Sex Tips

We think that this year’s New Year’s resolutions should be looked forward to.  Instead of making your plans totally dreadable, why not make them fun?  Instead, use the New Year to broaden your sexual horizons.

1) Sex Toys: Introduce sex toys into your sex life. Already have one in your drawer? Go outside of your comfort zone with a different style. If you always depends on your trusty little bullet vibe, perhaps it’s time to give a wand or rabbit a try! You can also use your vibes to stimulate different parts of the body. Buzziness feels great on your clit, but what about your entire vulva, nipples, back, thighs, feet… the list could go on!

2) Temperature Play: We often forget the just adding heat or cold to any sexy time routing can really change things up and stimulate in different ways. Need ideas? Start simple. Grab an ice cube and let your imagination run wild. Dip a glass dildo in cold or warm water enjoy the reactions when you use it. There are also tons of warming lubes and massage oils that are just plain awesome (look for glycerin and praben free formulas).

3) Go somewhere new. Do you always bang in the bedroom? Why not take to the couch, kitchen, bathroom or hallway? Changing up the space in which you get it on can make it feel new again. It adds an element of spontaneity that always makes sex awesome. I can’t officially encourage anything that might get you arrested or injured, but doing in the car or anywhere out and about adds an element of risk that makes everything feel better!

4) Kink. If you’re just starting out, go with something easy. Grab a blindfold. A sash to tie your lovers hands together. Have you already graduated beyond that? Break out the cuffs and the restraints. Perhaps a riding crop is in order. If that still sounds a bit ho hum, maybe it’s time to get a flogger, paddle or the electrosex toys.

Enjoy and have the dirtiest New Year ever!

Love,

Ginger

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Hello and welcome to the first edition of HotMovies4Her Tips!  This is where we give you 4 quick bits of advice on a given subject related to sex in some way, shape or form.  Aren’t we clever?  We are pretty excited to inject some fun yet educational info into our weekly routine and we hope you are too.  Feel free to leave a comment and let us know if there are any particular subjects that you could use a little insight on.

Today, I am giving you 4 Reasons To Masturbate!

1) Relieves Stress: Masturbating is a good opportunity to get in on some you time.  You get to focus on your needs alone, which is something most of us don’t do enough of.  Also, all sorts of things starts to fire off when playing with your bits – dopamine gets released for that sense of pleasure and the endorphins give you that feeling that everything is right in the world. Orgasms are not required, but they do release Oxytocin which gives you that warm fuzzy feeling.

2) Sleep Aid: Masturbating is a great way to stop tossing and turning at night.  Releasing all of those endorphins during the act takes a lot of energy and afterwards you peacefully drift off to dream land.

3) Improves your partnered sex life: What better way to learn about your likes and dislikes than experimenting on your own?  Spending some time with yourself will help you better communicate to your partner the things that you want in the bedroom.  You might even discover a thing or 2 that you’d like to perform on them.

4) It’s fun: Masturbating doesn’t have to be all about the business at hand.  Playing with yourself just feels good and there is nothing wrong with just getting off for the hell of it.

We hope you enjoyed our first ever official HotMovies4Her Tips post.  Check back next Monday to see what sex info we’ll have waiting for you.

Love,
Ginger

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It’s that time of year ago, when all of us are scrambling to the costume store in search of the perfect Halloween get up.   While the costume store is, of course, just the place to find something for all of the parties you’ve been invited to this month, you know what else the Halloween store is perfect for?  Finding great costumes and accessories to incorporate into your sex life.  That’s right, folks, I’m talking about role playing!

Now that sexy costumes have really become the norm for Halloween, there are an abundance of skimpy character frocks in the shops – definitely way bigger of a selection than your average naughty lingerie or sex toy store’s year-round picks.  Here are a few great tips to send you on your way into the costume shop with confidence and sex on the brain!

- Don’t forget the accessories.  Even if the full costumes are a little too heavy on the wallet, you can always pick up a few identifying details and use what you already have for the rest.  Have a police woman fantasy?  Grab a pair of handcuffs and a hat at the store, then just toss on some blue clothes you have at home. Done and done.

- Speaking of handcuffs, be very careful using the accessories you get at the Halloween store as  sex toys.  Sure, the handcuffs will keep your partner’s hands in one place, but they are not really intended for play and may cut or scrape their wrists or be uncomfortable.  Same thing goes for those “Indiana Jones” bull whips that the costume shop sells.  They are not the same thing as the whips sold at sex toy shops, and using them can result in injury and all sorts of other bad things.  If you are interested in playing with these toys for real, definitely check in with a reputable sex toy store (online or locally) and get the goods that are intended to get rough with! Read the rest of this entry »

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We talk about porn a lot here on HotMoviesForHer.  I guess that’s pretty par for the course when you peddle dirty movies, but what I mean by that is that we spend a lot of time talking about the actual movies and their delicious stars, and don’t chat too much about how to incorporate porno into your real life love practices!  So, while this particular post is inspired by the impending lurve holiday, these ideas and tips that can be used whenever!

When it comes to setting the mood for sexy action, porn can be a great way to get the juices flowing, so to speak.  It’s easy to get all hot and bothered when folks on screen start shedding their clothes and touching up on each other – especially when they start moaning (my personal favorite).  Remember that the brain is your biggest sex organ, and plugging all those delectable visuals directly into that sexy organ is sure to get you and your partner thinking dirty thoughts.

Porn can also be a great communication tool.  It can be difficult talking about sex – even with a partner you love, and porn can sometimes help ease those conversation.  Have a budding curiosity about spanking, but not sure how to bring it up to your partner?  Try turning on a porno featuring some spanking and comment on how sexy you find the action.  Talking about your interest while watching the racy visuals can help get even the most skeptical of partners hot and ready to give it a go.

On that note, dirty movies are also a really great place to get ideas on different ways to get it on.  And I’m not just talking about instructional porn, though there are so many super hot instructionals out there.  Any porn can be an awesome source of  information and ideas – from positions and styles, to dirty talk and role playing scenarios.  Open your mind and let your imagination wander as you watch the movie, or why not play along while the movies goes.  Nothing beats a little porno karaoke!

Just be sure to find something that appeals to both of you.  While that may be a tricky venture, it will ultimately lead to more communication and an evening that you both really enjoy!  There are plenty of movies that offer the perfect mix of hardcore and softcore, if that’s your poison.  And so many movies where everyone is having a super hot and fun time.  Basically – if you can think it, we probably have a dozen flicks to get you off!  And don’t forgot to keep an open mind… maybe you’ll find something you never knew you were looking for!

And now a few tips to physically bring the porno to your own personal party.

- Buy minutes on HM4Her (or a DVD, though HM4Her is way better) and send your sweetie a picture or screen cap with the caption “just wait until later…”

- Including a free minutes card inside your Valentine card.

- Let the process of choosing a movie be part of the whole sexy experiences.

- Have the movie up and ready to go so you can just hit play while you are getting your game on.

Alright, go get ‘em, Tiger!  Enjoy Valentine’s Day and bringing porn into your sex life the other 364 days of the year!

xoxo
-J.D.

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Happy New Year!  Today we are four days into January and officially jumping headfirst into 2011. Now that you’ve had a few days to think things over, it’s time to really hunker down and take resolution writing seriously.  When it comes to listing all of the good intentions we have for the year, every magazine, TV show, website, distant relative, whatever/whoever gives their picks of what they think are the best ways to “better yourself” in the upcoming year. While most of these New Year’s resolutions make sense in a “bettering” context, according to research, only a slim margin of folks successfully achieve their resolutions.  That means whole bunches of other people are left feeling like they suck.  No, ma’am, that’s not gonna fly with us!

In the spirit of sex positivity and welcoming in 2011, we’ve decided to switch things up a bit and redefine the most popular resolutions to make them a little more exciting, as well as offer up a few  tips on how to actually make them stick!  And who would we be if we didn’t make sure they focused on all things sexy and fun?!  So sit back, give a read and take it all to heart, because who has ever said they had a lousy year because of all the great sex they’ve been having? Read the rest of this entry »

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While I’ll admit I do have a place in my heart for super fruity Sex On The Beach cocktails, I can’t say I feel the same way about the actual sexy act of screwing in the sand.  In fact, I pretty much have a strong aversion to any sex where unwelcome hangers on follow the pleasure train anywhere near my vag, and unfortunately, that’s what summertime outdoor sexin’ is to me.

I know, I know, getting’ busy in the great outdoors sounds like a fabulous idea.  And yes, in theory it is an awesome idea, but in practice there are some major logistical obstacles to navigate.  It may seem like I am being a Debby Downer, but try to think of me more as a Realistic Rhonda that wants to give you all the info before you end up with bug bites the size of silver dollars all over your bare bottom.

Luckily in the last few years we at HM4Her have written up some super helpful tips for getting through the summer with as few causalities as possible.  Check out our sage advice from summers past.

The Motion of the Ocean

Sex and water are one hot duo. Not only do you get that thrill of exhibitionism if you are in a public place (though try to keep it out of kid heavy areas, oh and um… it’s kinda illegal), you get to try out all sorts of new and exciting positions while you float nearly weightlessly through the water. Not too mention easy access through bikini bottoms and pulling the trunks down a bit! Tee Hee!

There is a little snafu though. It’s not the water that’s the problem, it’s what’s IN the water that makes for a questionable situation. Water than contains chlorine, salt, or bacteria can all pose risk of infection or irritation when it’s forced into the vagina during penetration and thrusting. That basically means all pools, lakes, oceans, rivers and Jacuzzis can mean risky business for getting down and dirty… um, literally.
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Happy Earth Day everyone!  It’s that one special day of the year when folks are called upon to really look at how they treat the environment around them and asked to make changes to help keep this beautiful planet in good health for generations to come.  And one of the sexiest ways to love the Earth is to get busy green-style!

That’s right – greening up your sex life is an awesome way to help clean up the environment- and bring a little extra dirty into your own bedroom.  Here are a few helpful tips to make your Earth Day super hot – you know, to keep those glaciers cold!

- Turn off the lights!  Yes, screwing in a well-lit room can be totally hot, but why not switch it up a bit and switch that flip!  Getting frisky in the dark can not only add an edge of mystery (where is that hand going!?!), it saves a bunch of energy.  Up the ante with a little romantic moonlight for a totally natural night in the sack. Read the rest of this entry »

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Happy Holidays! Ah, the holidays. It’s that magical time when the world folds in for one giant hug and all there is peace, joy and happiness. And eggnog… can’t forget that. While holiday time means snuggling under the Christmas tree with your significant other for some people, other folks equate this time of year with waiting in long airport lines and forced family togetherness. It’s not that we don’t love our families, but let’s be real, family time and getting busy shouldn’t even be in the same sentence. And who wants to forgo getting off the entirety of the holiday vacation?!? To help you get through the holiday season unscathed and as little sexually frustrated as possible, I’m taking this opportunity to offer up some tips to keep your sane, sexy and satisfied this year. Really, it’s the gift that keeps on giving.

- Air travel is the bane of the holiday season. So many crowds and delayed flights… do you really want to make the experience any harder for yourself? Your best bet for traveling with sex toys is to stow them in your checked luggage. Especially large or phallic shaped toys. The last thing you need is some cranky security guard emptying out your bag to find the “suspiciously shaped item” (read: dildo) in your carry-on. Sure, they might open your checked bag just to double check that your rabbit is actually a vibrator, but at least it’s not in front of a line of wayward passengers.
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As I mentioned a couple of time in the last week, I facilitated a workshop on anal play for a local sex toy store.  Not only did the workshop go wonderfully, the people that attended had awesome questions to ask.  It was a great help to have questions asked to make sure that all their fears and needs were being met and discussed, but it also showed me how very much people want to know specifics about sex and have no way of getting the info unless they are given it.  Ok, sure, they can go online and look it up, but does that mean they will be getting accurate, non-judgemental sex information?  Not necessarily. 

So, thanks to all the awesome questions I recieved, I decided to offer up my workshop handout to HM4Her readers to make sure that you guys are getting the best of the best when it comes to sex education.  This info will be cut into two parts – there is a lot to learn and I want to make sure I have enough room to get it all out!

What what in the butt, let’s get to it and start at the bottom!

To begin, I thought it would be good to talk about why people have anal sex.  The simple reason: because it feels good!  Ok, sure it feels good, but there’s more than just that.  The butt is a totally overlooked orifice that is rich in nerve endings and lots of tissue that is just waiting to be stimulated and excited.  Because anal sex has such a taboo around it, the whole experience can feel naughtier and more risque, which can make it even hotter to some people.  Plus, it can take a lot of trust when it comes to a taboo experience, so some people consider anal sex to be more intimate and only want to it explore it with that extra special someone.  No matter how you view anal sex, it can be an exciting and pleasurable experience.  As anal sex expert Tristan Taormino says: an emotionally charged act + a super sensitive spot fill of nerve endings = amazing orgasms!  Can you go wrong with that? 

 Fears

Anal sex can be intimidating or scary to some people, especially if they’ve heard stereotypes or negative experiences from other people. 

Here is a list of a few stereotypes and fears that we came up with in the workshop:

- You can damage your butt and have to wear diapers.
- If you like anal sex and you are a guy, it means you’re gay.
- You might have to deal with poop.
- Anal sex hurts really bad and I always will.
- Your ass is only an exit.

With all the stigmas and stereotypes, no wonder so many people have so many hang ups about anal sex!  By the end of this Anal 101, I will adress all of these issues/stereotypes and try to put our fears to rest. 

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In recent years, we have started to really think about what we are doing to our planet and have started taking major steps to cut down on the huge amounts of waste we are accumulating and the destruction we’ve done to our environment. Today is Earth Day, a day which was created to help foster awareness and inspire action to help get ourselves on track and keep the Earth clean and healthy for our future generations. While recycling your trash, using cloth bags when you shop and flipping the light switch when you leave the room are all great ways to get green and very sexy in their own regard, we like to make sure you know how to be eco friendly and extra aware when you are getting sexy. Check out some of these tried and true green tips next time you find yourself in a red hot situation.

- Shower together to save water. Wasting water is not gonna cut it when it comes to being eco conscious, so why not cut down the wasted water with a shower together? To make sure you aren’t letting more go down the drain while you get frisky, get wet and lather each other up, then turn the water off. You’ll still be nice and slippery without wasting any water!

- Unplug yourself. You have better things to do than watch TV or go online and if you play your cards right, you probably won’t be needing the lights on either. Take advantage of the dark – it’s free, doesn’t use any energy and is totally sexy. And if it gets too hot, skip the fan/air conditioning; open a window instead.
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