and they wanted you to try it with them?  Assuming you are in a trusting, loving and healthy relationship (and what your partner is asking is not dangerous) you might want to try it for them.  But you also might be scared, confused, or not even know what it is or how to do it.  Cue the porn!  Porn can help you introduce your fantasies or hidden desires to your partners and allow you to explore it with them to see if it is something they would be willing to try with you.  Without porn, you might just get a simple “no way in hell your putting that there,” but exploring your fantasies with porn and your partner could actually introduce them to your desires and get them more comfortable and give them the courage to try something new.

3.  This works with your own fantasies too girls, ever think you might want to try something with your partner but don’t know how to bring it up?  Cue the porn!  Porn can open lines of communication within a relationship or marriage regarding your turn-ons, turn offs, boundaries and desires.  Maybe you will learn that you both like to listen to music during sex, or maybe your partner would like to have the lights on, there is no end to the conversations that porn can bring up that there really otherwise might not be a comfortable time to discuss.

4.  A lot of my friends think that their partners only watch porn because they are no longer attracted to them.  This is so far from the truth, and they should watch some porn so I can prove it to them!  There are porn videos with every body type imaginable and watching porn and being turned on is nothing to be ashamed of and it doesn’t mean your partner is any less attracted to you.  If you are just diving into porn with your partner and you are concerned about your partners attraction to you and your body type, choose a porn that featured women similar to you, and I bet your partner is just as turned on by it as they are when you are alone in bed after it’s over.

5. Watching porn can be empowering to women.  Women sometimes get so hung-up on making sure their partners aren’t watching too much porn that they forget it’s OK for a woman to fantasize and masturbate and explore their own sexuality too.  Maybe the next time your husband goes to the strip club for a bachelor party you put the kids to bed, make yourself a strong martini and put on a porn with some men or women that you fantasize about and enjoy your evening.  Cue the Porn!

So how about we get rid of the porn stereotypes that men and women in relationships shouldn’t need to watch porn, or porn promotes violence or negative behaviors towards women, and just finally see it for what it really can be, a healthy outlet, entertainment, and a way to help heighten your sex life with your partner.  Porn is good for your marriage and relationship, try some out today and get 10 free minutes.

 

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