Sex Tips

Welcome to Monday, folks.  I hope you all had a lovely weekend filled with rest, relaxation and lots of porno.  I am hear to ease you into the work week with a little shared masturbation advice.  #4 is simply just a good reason as to why you should share your masturbation time.  Regardless, I hope you enjoy. 

1. Watch and learn: Here is your chance to see your partner in action.  Watch their every move and see what gets them going.  You may discover a few things that will help you do an even better job of getting them off.  Do they favor one side of their clit?  Do they go for long slow thrusts or short quick g-spot stimulating movements when playing with a dildo?

2. Give a little demonstration: Verbal communication is awesome and definitely gets it done in the bedroom, but sometimes it’s easier done than said.  If verbalizing your preferences doesn’t come naturally to you, this is a good chance for you to simply show your boo what you like.

3. Direction: If you happen to be the opposite and love to chat and communicate, go ahead a give a little direction.  It is fun to take control and give explicit instructions on exactly what it is that you would like to see.  Your partner could very well enjoy acting out your every wish.

4. Remix: Like many things in the world of sex advice, shared masturbation is simply a good chance to change things up.  There is nothing wrong with prying yourselves from each others’ orifices and letting the voyeur or exhibitionist in you do it’s thing.  Watching and being watched can make things super intense and damn is it hot.

Love,

Ginger

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I don’t know about you, but it sure is cold here at the HotMovies4Her headquarters in Philadelphia.  There is ice everywhere and I just can’t seem to warm up.  No amount of hoodies, hats, scarves or gloves is ridding me of this chill that I feel all through me.  This has inspired my top four sex tips for today: Sexy Ways Warm Things Up.

Warming Lube: While I don’t necessarily recommend using this stuff for penetration, I like using it on the nipples and perhaps on the exterior of the genitals, or anywhere else you desire.  It creates a unique sensation and adds a surprising yet satisfying element of warmth (when you expect everything to be cold in the winter).  Some lubes get warmer when blown on or when friction occurs.  This creates a whole other set of fun activities!  As with all lubes, try and look for paraben and glycerin free formulas to avoid possible irritation.  Sliquid Sizzle is a good one!

Sex Toys You Can Heat Up: This is one that I myself need to explore more than I have.  If you have any glass, ceramic, stainless steel or even silicone toys, just dip them in a bowl of warm water for a minute or two and pull out a nice cozy heated toy.  These materials, except maybe silicone, are generally pretty cold on their own so warming them isn’t such a bad idea any time of the year.

Wax Play:  There is no question that dripping hot wax on your body will damn sure warm you up a bit!  If you’ve never ventured into such territory, there are few things you should know:  when you are first starting out, only use candles made especially for wax play.  This ensures it won’t be too hot.  Never use beeswax.  It will hurt!  Hold the candle far above the above the person you’re dripping on, this way the wax will be a bit cooler.  Avoid areas near the eyes and hair as wax tends to splash.  Always test a small amount on the skin to make sure all is well.  There is a lot more to this, but this is a good base layer of information to get you going!

Sex with Your Clothes On:  This is my favorite tip.  I think it is super hot to see what you can do while you’re completely clothed.  While it may seem prudish to some, I find it to be totally erotic.  Plus, it changes the game a bit.  You have to think creatively instead of going for your same old moves… And you stay warm.

Best of luck keeping warm this winter!

Love,
Ginger

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When it comes to buying sex toys, the sheer amount to choose from can be downright overwhelming.  Not only do you have types of toys to pick from (ie. vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, fetish gear, etc.), but each type comes in a variety of colors, shapes, sizes and, of course, materials.  It’s enough to make anyone close their eyes, grab the first thing their hand touches and head to the register.  Let HotMovies4Her ease those decision-making fears with a look into four of the most exciting sex toy materials.

Silicone:  In my humble opinion, silicone is the bees knees of sex toy materials.  Along with being just the right consistency to allow for a little give, this magical material is phthalate free*, hypo allergenic and totally body safe.  Being non-porous, it’s super easy to clean and sterilize (drop in boiling water for 3-5 mins, stick in the dishwasher – top shelf, no soap) or wipe with a 10% bleach solution), which means you can share it safely with others.  Silicone heats up to body temperature fast and is nearly indestructible – just be sure not to nick or cut it, and do not use it with silicone lube, as they will melt each other.

Metal:  If you are looking for heavy duty awesomeness, 100% medical grade stainless steel is the way to go.  Solid, weighty and smooth, this material will make you feel filled to capacity, and only require the smallest dollop of lube to get, and stay, super duper slick (and you can use any type of lube).  As well, stainless steel is perfect for temperature play, heating up and cooling down quickly (you can stick in a warm water bath to heat it up, and an ice water bath to cool it down).  Also phthalate free and totally body safe, and with no motors to die, meltable qualities or any other Kryptonite, these amazing toys will last you forever and ever.

Glass:  The perfect mix of form and function, glass toys are as strong and smooth as they are a sight to see.  You could perch these beautiful toys on the mantle just as easily as stuffing them in your orifice of choice.  And not to worry about the fragile factor – toys made of glass are shatterproof and will not smash into shards in your vag (or ass, or wherever you put it!)  And just like metal, glass cools down easily, heats up to the perfect temp quickly and only takes a dot of lube to keep it goin and going.  Also phthalate free and body safe!

Hard Plastic:  Just as with the other materials, hard plastic is non-porous and phthalate free, making it awesomely body safe, but unlike those other materials mentioned, hard plastic as one important quality worth mentioning – it is inexpensive.  That’s right, while silicone, metal and glass are all fairly pricey materials, hard plastic is definitely a cheaper alternative that can give you the same nicely filled feeling.  While it cannot be sterilized by boiling, hard plastic can easily be shared by using condoms and swapping them out between people.
Remember, this only scratches the surface of all the awesome sexy toy materials out there, so start with this list and do your research from there.  Enjoy and don’t forget to have fun!

xoxo
-JD

* phthalates are chemicals made to soften plastics and have been found to be not so great for your body.

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Oral sex is one of the most intimate acts one can perform on another person.  Taking them into your mouth puts you both in pretty vulnerable position, but it can be an amazing experience for you both.  Plus, sucking cock is just plain fun.  Here are some oral sex tips to help you give the best blow j ever!  I am referring to penis blow jobs in this edition of HotMovies4Her Sex Tips,but  I am all about strapped on cock sucking and you can totally apply most of these tips to that as well!

Get it wet: Saliva saves!  Getting your mouth and his cock super wet makes everyone happier.  You don’t have to have porn sized amounts of bodily fluid everywhere, although you certainly can, but enough to allow for a nice glide will totally do the trick.  Remember, penises are sensitive.  Smooth is good.  Plus, a lot of slip will make it even easier to work them over!

Hands: Switch it up and get your hand(s) involved.  The addition of a hand or two covers a little more cock surface area and feels fantastic.  A little stroking action also helps at those times when your mouth could use a little rest, but you want to keep the party going!

Balls:  Play with them.  Some people rather enjoy licking and sucking on the two berries, but there are always other options.  A soft caress or even just gently holding them in the palm of your hand while your mouth takes care of his member can really drive him crazy in the best possible way.

Rhythm:  While you definitely want to change it up and try different techniques, stick with one particular rhythm for a bit, especially if you can tell he is super into it.  Go ahead and experiment, but know a good thing when you sense it!  Let him get into the groove with you.  Let yourself really connect with what you’re doing and enjoy it.

This really just scratches the surface of how to give a great blow job.  I didn’t include this in the 4 tips, but communication is always key!  If you want to know what he wants/likes just ask!  Body language and moans are great indicators of what is working and what isn’t.  If there is something you need or want, don’t be afraid to let him know.

Most of all, have fun!

Love,
Ginger

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We think that this year’s New Year’s resolutions should be looked forward to.  Instead of making your plans totally dreadable, why not make them fun?  Instead, use the New Year to broaden your sexual horizons.

1) Sex Toys: Introduce sex toys into your sex life. Already have one in your drawer? Go outside of your comfort zone with a different style. If you always depends on your trusty little bullet vibe, perhaps it’s time to give a wand or rabbit a try! You can also use your vibes to stimulate different parts of the body. Buzziness feels great on your clit, but what about your entire vulva, nipples, back, thighs, feet… the list could go on!

2) Temperature Play: We often forget the just adding heat or cold to any sexy time routing can really change things up and stimulate in different ways. Need ideas? Start simple. Grab an ice cube and let your imagination run wild. Dip a glass dildo in cold or warm water enjoy the reactions when you use it. There are also tons of warming lubes and massage oils that are just plain awesome (look for glycerin and praben free formulas).

3) Go somewhere new. Do you always bang in the bedroom? Why not take to the couch, kitchen, bathroom or hallway? Changing up the space in which you get it on can make it feel new again. It adds an element of spontaneity that always makes sex awesome. I can’t officially encourage anything that might get you arrested or injured, but doing in the car or anywhere out and about adds an element of risk that makes everything feel better!

4) Kink. If you’re just starting out, go with something easy. Grab a blindfold. A sash to tie your lovers hands together. Have you already graduated beyond that? Break out the cuffs and the restraints. Perhaps a riding crop is in order. If that still sounds a bit ho hum, maybe it’s time to get a flogger, paddle or the electrosex toys.

Enjoy and have the dirtiest New Year ever!

Love,

Ginger

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Hello and welcome to the first edition of HotMovies4Her Tips!  This is where we give you 4 quick bits of advice on a given subject related to sex in some way, shape or form.  Aren’t we clever?  We are pretty excited to inject some fun yet educational info into our weekly routine and we hope you are too.  Feel free to leave a comment and let us know if there are any particular subjects that you could use a little insight on.

Today, I am giving you 4 Reasons To Masturbate!

1) Relieves Stress: Masturbating is a good opportunity to get in on some you time.  You get to focus on your needs alone, which is something most of us don’t do enough of.  Also, all sorts of things starts to fire off when playing with your bits – dopamine gets released for that sense of pleasure and the endorphins give you that feeling that everything is right in the world. Orgasms are not required, but they do release Oxytocin which gives you that warm fuzzy feeling.

2) Sleep Aid: Masturbating is a great way to stop tossing and turning at night.  Releasing all of those endorphins during the act takes a lot of energy and afterwards you peacefully drift off to dream land.

3) Improves your partnered sex life: What better way to learn about your likes and dislikes than experimenting on your own?  Spending some time with yourself will help you better communicate to your partner the things that you want in the bedroom.  You might even discover a thing or 2 that you’d like to perform on them.

4) It’s fun: Masturbating doesn’t have to be all about the business at hand.  Playing with yourself just feels good and there is nothing wrong with just getting off for the hell of it.

We hope you enjoyed our first ever official HotMovies4Her Tips post.  Check back next Monday to see what sex info we’ll have waiting for you.

Love,
Ginger

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It’s that time of year ago, when all of us are scrambling to the costume store in search of the perfect Halloween get up.   While the costume store is, of course, just the place to find something for all of the parties you’ve been invited to this month, you know what else the Halloween store is perfect for?  Finding great costumes and accessories to incorporate into your sex life.  That’s right, folks, I’m talking about role playing!

Now that sexy costumes have really become the norm for Halloween, there are an abundance of skimpy character frocks in the shops – definitely way bigger of a selection than your average naughty lingerie or sex toy store’s year-round picks.  Here are a few great tips to send you on your way into the costume shop with confidence and sex on the brain!

- Don’t forget the accessories.  Even if the full costumes are a little too heavy on the wallet, you can always pick up a few identifying details and use what you already have for the rest.  Have a police woman fantasy?  Grab a pair of handcuffs and a hat at the store, then just toss on some blue clothes you have at home. Done and done.

- Speaking of handcuffs, be very careful using the accessories you get at the Halloween store as  sex toys.  Sure, the handcuffs will keep your partner’s hands in one place, but they are not really intended for play and may cut or scrape their wrists or be uncomfortable.  Same thing goes for those “Indiana Jones” bull whips that the costume shop sells.  They are not the same thing as the whips sold at sex toy shops, and using them can result in injury and all sorts of other bad things.  If you are interested in playing with these toys for real, definitely check in with a reputable sex toy store (online or locally) and get the goods that are intended to get rough with! Read the rest of this entry »

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We talk about porn a lot here on HotMoviesForHer.  I guess that’s pretty par for the course when you peddle dirty movies, but what I mean by that is that we spend a lot of time talking about the actual movies and their delicious stars, and don’t chat too much about how to incorporate porno into your real life love practices!  So, while this particular post is inspired by the impending lurve holiday, these ideas and tips that can be used whenever!

When it comes to setting the mood for sexy action, porn can be a great way to get the juices flowing, so to speak.  It’s easy to get all hot and bothered when folks on screen start shedding their clothes and touching up on each other – especially when they start moaning (my personal favorite).  Remember that the brain is your biggest sex organ, and plugging all those delectable visuals directly into that sexy organ is sure to get you and your partner thinking dirty thoughts.

Porn can also be a great communication tool.  It can be difficult talking about sex – even with a partner you love, and porn can sometimes help ease those conversation.  Have a budding curiosity about spanking, but not sure how to bring it up to your partner?  Try turning on a porno featuring some spanking and comment on how sexy you find the action.  Talking about your interest while watching the racy visuals can help get even the most skeptical of partners hot and ready to give it a go.

On that note, dirty movies are also a really great place to get ideas on different ways to get it on.  And I’m not just talking about instructional porn, though there are so many super hot instructionals out there.  Any porn can be an awesome source of  information and ideas – from positions and styles, to dirty talk and role playing scenarios.  Open your mind and let your imagination wander as you watch the movie, or why not play along while the movies goes.  Nothing beats a little porno karaoke!

Just be sure to find something that appeals to both of you.  While that may be a tricky venture, it will ultimately lead to more communication and an evening that you both really enjoy!  There are plenty of movies that offer the perfect mix of hardcore and softcore, if that’s your poison.  And so many movies where everyone is having a super hot and fun time.  Basically – if you can think it, we probably have a dozen flicks to get you off!  And don’t forgot to keep an open mind… maybe you’ll find something you never knew you were looking for!

And now a few tips to physically bring the porno to your own personal party.

- Buy minutes on HM4Her (or a DVD, though HM4Her is way better) and send your sweetie a picture or screen cap with the caption “just wait until later…”

- Including a free minutes card inside your Valentine card.

- Let the process of choosing a movie be part of the whole sexy experiences.

- Have the movie up and ready to go so you can just hit play while you are getting your game on.

Alright, go get ‘em, Tiger!  Enjoy Valentine’s Day and bringing porn into your sex life the other 364 days of the year!

xoxo
-J.D.

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Happy New Year!  Today we are four days into January and officially jumping headfirst into 2011. Now that you’ve had a few days to think things over, it’s time to really hunker down and take resolution writing seriously.  When it comes to listing all of the good intentions we have for the year, every magazine, TV show, website, distant relative, whatever/whoever gives their picks of what they think are the best ways to “better yourself” in the upcoming year. While most of these New Year’s resolutions make sense in a “bettering” context, according to research, only a slim margin of folks successfully achieve their resolutions.  That means whole bunches of other people are left feeling like they suck.  No, ma’am, that’s not gonna fly with us!

In the spirit of sex positivity and welcoming in 2011, we’ve decided to switch things up a bit and redefine the most popular resolutions to make them a little more exciting, as well as offer up a few  tips on how to actually make them stick!  And who would we be if we didn’t make sure they focused on all things sexy and fun?!  So sit back, give a read and take it all to heart, because who has ever said they had a lousy year because of all the great sex they’ve been having? Read the rest of this entry »

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While I’ll admit I do have a place in my heart for super fruity Sex On The Beach cocktails, I can’t say I feel the same way about the actual sexy act of screwing in the sand.  In fact, I pretty much have a strong aversion to any sex where unwelcome hangers on follow the pleasure train anywhere near my vag, and unfortunately, that’s what summertime outdoor sexin’ is to me.

I know, I know, getting’ busy in the great outdoors sounds like a fabulous idea.  And yes, in theory it is an awesome idea, but in practice there are some major logistical obstacles to navigate.  It may seem like I am being a Debby Downer, but try to think of me more as a Realistic Rhonda that wants to give you all the info before you end up with bug bites the size of silver dollars all over your bare bottom.

Luckily in the last few years we at HM4Her have written up some super helpful tips for getting through the summer with as few causalities as possible.  Check out our sage advice from summers past.

The Motion of the Ocean

Sex and water are one hot duo. Not only do you get that thrill of exhibitionism if you are in a public place (though try to keep it out of kid heavy areas, oh and um… it’s kinda illegal), you get to try out all sorts of new and exciting positions while you float nearly weightlessly through the water. Not too mention easy access through bikini bottoms and pulling the trunks down a bit! Tee Hee!

There is a little snafu though. It’s not the water that’s the problem, it’s what’s IN the water that makes for a questionable situation. Water than contains chlorine, salt, or bacteria can all pose risk of infection or irritation when it’s forced into the vagina during penetration and thrusting. That basically means all pools, lakes, oceans, rivers and Jacuzzis can mean risky business for getting down and dirty… um, literally.
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