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In yesterday’s Link Love,  I linked out to The Femme’s Guide To Absolutely Everything, who is doing a survey on Size & Sexuality, which I think is awesome.  As a zaftig chick myself, I know the taboo that surrounds talking about size all too well, especially when it comes to sex, and I am excited that someone is taking it on to get people talking. 

Because it was in the forefront of my mind from yesterday, I was pleasantly surprised when I clicked on The Frisky this morning and found a post about fat gals lovin’ sex.  (note: The word fat is not offensive to me.  I know it is for some people, but I’ve appropriated the term to reclaim it as an identity and a word that can no longer insult me.)  But as I read the post, which is about a new article in The Sun, I started getting pissed, and The Frisky was just as appalled as I was.  This article in The Sun, The Big Girl’s Guide To Sex, started out well enough, talking about bigger women needing to embrace self-confidence and body love to really enjoy themselves in the sack.  I am all for that, but as the article started giving specific suggestions on how to fuck as a fat chick, it all went to rubbish, only talking about how to look thinner for your partner and how to cover up your “odd lumps and bumps.”  

Wow.  That article can fuck off.  Yes, I agree that there is a segment of readers that want that kind of advice, but if you are trying to give a guide for big girls having sex, telling them how to look thinner is really missing the mark.  Suggestions that might ACTUALLY help them makes way more sense.  Like explaining that certain positions, like doggystyle, can make penetration easier and deeper if you or your partner’s belly makes forward facing positions difficult.  See?  That information is useful.  “Stand with the light behind you when giving him a show of your naked bod. It will instantly shave off a couple of inches from your body.” – is not.

I know I’ve already talked about this subject, but that post totally pushed me back on the soapbox.

Ok, rant over… let’s get to the porn!

xoxo-
J.D. Bauchery

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