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Announcing the Masturbation Month Twitter Contest: #MayIGetOff

Hey there lady porn fans!  Did you know May is National Masturbation Month? For the next 31 days it’s time to celebrate and embrace that much needed bean flicking time with as much undressing, pressing, finessing, and caressing as possible!

There’s nothing we love more at than getting off-outside of getting you off, that is! So in honor of the 20th Anniversary of National Masturbation Month, we’re going to do everything we can to lend you a much deserved “helping hand” to get you alone, prone and ready to moan and groan while you play with that erogenous zone!

Beginning Monday, May 4th, 2015, will be launching the #MayIGetOff Masturbation Month Contest, where one lucky winner will win a well hung gift package with everything you could possibly need to take care of YOUR package.

cropped-Magic-Wand-OriginalThe winner will receive the Get Your Box Off Package, which includes: one (1) Hitachi Magic Wand, one (1) bottle of toy cleaner, one (1) package of condoms, one (1) bottle of lube, (1) T-shirt, and 90 free minutes to spend on your favorite porn stars, scenes, or feature films at!  Everything you could need to make that special date with your favorite two fingers a bang-up, good time!

So, if you enjoy masturbating as much as we do, start “double clicking that mouse” now, and get ready for some fake fuckin’ fun all month long!

Here’s How to Enter:

Each Monday in May, HotMoviesforHer will announce the masturbatory topic/question of the week on Twitter.  For week one, which officially kicks off Monday, May 4th at 2 PM EST, we want you to share with us your favorite funny, dirty, crazy, or off-the-wall terms for masturbation!

To enter, you must tweet your answer to @HotMoviesforHer, and include the hash tag #MayIGetOff, along with the handle of the porn star you would most like to get off with/for/on/in! Entries missing any portion of these guidelines will be void.

New questions will subsequently be announced on Monday, May 11th, 18th, and 25th at noon EST.  Closing dates for entries will be Sunday, May 10th, 17th, 24th, and 31st respectively at 11:59 pm EST. Participants may submit no more than three (3) entries per week. The grand prize winner of the Get Your Box Off Package will be selected at random and announced Monday, June 1st, 2015.

For further information, please refer to the terms and conditions listed below, or e-mail questions to



  1. The promoter is: whose registered office is located in Philadelphia, PA.
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  3. Entrants must be 18 years of age or older by May 1, 2015.
  4. There is no entry fee, and no purchase necessary to enter this competition.
  5. Participants may enter 3 times per week.
  6. To enter: Each week, @HotMoviesforHer will tweet a new question to followers.  In order for your entry to count, you must tweet your answer, along with the hashtag #MayIGetOff, to the @HotMoviesforHer Twitter handle along with the handle of your favorite porn star that you would like to get off to!
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  12. The promoter is not responsible for inaccurate prize details supplied to any entrant by any third party connected with this competition.
  13. No cash alternative to the prizes will be offered. The prizes are not transferable. Prizes are subject to availability and we reserve the right to substitute any prize with another of equivalent value without giving notice.
  14. Winners will be chosen at random by third-party software.
  15. The winner will be notified via Twitter on June 1, 2015. If the winner cannot be contacted or do not claim the prize within 14 days of notification, we reserve the right to withdraw the prize from the winner and pick a replacement winner.
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Eco-Friendly Sex Toys

Leaf+ Vitality
Leaf+ Vitality

Happy Earth Day dear readers! In honor of the greenest of holidays, we’re going to give you a rundown of how to choose eco-friendly sex toys for your bedside drawer. Gone are the days when you had to masturbate with an organic, locally sourced cucumber that you composted after cumming if you wanted to boast about your environmentally friendly pussy. In 2015, there are plenty of green toys that can satisfy almost any craving.

So what makes an eco-friendly sex toy eco-friendly? First off, it should be safe for your own body; after all, you’re an animal, part of an ecosystem, and your bodily health is important. Secondly, the toy should be made of recyclable, long lasting, sustainable materials so as to reduce our impact on landfills and our natural resources. Finally, if your toy vibrates or has any electronic component it should be rechargeable so that your batteries also aren’t winding up in a landfill. Let’s get started!

Phthalate-Free and Non-Porous

Eco friendly sex toys
LELO Mona 2 – Phthalate free and non-porous

Dear readers are probably sick of me going on about non-body safe materials in sex toys, but here we go again. Sex toys are typically classified as novelty products, so unlike many other products, they remain outside the scope of government safety regulations. Do you ever wonder why that shitty $15 dildo always has packaging that says “Not for internal use” when it is clearly for no other use BUT internal use? It’s an easy way for sex toy manufacturers to cover their butts. So what are phthalates? They’re a class of chemicals that are added to plastics to make them softer and flexible, and they can be absorbed into the body through the mouth and genitals. Once in the body, they may disrupt the body’s hormones and its reproductive system, and the EPA has classified phthalates as “possible human carcinogens.” As such, phthalates have been banned from use in children’s toys in the US and EU. Sex toy packaging may claim to be phthalate-free, but they might not necessarily be honest. Always examine a toy out of its packaging before purchasing and check to see if it’s bendy, squishy, sweaty, or has a strong odor like that of a new shower curtain; all of these qualities point to the presence of phthalates.

When we talk about porosity in toys, we mean that some sex toys are, well…porous, like your skin! As such, these toys can be impossible to sterilize and may become breeding grounds for bacteria, fungus, and mildew, which you obviously don’t want in your genitals. All of the eco-friendly toys listed in the rest of this article will be phthalate-free and non-porous.


If you’re in the market for eco-friendly sex toys, the most important thing to pay attention to is materials. Not only do you want something that’s body safe, you also want something that, with proper care, can last you forever so as not to end up in a landfill. In the case of breakage and you do need to get rid of that toy, you also want it to be recyclable or easily biodegradable. Finally, the materials that it’s made from should be sustainable so as to limit its impact on our natural resources.


eco friendly sex toys
Maverick from Vixen Creations

Silicone is one of the most popular sex toy materials in recent years, loved by many for its soft, sometimes skin-like feel. Sometimes the packaging will falsely claim to contain 100% silicone, so buyer beware. Play it safe and get a toy from any of these companies that manufacture their toys with pure silicone:

If you’re looking for a waterproof, rechargeable silicone toy with eco-friendly packaging and designs inspired by nature, check out Leaf Vibes by Swan.


eco friendly sex toys
Seduction from Nobessence

Often handmade, wooden sex toys are often loved with their unique shapes and textures, artful designs, and lightweight feel. Toys made from trees harvested from responsibility managed forests make them a top pick for an eco-friendly sex toy. While wood is indeed a porous material, it can be made completely body safe (and splinter free!) with the right coating/sealant. There are several makers of wood toys, many of whom reside on Etsy, but as of now your best bet is to go with a toy from NobEssence. Not only are their wood dildos and butt plugs beautifully made, but the trees that they use are sustainably harvested, and the finish used on the wood has held up to plenty of scrutiny by my fellow sex bloggers. If you want to try toy that’s not from NobEssence, you can try to find something from the now defunct company Penetralia.


eco friendly sex toys
G-Spoon from Fucking Sculptures

Glass toys are renowned for their weight, smoothness, and beauty. Like wood toys, they’re often handmade, and can be considered unique works of art. They’re likely to last as long as your grandma’s heirloom crystal vase, and even if they do break, they’re totally recyclable, making them a great choice for green masturbation. Some of the best brands of glass dildos and plugs:


Crystal Delights also has a line of butt plugs with both faux and real fur tails. The real tails come from parts of the animal that would otherwise be thrown away as waste, so depending on your ethics, you might find this an acceptable addition to your sex toy collection. Crystal Delights also donates a portion of profits from their tail plugs to animal charities.


pure wand
Pure Wand from njoy

Much like glass toys, stainless steel is heavy and smooth, not to mention easy to clean and likely to last you a lifetime. The most reputable maker of steel dildos and plugs is njoy, whose Pure Wand and Pure Plugs I covet intensely.

There’s tons of options out there for vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs that won’t have a negative impact on our environment. As always, do your research, be safe, and have fun! Celebrate Earth Day 2015 by bringing home an eco-friendly sex toy an answering the call of nature the way that nature didn’t necessarily intend for you to do.

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Sex Toys for the Holidays

Now that we’re in the midst of the Holiday season of 2014, we’re all scrambling to find the perfect gift for our special someone, or even just a treat for ourselves! Kids aren’t the only people who look forward to finding toys under the tree, so I visited Philadelphia’s Kink Shoppe, a sex positive and gender neutral adult toy and fetish boutique and spoke to Caitlin, a sex educator and customer service representative. She gave me a ton of information about how to go about buying sex toys for your significant other, and had dozens of great gift ideas!

“When it comes to purchasing something for a partner, a lot of people either tend to think about what they want to see their partner using or what they think their partner would like, and if they haven’t had a lot of experience using toys with their partner, that can often backfire. So they might buy something and say, ‘You know, I bought this dildo because it looks like me.’ It can sometimes not be what they want. Usually I’ll tell people that if you don’t have a lot of experience using toys with your partner to think about what they like or ask them what they like and what they want. In terms of buying things for yourself, it’s the same thing. Think about sensations you like. It’s good to experiment with your body and feel around.”

Caitlin also recommends taking into consideration what materials are in your sex toys so as to avoid risk of injury or disease. “Toxins in sex toys are becoming less of a problem now. I know that a lot of toys now use less pthalates, which is a really toxic material that softens plastic and can cause irritation and can possibly lead to problems with your endocrine system. But there’s still toxic materials and porous materials in general; jelly, elastomer, TPR, things like that are still going to degrade over time and get certain bacteria trapped in them. They could potentially transmit an STI or a bacterial or vaginal yeast infection. So generally I tell people that it’s better to keep with non porous materials like silicon, glass, metal, stone, ABS Hard plastic, ceramics, and treated wood.”

We-vibe touch sex toy
We-vibe touch

Keeping in mind the who, what, where, when, why, and how in mind, I asked Caitlin what sex toys would be good for anyone to gift to a female partner, especially someone who has never used sex toys before. She recommends, you guessed it, vibrators! “A lot of women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation, and vibrations are really good for that.” She showed me We Vibe’s Tango and Touch vibrators, two cute-as-a-button Bullet style vibes. The Tango is a hard-plastic bullet that can also fit into toys with bullet sleeves, including We Vibe’s own Pleasure Mates collection, making the versatile Tango perfect for whatever mood strikes you and your lady. The Touch is wider and covered in silicon, thereby giving We Vibe’s powerful motor a softer transmission of sensation.

lelo mona 2 sex toy
LELO Mona 2

If you’re looking for a vibrating toy that can be used either internally or externally, Caitlin points towards the strong and waterproof Lelo Mona 2, whose powerful vibrations will hit both the g-spot and clitoris.

we-vibe sex toys
We-Vibe couples vibrator


What about toys that you and your lady can use together? “Any toy is a couple’s toy,” said Caitlin, “but a toy made specifically as a [straight] couple’s toy would be the We-Vibe, which is a c-shaped vibrator that can be worn during penetrative sex and vibrates against the clitoris and g-spot.” Not going to lie, the We-Vibe is my current dream toy. However, Caitlin does caution that the We-Vibe “doesn’t work for everyone. It might not sync up with everyone’s anatomy, and not everyone likes how it feels, but that’s any toy. There’s no guarantee that somebody’s going to like it.”

tantus c-sling sex toys
Tantus C-Sling

We then talked about a couple’s toy that I have a little more experience with: cock rings! These guys can give those of you with penises a harder, more sustained erection and you can wear it while your partner present or while you’re having some alone time. In terms of non-vibrating rings, Caitlin recommends the Tantus Super Stretch C-Ring, a stretchy silicone ring that is super inexpensive at about $10. You can also try the Tantus C-Sling, made with a firmer silicon than the C-Ring. This guy has a teardrop shaped base that will stimulate your perineum (taint, grundle, gooch, fleshy fun bridge, etc.) for added orgasmic possibilities!

Jejoue Mio
Jejoue Mio

Vibrating cock rings have gotten me into trouble in the past; whenever I put them on my boo’s cock and turn it on, the ring’s goofy space-age look and the loud vibrations make me think that his dick is a rocket ship, sending me into a fit of giggles. I don’t think that I would have that problem with the elegantly designed and whisper quiet Jejoue Mio. According to Caitlin, “It’s silicon, waterproof, rechargeable, has a really stretchy ring, and it’s really strong. It’s top of the line because it’s more comfortable than other rechargeable cock rings that I’ve seen on the market.”

Tenga Eggs
Tenga Egg collection

If you’re looking for a stocking stuffer that takes its name seriously seriously, give your guy Tenga’s Egg or Cup! These Japanese masturbation sleeves with keep your penis-owning SO happy while you’re away. The Egg can be washed out and used a few times, while the pre-lubricated Cup is for a single use. These are especially great for a guy who isn’t ready to commit to a more serious sleeve. “The cups would be a good one to start out with because they’re similar to the bigger ones like the Tenga Flip Hole… which opens up so that you can clean it out.”

Tantus C-Sling
Tantus C-Sling

It’s your time to shine, lesbians! “Some lesbians like penetrative toys, others don’t. If you do, I would recommend a strap on harness of some sort.” Caitlin showed me the SpareParts Hardwear harness, which is super adjustable and machine washable, as well as a simple O’Ring Harness which allows you to change the size of the ring and work with whatever size cock you want. From there, you have lots of different options for what cock you like; there’s the super realistic VixSkin line from Vixen Creations, or you can get a totally bonkers fantasy cock from Bad Dragon. Personally, I’m head over heels in love with the beyond cute and friendly looking dildos from BS Atelier.

Vixen Creations VixSkin Line
Vixen Creations VixSkin Line
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If someone in your relationship is a transman looking for a really realistic toy, Caitlin again points toward the VixSkin line from Vixen Creations. “They’re super realistic in terms of texture and look, and they come in a few different skin tones. And not necessarily for sex, but New York Toy Collective makes really nice packers.” Caitlin also showed me New York Toy Collective’s Love Bump, which adds balls to your dildo and includes a bullet vibe. As for transwomen, “It really depends on the person. Any trans person is going to have very varying preferences, and some trans ladies might prefer not to be penetrated. It depends where they are in their transition.”

Tantus Beginner Ball Gag sex toys
Tantus Beginner Ball Gag

If you and your partner are interested in exploring kink and BDSM, Caitlin and I both suggest that you learn about safety first, be it through books, films, whatever. Check out Tristan Taormino’s Guide To Bondage For Couples, Midori’s Expert Guide To Sensual Bondage, and Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples. Once you know what you’re getting yourself into, try Tantus’ Beginner Ball Gag. “It’s silicon and it fills your mouth, but it has a small base so it doesn’t prop your jaw open too much, which can be uncomfortable.”

njoy pure plugs
nJoy Pure Plugs

If you want something to put in your butt, check out NJoy’s Pure Plugs and Pfun Plug for the male g-spot. They’re made of weighty surgical stainless steel, with a deliciously bulbous head and a tapered stem for easy retention. Not only that, they’re just gorgeous and super sexy looking.

All of these toys (and many more!) are available at Kink Shoppe in Philadelphia, or at your own locally owned adult store. All of us at HMFH wish you the merriest of sex lives as you head into the new year!

* is one of our favorite sex toy review sites, run by veteran sex toy reviewer Epiphora. We also encourage you to read her awesome holiday sex toy guide from 2013 here.

May is National Masturbation Month

To celebrate Masturbation Month, Sssh and The Screaming O have teamed up to observe National Masturbation Month with a giveaway of Screaming O Bullet Vibes for the first 250 lucky new members who sign up during the month of May.



By Fiona Wilde.  

It’s National Masturbation Month, and depending on your viewpoint this is an idea that is either a stroke of genius or rubs you the wrong way.

I personally think it’s brilliant, because Costco sells batteries in bulk and some nights it feels just plain wrong to neglect the imaginary affair I’m having with Benedict Cumberbatch to fuck a real person.

Of course not everyone agrees with my positive view of being touchy-feely with one’s naughty bits. A month devoted to masturbation has caused much hand-wringing among conservative types, which is a damn shame because if they just moved those wringing hands between their legs they’d finally understand what all the fuss is about.

But that’s unlikely to happen, and maybe they are seriously concerned about where masturbation can lead. Blindness, madness, hairy palms, acne and reduced sperm count are among the things the religious types warn about. They don’t mention carpal tunnels syndrome, so I’m throwing that in there.

But it’s not even the physical risks that are the anti-wanking crowd finds most egregious. It’s the spiritual risks. According to one Christian website, the danger isn’t so much in the stroking and probing, but what’s behind it. Apparently, jacking off or petting your kitty is probably OK if you’re thinking about your spouse. It’s only a sin if you’re thinking about someone else.

Of course, this means I’m going to hell. But on the upside I’ll be able to get PeeWee Herman’s autograph. And I’ll be able to meet William Blakely, the Tennessee guy who was in the news last month for masturbating out of his car window while driving 90 mph. And the best part? Blakely was reported to have had his penis out the window while doing this. Now I don’t know how men are built in Tennessee, but I do know if a guy can get his dick out of a car window while keeping his foot on the gas that’s worth seeing, even if it means risking a high speed load to the face as he whizzes by.

If this behavior keeps up by men, here is one possible result shown in a French parody short film….

A few months back I wrote a column on Mormons, a group that’s pretty freaked out by masturbation no matter who you’re thinking about. One of their pamphlets recommends taking a Bible or Book of Mormon to bed and holding it really, really tight if you feel the urge to masturbate. Other handy tips included exercising and hanging around with other people in denial about their sexual frustrations.

Another tip I read today suggests thinking unsexy thoughts. So I’m going to try it – live – right now as I write. First I’m going to think of a guy I really want to fuck.

OK. And now I’m thinking unsexy thoughts.

Clowns, math, Ayn Rand, that time I broke my leg, snow peas, parallel parking, cankles, NASCAR…

Nope. Not working.

Apparently more extreme measures are required, and online I perfectly found awful pictures of chastity belts and penile devices that I will not share with you because, frankly, they’re just depressing.

Maybe I’ll just have a box of Graham crackers. It’s a little known fact that the inventor Sylvester Graham was of the opinion that a bland diet would curb lustful thoughts. And so he created a cracker made just for that purpose. But judging by the success of S’Mores and the popularity of fucking around campfires, he called that one all wrong.

Bottom line: Sex is healthy, whether it’s with yourself, yourself and your imaginary friend or yourself and someone else. Hell, throw in your imaginary friend and you can finally have that three-way you always wanted.

If that’s not a reason to celebrate I don’t know what is.

Happy Masturbation Month, everybody!

Non-Sexual uses for a Vibrator

I recently found this article about a vocal teacher at a college who uses vibrators on his student’s necks to massage their vocal cords (sounds way dirtier then I imagine it is). This article piqued my interest in what other uses there could be for our favorite toys.

I searched and searched and only found one other non-sexual use for a vibrator – Breastfeeding mothers can use a vibrator to break up clogged milk ducts (wish I knew this 2 years ago!).

I know there have got to be some other uses that our creative readers have found, so please share your non-sexual uses in the comments.

HotMovies4Her Holiday Tips – Smutty Shopping Suggestions

Whether you are following religious traditions or celebrating the solstice, this time of year is usually one for exchanging gifts.  For some of us this means giving gifts to the ones we love… like LOVE love.  And by “gifts,” I mean pervy presents that are perfect for stuffing their stockings, if you know what I mean…  But while naughty gifting is fun, it can also be stressful.  Here are 4 tips to help you on your smutty shopping adventure!

1.  Instead of blindly picking a toy or getting a gift certificate, why not make the gift a whole event?  Surprise your partner with a trip to the sex toy store and pick out toy together.  If your town doesn’t have it’s own quality toy shop, either make an event of shopping together online, or head to a city that does.  Post shopping hotel sex would most likely be suuuuuper hot!

2. If you are set on picking out a toy for your loved one, think about what kinds of stimulation they enjoy.  If you know they are hot for G-spot action, maybe go for a G-spot specific toy, or if you know your lover looooooves to be roughed up (consensually, of course), head to the kinky section of the shop.  When it comes to picking dildos and internal vibes, think about the length and width they currently prefer.  One finger? Three? A massive butt plug?  You can always ask a trainer professional working there to help you size a toy based on the amount of fingers you hold up.

3.  If you are on a budget this holiday season (and really, who isn’t?), don’t forget that sexy toys don’t to actually be sex toys.  Head over to the dollar store for a few inexpensive items that can double as erotic enhancements.  See that ruler over there?  That, my friend, is a perfect spanking tool.  Or those pens with little feathers on the cap? A tickler!  Just be careful of rough seams on plastic things and be wary of anything you are sticking inside you (some things can just have a condom stuck on them and are good to go, and some are not – use common sense!).  While you may think you are just being cheap, your partner may see you as the inventive and thoughtful person you are.

4. Never EVER underestimate the power of a good pampering.  Be it performed by you or by a professional, a decadent massage or similar activity with no expected reciprocation  makes for a greatly appreciated gift.  The bonus here is that you never know how turned on a deeply relaxed person may get…

Enjoy shopping!


HotMovies4Her Tips: Sex In The Shower

Shower sex can take many directions.  It can be hot and intimate, cold (literally) and awkward, dangerous, or any number of descriptive words.  Some folks snarl at the idea while other can’t wait to drop their underpants and hop in for a wet romp.  Either way, we have some suggestions that will make getting dirty way more fun than getting clean in the washroom… a little safer too!  We reached out to our pals on Twitter and they gave us 2 out of our 4 tips.  Thanks, @FascinationsFun (#1) and @SophieDelancey (#2)!

1. Make sure you have something to hold on to.  Safety first!  Before you go thrusting HotMovies4Her Sex Tipsabout, be sure you have something to latch on to.  Some companies make suction cup handles that work pretty well.  While you can’t pull on them with all of you might, they do add some security and leverage.  Whatever it is, be it a towel wrack or hand rail, be sure to test it first!

2. Don’t get soap on your sensitive spots!  Soap, body wash, shampoo, etc. are not meant to be used as lube.  If these products are used as such, things can get pretty uncomfortable (read: sting like a motherfucker).  Rinse before you play!  If you need lube in the shower, go with a silicone based lubricant (as long as you’re not using silicone toys).  It stays viscus whereas water based lube will wash right away.  Be careful here!  If lube drips to the floor, things can get slippery in all the wrong places.  A slip-and-fall is not sexy! This is one of the few times I’ll tell you to be cautious about the amount of lube you use.

3. Don’t hog the water.  Keep your bodies close and adjust the shower head so you are encased in a nice warm liquid cocoon.  This will take some experimenting, but it will be worth it.  It just isn’t right to leave on person to shiver just outside of the cozy warm water cone.  Being too cold or too hot can be a huge turn-off to say the least.

4. Waterproof toys are awesome.  They are made to get thrown into the shower-sex mix.  Again, if you’re using silicone lube you don’t get to play with silicone toys.  However, a waterpoof bullet vibe makes for a nice third party without taking up too much room.  Also, the shower is a great place to use dildos with suction cup bases. What’s not to love about a hands-free dildo session?  You can get kinky with restraints that are made especially for getting wet.

HotMovies4Her Tips: Heading Home For The Holidays

As of this week, we are officially entering Holiday Season 2012.  Welcome!  Along with great food and lots of cheer, for many of us the holiday season means heading back to our hometown and spending time with our family of origin (you know, the ones we were born into; not the friends we consider family).  And for some, this involves either bringing our partner into the fray, or heading to visit our partner’s family.  Whether it’s the first time or a repeat holiday performance, there is always questions of how to get hot and heavy when home for the holidays.  Here are four tips for keeping things fun while visiting family.

1) Twin beds.  While most of your families have probably gotten rid of the twin bed from your younger years, some are still rocking the solo sleep situations, complete with your old My Little Pony sheets ( of in my case NKOTB sheets).  While you may be sleeping in different locations, there is something extra dirty about sneaking around and trying to get frisky on a twin bed.  You have to squeeze in extra tight and try to get sexy without falling off the side.  Think of it as an adventure.

2) Use your indoor voices. If you are allowed to shack up in the same bedroom during your visit, you still need to remember that you are among family and that even the tiniest bit of sexy sounds coming from your bedroom is way too much for the other folks in the house.  Honestly, nobody’s parents want to hear them getting busy, so for the sake of everyone else – be quiet!  Turn it into a game to see who can be the quietest and bring things up a notch by trying your best to make each other moan.  And if you can’t keep the noise to a minimum, borrow the car and go make out in a deserted parking lot or something.

3) Speaking of keeping things quiet, this holds true for your sex toys as well.  A trip back home is not really the best time to decide that your Hitachi Magic Wand needs to travel.  Take a look at vibrator reviews to see which ones are the quietest and stick with them.  Two other options are turning on the radio to drown out your buzzing, or taking advantage of your quietest, cheapest, most discreet sex toy – your hand.

4) I mentioned this in our summertime travel guide, but I thought it important to talk about a second time: Bigot Revenge Sex.  Here is a little blurb to explain:  Some families are not very accepting of their relative’s lifestyles and while they are very nice to their faces, are not happy about the partners that they bring home.  For example, a gay couple, or a child that is transitioning gender and brings home their partner, or an interracial couple.  In that instance, I like to enact something called “Bigot Revenge Sex.”  Yep, it’s just like what it sounds – you may be a total bigot that doesn’t approve of our queer relationship, and that’s your business, but we are still gonna fuck allllll over your guestroom.  Especially in front of those pictures of you happily smiling into the camera.  Sure, you may not know about it, but it feels like a protest and a tiny victory to us!

Happy Holidays!  Enjoy your Thanksgiving!

HotMovies4Her Sex Tips – Getting Hot At The Halloween Shop

While there may be Christmas decorations already on sale at your local Target, we are actually only at October 22nd, which means that Halloween is still a little more than a week away!  And though it’s not official, Halloween has become a holiday that gives folks permission to let their sexiest selves out for the evening.  Just look at all the racy costumes that are on the racks!

Since sultry is quickly moving right up the next to spooky on the list of adjectives for this haunting holiday, I thought it would be best to offer up four tips on how to use the costume shop to get your sexy on, for all 365 dirty days of the year!

1.  Find some fantastic role playing paraphernalia!  The Halloween shop is perfect for finding fairly inexpensive costumes for all of your dirty fantasy play.  Don’t know what kind of action you are into?  Bring your partner to the store with you and try on a bunch of different outfits to find which ones get your blood pumping.  If you are planning it to be a surprise, pick the costumes that make you feel the sexiest – because the sexier you feel, the more confident you will be, and confidence is hot no matter what you are wearing!  For the best deals, wait for November 1st to get the costumes on the deepest discounts.  The selection may not be as great, but you may take a chance on something you’ve never imagined with the steep savings.

2. If you find the costumes to be a little too cost prohibitive, spend a little time looking at accessories.  Even a few cheap props can make the experience so much more fun.  Have a policewoman fantasy?  Grab a cheap pair of cuffs and a badge, and throw on some blue panties and a bra you already have.  Done!  Also, use the prepared costumes to get ideas for creating your own sexytime duds.  All you need is a short plaid skirt and a button down shirt to become a naughty school girl – there’s no need to purchase a costume shop version.

3.  When it comes to that policewoman fantasy, those handcuffs can be a blast, but be warned that the accessories you buy at the costume store are that – costumes.  They are not quality sex implements that are made for getting down and dirty.  Sure, your partner’s hands will stay in one place, but they may cut or scrape their arms or be uncomfortable.  The same goes for the “Indiana Jones” bullwhips you find at the costume shop.  They are not the high quality kinky toys you will find at the sex toy store and using them could result in unwanted (and non-consensual) injuries.  If you really want to get down and dirty with these types of toys, get the real versions wherever kink toys are sold near you.

4. Now, a warning – nothing will look super sexy while trying it on under florescent lights in a dressing room.  It doesn’t matter if you are trying on the hottest costume in the store, the result will be the same.  So keep an open mind and take the reflection in the mirror with a grain of salt.  Remember that your room will have way better lighting and you will be too hot and bothered to be worried if the pirate wench’s sash sits the same way it does in the picture on the costume.

And one last tip:  Be sure to have fun!  This is a chance to think outside your personal pervy boxes and do something totally unexpected.  Go, get your dirty on and enjoy!

-JD Bauchery


HotMovies4Her Sex Tips – Incorporating Sexy Sensory Deprivation

HotMovies4Her Sex TipsThink about the last time you had sex.  I bet your partner had a particular smell.  Or their skin tasted a specific way.  Or maybe they moaned just the way that they do?  While you may not think about any of those things while you are in the throes of passion, it’s just true that each of the five senses play a big part in creating a sexy experience.  For those of you that skipped kindergarten, or just need a refresher, the five senses are as follows: see, smell, touch, taste and hear.  They all work together to offer us a complete picture of the hotness that we are enjoying.

There are many ways to play with your five senses when it comes to sex, but today we are here to talk about using your senses in a very specific way – by depriving your body of those senses, either one or more at a time.  By now I’m sure you’ve heard of the phenomenon that if one of the senses is taken away in the body, the rest will heighten to make up for the deficient.  This has been documented in folks that have impairments in their senses (ie. people with vision impairment having a sharper sense of hearing and smell), but what about if we take those senses away purposely… in a sexy situation?  Well, here are 4 ways to incorporate sensory deprivation into your sex play to help enhance your other senses.

1)      Take away sight.  As with the example above, taking sight out of the equation can boost the other senses.  Think about how much of arousal is visual – the ways we get turned on by our lover’s body, the anticipation of seeing their mouth move close to our nipples, etc.  Without those visual clues, we must rely on the other senses to figure out what is happening.  A blindfold is a great tool for playing with the sense of sight, be it a fancy blindfold from the sex shop, a sleep mask, or even a silky scarf or necktie knotted gently around a lover’s head.  Just be sure nothing is too tight around their head or pressing too hard on their eyes.


2)      Silence the Sound.  Using a set of earmuffs or headphones is a great way to deprive your partner of their sense of hearing.  You can either go totally quiet, or put music on the headphones to create a totally different experience for your lover.  Taking away the sense of sound can sometimes take a person out of their reference for the sounds they make themselves – causing them to be louder or softer than usual.  They also aren’t able to hear the sounds you are making, which can be an exciting way to have them experience your pleasure by touch and sight alone.


3)      Remove the movement.  Another great way to incorporate sensation play is to take the sense of touch off your partner’s plate.  By that, I mean restraining a part of their body, like their hands, so they are unable to use those parts during your play session.  Be very careful when restraining anyone in any way.  Make sure you have a safe word that will mean stop all play and untie them.  To restrain someone, you can use many different materials, including rope (the kind that will not scratch your partner), silky scarves, neckties, handcuffs – but be totally sure that nothing is tied too tightly or that it will be difficult to remove quickly if needed.  It may even be smart to keep a pair of medical scissors near the bed to cut the rope of scarves in case they need to be removed immediately.  I do not suggest beginning with handcuffs.


4)      Quiet please.  If it’s taste and talking you are looking to stifle, there are many options, including ball gags, panties in the mouth, scarves, etc.  Just as with the other mentions of deprivation, be careful with this one, making sure to have safe words in signal form, since they are unable to speak.  Also be very certain that their breathing is not being interfered with, and never, ever leave a person that is both bound and gagged alone for any time at all – it’s an extremely dangerous practice.  Taking away taste and speech is a delicious way of having your partner rely on their other senses and have to find alternative ways to get their messages across, which can be quite a thrill.

Have fun and be safe!