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Interview with Violet Starr

If you haven’t heard of Violet Starr by now, you’re out of the loop. This up-and-coming Latina showstopper has been shooting nonstop for the better part of 2016 and 2017, and we can’t get enough of her natural curves and sultry performances. HotMoviesForHer got the opportunity to speak with Starr about her experiences joining the industry, her kinks, and her steamy scene alongside Logan Pierce in the highly anticipated fourth installment of Teens Like It Rough 4.

HM: You were in theater in high school, right?

VS: Yeah.

What do you think your favorite performance was?

My favorite performance was probably The Three Penny Opera.

So you sing as well?

I’m okay, but for that particular play it was like a play with music. So it wasn’t necessarily about singing, it was more like talking-singing. So as long as you could talk-sing you could do it. But it was a lot of fun, a lot of character building. It was a really interesting show.

If you could play any role on Broadway, what would it be?

It’s super hard! Gosh, there’s so many. You know what I really would love, and it’s not necessarily a play or a musical, it’s called The Starfish Circus. I believe that it was on Broadway, but it’s a circus performance show that they did. It’s super cool and I’ve always wanted to be a part of it.

Is it kind of like Cirque du Soliel?

Yeah, it’s a performance art so it’s taking place in an in actual theater.

Do you do any aerial trapeze or anything like that?

Yeah, I just started doing aerial silks. I think it’s so beautiful and I’ve just gotten into it, and I’m doing it every other day as much as I can. I would love to learn trapeze, but I have to be careful with hardbars because they give you a lot of bruises and they don’t like that in the industry. So right now I’m sticking to the silks because they’re a little more forgiving.

Do you like to do acting roles in porn? Are you drawn to roles like that?

Yeah, I mean growing up I always did acting and I always loved that. It opened me up and kind of brought me out of my shell. I’m a pretty shy person, but I was much more introverted before I got into acting. So when I get to play a different character it’s more intriguing for me. When I have sex it’s good, it’s rewarding, it’s fun, but when you get to play into a character it’s more like you’re playing a different role. You get to play a different fantasy that usually you wouldn’t have the opportunity to do if you weren’t even in porn because people are too embarrassed to do it.

Are you into roleplay?

Oh absolutely! But the problem is I can’t find anybody who would also be into that without laughing or not taking it seriously. Most people would be like, “You want me to crawl around on the floor and do what?” But I’m totally into that! So it works out for me.

You said you were shy before you started acting, has being in porn drawn you out of your shell as well?

For sure! Actually, in different ways. I’m exposed to a lot of people so I have to talk to a lot of people every day, and that side of it brings me out of my shell. Obviously people in porn act differently than normal civilians would, not in a bad way, but they’re open about their sexuality, which is great. It wasn’t something I was used to and I didn’t know how to react to that. I feel that I lost some confidence in that aspect, but that’s okay because it makes me a stronger person. And every day that I’m put in a vulnerable situation it makes me stronger. It makes me grow. That’s what I try to focus on every time I’m challenged, and I think that’s a beautiful thing.

Right on! You birthday is December 23, did your birthday ever get overlooked because it’s so close to the holidays?

No, I get that a lot, but I actually love that my birthday is so close to the holidays, because you get the lights, you get the campfires, and the food, and the family, and it’s another reason to party. I can make my party or celebration Christmas-related. There’s so much to do and there’s so much to look at. It’s actually my favorite holiday, so the fact that my birthday is so close to it is super awesome to me. But I never really had that issue.

You were very uninhibited in your first scene with Manuel Ferrara. Did performing just come naturally to you, or was there unexpected chemistry?

We definitely had a lot of chemistry. He’s just a great performer. He’s super professional and he wasn’t creepy at all. He was so concerned and tried to make me feel as comfortable as possible. It was just me and him, and there was no crew and only one camera. I just remember walking out and getting into my car and thinking, “Wow, I didn’t know that was possible!” I’d seen it, but I didn’t know I could feel like that. It was astounding to me, because some people will never experience that. And I think they should! There should be a way to change that. Some people will say, “Oh, porn sex isn’t real sex,” but damn! Sex like that, I think it should be! I was looking up at the ceiling like, what is going on? It was awesome!

That’s great! Was Mason the director for that?

No, it was a voyeur style, my first boy-girl. So he just set the camera down and picked it up.

Do you see a difference between European performers and American performers?

I haven’t really focused on that much, except for one experience that I can speak for because I worked with her, which Valentina Nappi. Very nice, beautiful, sweet girl. She is very sexual, very into it, and I don’t know if that’s because she’s European, but I get the sense that Europeans are a lot dirtier. Not in a bad way, but more open. In the other countries they do triple anal, it’s more about the butt, crazier stuff. Back in the day, anal was a big deal, and now it’s not, but in Europe it’s nothing. Completely nothing! That’s from what I’ve heard. My experience has been pretty similar to that, so I can see the truth in it.

Have you ever had an exceptionally good first date or bad first date?

For the good first date, absolutely! It was with a guy at AVN. I went on a date with him, and I’m very… I wouldn’t say spiritual, but I’d say conscious. I don’t meet a lot people who are like that, so I basically met the male version of myself, which never happens, and we went on a date! He just didn’t care what people thought, he was fun, he could be so open! He was just an open book, he wasn’t hiding anything, he could just be himself, and I felt like I could be myself. It was just amazing. We clicked so well. The chemistry was so great. We had sex, and I don’t ever meet civilians like that, so this was a very rare thing, but it was the best sex I’ve ever had. And then for the bad date, this guy talked about himself in the third person.

Ugh!

Yeah! He would refer to himself all the time, a lot of ego, he dominated the whole conversation. He loved power. I was pretty fed up with it. It was the total opposite of the first guy, which makes me totally miss him! Like, why can’t you clone yourself? Natural selection, come on guys!

Yeah that last one sounds pretty bad…

But at least I won’t forget his name!

You’ve said that you were in a BDSM relationship for a short while. Was that just a one time thing, or is it a lifestyle that you plan on pursing?

I did it and it was the best relationship I’ve ever had. There were some problems of course, just like in any other relationship, but it was the most intimate. It actually made me realize that I still like BDSM, but I don’t think of myself as a submissive anymore. I do like that aspect of it, and I’m still a natural submissive, but I do like DD/lg, which is Daddy Dom/little girl. It’s basically about the guy being the caregiver, and the girl being little. In life you have all of these responsibilities, and it feels good to let go. Especially if the person is very wise, intelligent, caring, and kind, and that’s basically the only kind of guy who can do that job. So that’s a very rare thing to find, let alone sharing a kink with someone. That’s hard, if they’re not interested in that. Even if you don’t necessarily have a daddy, you can still be a little and you can still have your little space. You’re still adulting all the time, but you can let go and have that child-like energy to you. I think it’s a really cool thing. It’s like an escape.

I feel like that’s the kink of the hour, you know? Everybody’s calling everybody “daddy” now and it’s pretty cool that it’s becoming more, I don’t want to say mainstream, but people are more aware of it.

Yeah, I just wish that people would know that when they say “daddy,” a lot of people either think of [family fantasy] or they think “boss man.” Like “ooh, daddy, ooh six-figures, daddy.” Or sugar daddy! But they don’t think of “daddy, take care of your little girl.” Make sure I’m doing the right thing, and make sure I’m getting enough sleep. It’s nice to have someone want to do those things for you. It’s really caring, and I’m not used to that. I wanted that because my BDSM relationship wasn’t caring enough; it was too strict, and I needed something a little bit more gentle. Hopefully since it is becoming more mainstream, people will see the different aspects of it.

How did you choose your performer name?

I chose it in less than an hour. I went online and looked at random porn names and added them together until I found one that I liked. I had a list. I chose it because it sounded super bubbly and fun and not really that realistic. I liked it! And when I got into the industry I didn’t really like it because it was “Star” and I thought it sounded too porny. But then I went to AVN and a guy said, “Oh, your name is Violet Starr! Stars are measured in color and violet is really hot. So you’re like a burning star!” I thought, “Okay, it means something, I like it again!”

You have said before that your favorite performance so far was with Logan Pierce in Young & Curious from Digital Sin. What about that scene really stood out to you?

He is really romantic and good at paying attention to detail. That’s the main thing that I like about him. He can be really rough, but he respects your boundaries. I’ve had people be rough and they’re too rough, or they’re rough but they’re not rough enough. He’s perfect. He pays attention to your reaction and what you say and what you want. He listens to your limits. He’s also a fun person to be around. He can play into a conversation very well, and I like that. It makes the day on set really fun, rather than a guy just treating me like a piece of meat. You know? My pussy’s not gonna get wet! [laughing] I need a little bit more than that!

Yeah, he’s super cute.

Oh yeah, he’s very extremely attractive!

What can you tell us about your upcoming performance in the Teens Like It Rough series?

It was amazing and really cool to act like the innocent girl who has always had vanilla sex and then turned into something completely different, because that actually happened. To reminisce and relive that was really awesome.

So you drew on your life experiences?

Exactly! I love when I can bring it into real life because it helps with the sex a lot. It feels real. I really, really enjoyed that scene.

Do you have any upcoming projects that you’re excited about that you want your fans to know about?

Yeah! I’m going to be doing interracial on June 1st. I don’t know if I’m allowed to say the company name, but it’s coming out soon. Also, I’m starting my own website with the network CrushGirls, so we’re working on a bunch of content. It’s exciting; I have a bunch of side hustles going on. It keeps me busy. And when I’m not working, I’m always working on that. The busier I am, the happier I am.

Can I ask who you’re doing interracial with?

I actually don’t know yet! I’m so excited to find out though!

Who would be your dream first interracial partner?

Probably Jason Brown or Ricky Johnson.

Anything you want to say to your fans or any last words?

All I have to say is ‘Thank you,’ because if they didn’t watch me then I wouldn’t be here. I just appreciate all the support I can get, and I love what they love me for.

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Kelli Lox Interview

Some people just bounce off the screen with enthusiasm and charm, and Kelli Lox is definitely one of those people. A natural performer, Kelli has collaborated with some of the most influential directors and performers in porn, and has championed a new era of trans content; content that transcends labels and invites a wide audience. We were very excited to ask Kelli questions about her career trajectory and the state of trans issues outside of the industry. Her answers are some of the most thoughtful, poignant, but also hopeful responses that we have had the privilege of printing.

HotMoviesForHer: While doing research on you, and revisiting some of my favorite films with you in them, like Real Fucking Girls and Fetish Fvckdolls, it is obvious why you have been nominated for so many prestigious awards. You have been nominated for Best Hardcore Performer at the Transgender Erotica Awards this year, as well as Transsexual Performer of the Year at both AVN and XBIZ. Did you get into the adult business with the intention of being a household name? What were your goals when you started performing?

Kelli Lox: I think mainly I was drawn to a chance at becoming semi-famous. I looked at Domino Presley and said “I want to follow in her footsteps” and I did! When I started, she had almost 50 thousand followers on Twitter, so I set that as my goal. Now I have like 63 thousand, well over that number, and she’s got over 100 thousand! But yeah, I looked at it as a way to make money and have fun. Getting paid to have sex with beautiful people is a pretty sweet deal whichever way you slice it (haha). And, the business side, the community side, the network of trans peers we’ve been building year after year, it’s pretty special and it’s a special time for us, too, so it feels great to be a part of that. We’re like the most visible group of the most visible group of the most visible group. Me for example, woman of color, queer, porn star, trans, etc, that’s like 4 or 5 marginalized groups right there. I think the richness of experience for me is being a real life face for that specific experience at this time in our society when we are finally talking about all those things – sex work, race, transgender issues, etc for the first time. It feels like I might be remembered for a minute. You could say that fame is an empty pursuit but, according to my mom, the Aztecs say there’s a third and final death that occurs when you’re forgotten. Haha- But seriously I’m an artist and if I weren’t starring in adult films I’d be in a band, and if I weren’t in a band I’d be a painter or a digital artist or something.

You talked about doing nude modeling when you were in college and how that experience made you more comfortable with being nude in public. Had you transitioned at that time? What clicked for you in those classes? What made you think you were ready to explore more of the adult entertainment professions?

You know, it’s actually funny, I was just thinking about this the other day. In college, I modeled nude for the drawing classes at the art school. And yes, every time I’m asked “So, how did you get into porn?” which every interview asks (hahaha except you, good job!) any time I’m asked that in an interview, I always mention that. But a few days ago I was thinking about a side gig I also had at that time. The local inhabitants of the town had a drawing class every few weeks as well, and they were booking me to model for those. So I was good at it, and I was getting a lot of work. Now the thing is, I was a boy back then. A boy with long beautiful brown hair. I acted like a normal boy, but anyone who looked could probably tell I had a femme bud inside me that wanted to blossom, hahaha I mean, I danced ballet. But, I was still a few years away from even beginning to transition. So I would ride a male-female edge as a personal narrative, and long story short, I cut my hair one day. Went to my side gig, the community drawing class. It went fine except the main guy who hired me was pissed. He never hired me again after that. It wasn’t until later when I had thought about it, that I realized why. He loved my long beautiful brown hair. HAHA Isn’t that cute? He never hired me again because he liked me more when I looked like a girl.

Not only your film work, but your personal interests and skills are really unique. You’ve taken ballet, you play musical instruments, you speak different languages, and you are a great performer. Can you elaborate on how your skills and interests off screen have influenced roles or projects you decide to work on?

Wow, you’re good! Thanks. Yes, I think it was Asa Akira who said something along the lines of “Porn stars aren’t, like, victims. many of us are intelligent women who choose this as a personal career, not as a result of some desperation or damage. Like, many of us we were raised well and come from nice families.” I read that a few years ago and it really clicked for me, because I realized we don’t have to fit into any “what kind of person becomes a porn star?” answer. Who becomes a porn star? I can look around and say “We do.” So that helped me feel more comfortable sharing things about me that are unique or interesting. The thing is, a lot of industry trans girls are a bit terrified of sharing their interests on twitter. Like, “I want to tell everyone I’m learning a song on the piano – wait – is that…sexy?” or “I want to talk about my miniature train building hobby – wait – will people make fun of me?” So, I like to show that, yes, it’s okay to be a multidimensional person with a variety of skills and interests that have nothing whatsoever to do with sex or being transgender. At the end of the day, I think it all just makes me an interesting person who people like to work with. I’m trying to think of a time when I’ve had to speak another language in a video and I don’t think there’s been one. But I do play soccer, and once, for Joey Silvera’s Rogue Adventures 38, we drove to a park and I dressed up in colorful soccer gear and kicked a ball around. Hahaha. It was cute. Then I “got home from practice” and proceeded to undress on the bed. You know the rest. Then there’s also Fetish Fvckdolls of course, where I wore ballerina gear. I can’t actually dance en pointe, but I did dance ballet my whole life up until I transitioned.

Speaking of playing musical instruments, what do you play and what is your musical background? Can we hear your music anywhere?

I have been in a ton of bands of all sorts, from death metal, 80s cover, and folk, to ska funk. I usually played drums and keyboards, and sang. My soundcloud is https://soundcloud.com/kelli_lox and i have a few original songs on there and I also did a few remixes of Suzanne Vega songs. Nowadays I mostly play the keyboard and sing or make music on my computer, but my drumset is at my friend’s house and sometimes we jam there, and I’d love to be in a band again someday. I miss the fun of making up parts to each other’s songs, creating music together.

You have talked about the type of personality needed in order to be a porn performer. What do you think are important personality traits or characteristics that are needed to be in porn?

Super impressed by your questions by the way =) Yeah, I read that the human brain can overpower disgust in a moment of sexual activity. Suddenly, things that would normally seem gross are super hot. Long story short, muggles aren’t ready for butt jelly. Also, civilians make everything about them. As a porn performer you have to be comfortable around sweat, vaginal fluid, cum, lube, buttholes, and saliva, and lots of people watching and feel SEXY and not icky or weird. And the objective is to produce a good scene. I think normal people can’t do that. They can’t face the non-sanctity of sex and they get grossed out too easily and they can’t put their heart and body and mind into their art like that. We’re special!

In the last few years there has been a huge upsurge in mainstream media covering porn performers. Several stories look at what a typical day in the industry is, or how feminism and porn are not mutually exclusive. What questions do you think need to be asked of performers that aren’t being asked? What issues get swept under the rug for the sake of sensationalism?

Wow. Well, I think there’s a lot of intersectionality that needs to be explored in the social landscape. Like, a black trans woman living in rural America who is in an abusive relationship, but wants to go back to college, or a queer Muslim girl who lives in Seattle and is scared to come out. What are the needs of that particular person that are never met because she’s on the erased edge of multiple social control systems? What kind of support networks are needed and how can we build them? I don’t know! But we need to ask it. Personally, here in Berkeley, California, I kind of live in a bubble; I forget that vast swaths of this country are full of people who say I either don’t exist or shouldn’t be allowed to. So yeah, I think trans women of color living in rural America are one of our most vulnerable populations today and there should be more support networks for them. So yeah, a white cis-woman talking about feminism and porn isn’t intersectional enough anymore, it’s already boring. Those people should give voice to their peers who are of color or trans. Those are the voices that need to be heard right now. And yeah, there may be an article with the headline “27 Trans Women of Color Murdered Already in 2017” and I’m realistic about the fact that all anyone clicks on are articles about white women who show their boobs to prove feminists can have boobs and show them and still be feminists. Nothing against white girls boobs, but yawn, you know what I mean? People are getting murdered over here.

What would you like to see from cis-female activists, or just civilians that would make you feel like we were moving in a more unified direction?

1. Hire trans women. Hire the fuck out of us! Specifically seek us out for jobs, scholarships, and professional positions. Mention that you’re looking specifically for us in your outreach. Rent us your houses, your apartments, and your rooms. Post notices on your properties and in your businesses that state we are welcome and can expect to feel safe and respected.
2. Give your voice to us! Instead of researching trans issues and writing an article about us, hire one of us to write the article. Instead of seeing yourself as an insider to or ambassador for trans women’s issues, shut up and pass the microphone to us and let us speak for ourselves. Cast actual trans women actresses in roles of trans women in films. Get actual trans women to participate in panels about transgender issues. On Twitter, instead of reading our tweets and then tweeting your support of us, tell people to follow us and retweet our tweets. We don’t need more cis white males saying they support us, we need to replace them and stand where they stood, and be given the voice that they had. Instead of cis white women stating they support us, they should invite us onstage and then sit down while we speak.

 

What is the role of Trans activism in porn for you? Is porn political?

I don’t really know. My take on my own activism, personally, has been that I don’t need to prepare a statement or promote any viewpoint or position. I have remained visible when others told me to hide, insisted on being included when others attempted to erase me, stood up when others were too scared to, and – just being visible and never letting the big bad world scare me away, that’s enough to ask of one person, because that’s really hard. It has been really hard. So, I don’t put pressure on myself to be “an activist” or “political.” My continued existence every day here on this planet is political. I am making a trail breaking and provocative statement just by breathing and not getting murdered. LITERALLY HALF of trans girls have been murdered or attempted suicide. The fact that I am still here is pretty fucking rare, so I don’t have to go out of my way to make a statement. The fact that I didn’t crawl away in shame long ago is statement enough. For now.

From your experience as a trans performer, how can porn media help to promote trans performers? What issues have you seen within adult industry media that need to be addressed?

The porn industry needs to get a bit farther ahead of the curve on this. First of all, there needs to be more inclusion of trans women on the major labels and by the major studios, and lesbian porn needs to cast more trans women in lesbian porn. As everyone knows, there is a stigma that is attached to working with trans women. I think it’s because we’re still associated with gay males. and anyone who does gay male scenes is automatically higher risk. Which is complete bullshit, especially for girls like me who mostly shoot with genetic females. I don’t have sex with gay men. But what can be done to de-stigmatize us? I think that’s what I’m doing, just by talking about it and pushing for elimination of that invisible wall that systematically keeps us out of mainstream porn. Second, the awards shows should shift from the bare minimum they currently do and really showcase diverse trans women in their special features, on stage, and in their staff or project teams. I mean, AVN made a statement that trans women can use the women’s bathrooms at their awards show, and there’s no way they expect anyone to bake them cookies for that. They should have trans women in their promotional materials, trans women working at the registration tables, trans women presenting awards, and female performers who happen to be trans being profiled for the pay-per-view specials etc. Take the fucking lead already.

If budget, location, and casting were not issues, what would be your dream project to work on?

Kelli Lox Academy for Wayward Tgirls. The Kelli Lox Academy. A boarding house and foundation for college scholarships for trans girls who are attending college.

I’ve read you have a thing for cute toes. What is your favorite color nail polish for toes?

It’s true, I love cute girls with cute toes. Probably purple sparkly would be my favorite color.

What do you hope to accomplish in the industry?

I just want to feel like I made a difference. And I have already, I have kind of done something different. I mean, how many other transsexual female performers are there who have natural boobs and primarily shoot with females? I’m prrrrretty sure me and Chelsea Poe are the only ones.

How can your fans best support you?

Buy me gift cards on amazon.com! Or order things off my wishlist:

(Kelli’s Wish List Link: http://a.co/91gcV12)

Interview with Eliza Allure

Eliza Allure has amassed an enormous fanbase over the course of her career in the adult industry, and it’s certainly no surprise why. Bubbly, intelligent, and downright dirty, Eliza Allure is any man’s dream woman with some seriously kickin’ curves! We got the opportunity to speak with the beautiful BBW superstar about her career, home life, and the difficulties of the plus-sized porn industry, and Allure was wonderfully candid with us.

HMFH: We’re so excited to be speaking with you. Since 2014 you were nominated for BBW of the Year and Social Media Star, an award that BBW stars don’t often get recognition for. You’re gorgeous, gaining weight, and looking better than ever. What are some of your favorite ways to pamper yourself?

I have really had to make time for my beauty routines and to help me de-stress. I have a toddler and recently turned thirty so it’s more important then ever. Every month I book myself a massage and facial. I’m obsessed with microderm, dermaplaning, and hydra facials. I love getting my nails and toes done every two weeks and I get my individual eyelashes done every three weeks. I also just got my eyebrows micro-bladed so I literally can roll out of bed with no makeup and get on webcam.

I’m a bigger girl myself. What sex positions do you find work best for your body type?

I guess that just depends if I’m being lazy or not lol. I love riding on top to achieve my orgasm, but to start off with I prefer doggie-style.

On your website you describe Eliza Allure as your “porn alter-ego.” How is Eliza Allure different from you in your downtime?

While I certainly try to be true to myself in how I conduct business, Eliza is a fantasy. I get to be super dirty and do anything I like as Eliza. In my downtime I prefer to hang out at home with my kid. I’m very much the one you would want your mom to meet. I pride myself on manners and morals. All my good friends would tell you I’m pretty boring.

What are some of your offscreen kinks?

I love women. Most men think I’m lying as a way to get them to stop hitting on me, but if I’m turned on I’m either thinking of my own body or looking at a sexy female.

Your filmography is incredibly diverse. You shoot lesbian, interracial, trans, anal, group sex, etc. If you had to shoot one type of scene for the rest of your career, what would it be and why?

I guess group sex so I can still do all of the other type of scenes in one.

You’re open with your fans about your quest to gain weight. What size/weight are you hoping to achieve?

They can join my site (www.ElizaGains.com) to feed me and find out my goal weight.

What’s an average day like in a feeder/feedee relationship?

All my feeders are mostly from the U.K. So they will send me money to buy whatever type of food they want to see me eat, and then I either eat it for them on www.elizaallure.cammodels.com, or I go on Skype and get 100% of the profit. They want to discuss my eating habits, how lazy I am, see my body jiggle, especially my belly. Sometimes they have very specific fantasies surrounding my gain. For instance, one fan likes to pretend to abduct me then feed me till I’m over 600lbs.A few years ago you performed pregnant. What was that experience like?

I liked that it was unique but being pregnant in general was difficult for me. I don’t like shooting when I’m not feeling well because I want to give my fans the best, and I know it won’t translate well onscreen if I am.

You’ve seen the industry change so much since you have been working. What challenges have you had to overcome as a BBW performer?

I have definitely been at the forefront of pushing for change in the BBW industry. A lot of people who have been in it for a decade are threatened by me because I am all about model education so we all go into our scenes with open eyes and are less likely to be taken advantage of. The three major companies shooting BBW porn are all run by men. These men take advantage of models in so many different ways and up until now no one has cared or stood up for the girls. If a model spoke out against the abuse, the men are quick to discredit her as bitter and crazy. No model should be shortchanged on her check. No model should have their content stolen from them by producers. No model should show up to set expecting to shoot a lesbian scene and it turns out to be a full-on orgy which the producer doesn’t want to pay her extra for. Most importantly, no model should ever have to sleep with a producer. All three producers expect the models to fuck them offset or give them blowjobs, sometimes even before the shoot. Currently all of that is going on and will continue to unless we hold men accountable for their actions and force them to do business in a reputable manner.

Some bigger-name models have tried to discredit me even when they know what I’m talking about is true, quite simply because those certain models are benefiting from it. So recently I created my own (www.BBWawardsshow.com) which will be in January, and all winners will be chosen by fans only. There won’t be opportunities for the men in power to use it to coerce sex from these women. This is just one of the many projects I’m undertaking along with www.bbwstripnight.com to give the models a safe and fun environment to mingle with fans and make money. I’ve had models come to my events and try to start trouble so that the event is kicked out of those clubs. I had to get a restraining order on one model who came to my night and punched me in the face in front of everyone. Most recently I had to ask a model to not attend my last strip night because she was talking badly about all the other girls attending that no one else would have showed up if she went. So what did she do? She proved me and all the models right about her and she started talking to a guy who was threatening to shoot up any events around that time. This model professes to care for other girls who attended the night but was willing to get them killed. These situations are completely serious and I have a zero-tolerance policy for any model causing drama, doing drugs, or anyone who has a pimp. We can expel the stigma of the porn industry if we all stick to our morals and ban together.

If you could offer any kind of advice to new BBW starlets entering the business, what would it be?

Check out my blog I have for new models (www.modelsintheknow.com)


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Women of Gonzo: Angela White Interview

Angela WhiteWhen Judy Hologram and I decided to do a series of interviews on women gonzo directors, we really hoped that Angela White would be interested in participating. Angela has been able to incorporate her talent, passions, and political concerns into her work. Regardless of industry, it is always a challenge to be able to do the thing you love and get paid for doing it, and if you happen to be a woman working in porn there are additional challenges. Yet, Angela has grown as a performer, director, and business women in addition to finishing her academics and advocacy work. Make no mistake, Angela is a scholar, but she is in the business because she loves expressing her sexual desires in a public forum. She is a refreshing combination of confident and humble, and we were very excited to have the chance to ask her about her career and plans for the future.

HMFH: While performing, you’ve graduated from the University of Melbourne with honors in Gender Studies, and you ran a political campaign for the Australian Sex Party in 2010.  What motivated you to become politically active during this period of your life?

Angela WhiteAW: It was actually my involvement in adult entertainment that fueled my interest in politics and gender studies. I was confronted with feminist critiques of pornography as degrading and harmful to women, yet I felt empowered by having a safe space to express my sexual desires. I wanted to develop a greater understanding of the politics of pornography so that I could challenge the myths and stereotypes that surround the industry, particularly the assumption that any woman who claims to have chosen to perform in pornography suffers from false consciousness.

I’ve heard you describe your webcam shows as “Tits Out Therapy.” How does webcamming relate to therapy for you, and how does this type of communication with your fans help or inform your film performances?

There is so much shame surrounding sex and sexuality in our culture that it can be profoundly validating to have someone simply accept you and your sexual desires without judgement. Through my webcamming, I try to create a safe environment for my fans to express their fantasies without guilt or embarrassment. My webcam regulars come for the tits, but stay for the therapy.Angela White

I’ve produced scenes that are directly informed by my intimate encounters with fans on webcam. For example, I’ve learnt that some fans who have limited mobility can feel alienated by physically intense scenes where I am picked up and fucked or thrown around the room – something that they cannot replicate. So as a result I’ve shot a number of POV scenes where the male talent is completely stationary. I’ve learnt that despite our cultural assumptions about masculinity, many men feel vulnerable about their capacity to be loved, so I’ve shot scenes which simulate a “girlfriend experience.”

Since you direct and perform in all of your content for your website, do you have any plans to only direct and not star in any scenes?

I still have so many things I want to explore in front of the camera that I’m not ready to step back yet. When and if I’m ready to step back, I will probably focus on showcase films. I like the idea of spending a lot of time with one performer over a number of scenes so that I can go on a journey of getting to really know them deeply.Angela White

What challenges do you face when directing a new scene with someone you haven’t worked with before?

I find working with someone new more exciting than challenging. I don’t like to fully script scenes because I enjoy creating a space for spontaneity which also allows for my onscreen partner to have the freedom to express themselves within the bounds of the scene. Every scene I produce is collaborative, and I make this explicit by the way that I title all of my scenes. For example, you’ll notice on my website and in my movies, scenes will be titled: Angela White X Carter Cruise or Angela White X Manuel Ferrara with the “X” designating a collaboration between two performers as it does in art, music, and fashion. Everyone that I perform with has a unique talent and vision and I encourage them to share that with me in the scene. When I get the chance to perform with someone new, not only is there a novelty factor which heightens my arousal, but there is also an opportunity to capture genuine surprise and unexpected pleasures.

Angela White Loves WomenHow difficult is directing and performing simultaneously?

I have to put a lot of trust in my crew to help me capture my vision, but I’m lucky to be working with great videographers and cinematographers. It helps that my style of shooting allows for and even encourages spontaneity. I think it would be a lot more difficult if I had a very strict shot list and script. I prefer to explain my objectives to the talent and crew and then for us all to work together in the moment to see what we create.

It seems like your university experience and your adult work have informed one another. Forgive me for paraphrasing, I think this is from the end of your thesis; you talk about how performers have a unique opportunity to experience pleasure devoid from desire and restrictive sexual identity categories. Could you please elaborate on how performing in porn has helped to shape your sexual identity?Angela White

Performing in pornography has allowed me to express and explore my sexual desires in ways that would be very difficult outside of the industry. I’ve experienced a lot of “firsts” on camera, ranging from my first time squirting to my first double anal penetration. When I entered the industry in 2003, I was already identifying as bisexual, had done a lot of experimenting, and would have considered myself to be very open minded. Now, I’ve completely expanded my definition of the sexual. For something to be sexual or sexy to me it no longer needs to be genitally focused nor orgasm-centric.

How does your sexual identity inspire the content you create?

My sexual identity inspires everything I do. My sexual desires and fantasies are the driving force behind every scene I produce.

Angela White BlowbangHow has your gender identity affected your directing style? For example, have you created a “type” of scene for a specific audience?

I am acutely aware that most of the paying members of my site identify as male, so I do produce scenes where I speak directly to an assumed cis-male audience. However, I have a lot of female identified fans, couples, and transfolk who enjoy my work, so I also make an effort to make many of my scenes gender neutral. If the specific audience is ambiguous then a scene can become more inclusive.

You have a new movie coming out (Angela Loves Gonzo) where all the performers are partially “directing” the scenes by their participation with POV camera work. Why did you decide to shift the point of view between performers?
angela white alexis texas anikka albrite

While all of my other DVD releases do away with scripts, they are still heavily produced in terms of lighting, makeup, camera crews, etc. For Angela Loves Gonzo, I wanted to remove all artifice in an attempt to showcase genuine chemistry and spontaneity. I wanted the camera acknowledged but I didn’t want the camera in the male performer’s hands at all times. I didn’t want it to become just an extension of the male performer’s vision and to be only representing the male gaze. This is why you will see that at points I will hold the camera, Anikka Albrite holds the camera, the camera sometimes ends up on the floor or on a table. It’s about showing the female performer’s agency while also acknowledging that audiences, whatever their gender, do enjoy seeing male bodies, even though the constraints of masculinity don’t always make it possible for everyone to admit this.

What is your working definition of the gonzo genre? What does this bring to mind when you hear “gonzo porn?”Angela White

There are many ways to define the genre and mine is not definitive. I think it’s very important to be inclusive when it comes to categories, but when I think about the gonzo genre I envision a scene in which the camera is acknowledged and that artifice is removed. I think of sex that is unscripted (or less scripted) and that allows performers to do less “performing” and more expressing and exploring of their own desires. Of course, gonzo now has a very bad name for being the roughest of porn genres. But for me, the opposite is also true. I think that when you remove the pressure and artifice of a camera crew, gonzo can showcase authentic intimacy and incredibly tender moments, and I think fans will definitely see that in Angela Loves Gonzo.

There have been a lot of critics recently talking about what porn for women consists of. There seems to be an overriding idea that porn for women is a specific camera angle, or romance-only narrative, and definitely not gonzo. What is your take on the terminology “porn for women?”

angela white james deen danny mountainThere are a couple problems that I have with the term “porn for women.” Firstly, it contributes to reifying the category of “woman,” which is often exclusionary. It doesn’t take into account that not every person who identifies as a “woman” has a vagina, and not every person with a vagina identifies as a “woman.” The term “porn for women” can also prescribe what “women” as a collective group want. There are plenty of women-identified people who enjoy rough sex, BDSM, gonzo, blowbangs, and other acts and niches not generally associated with “porn for women.” I think it is better to categorize porn scenes based on genre not gender. However, I understand that “porn for women” grew out of a movement to give greater focus to female pleasure in porn, to present a female-centric vision, and to make this porn easily searchable for audiences. When it comes to the term, “porn for women,” I don’t want to throw the baby out with the bath water, but it’s important to recognize that it isn’t without its problems. Much like the existence of the “interracial” genre.


Angela White
How can your fans best support you?

The best way for fans to support me is to buy my DVDs, join my website (angelawhite.com), and to get one of my signature Fleshlights. However, fans can also show their support and appreciation by retweeting and liking my social media posts and telling their friends about me.

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The women at HotMoviesForHer are looking forward to all of Angela’s future endeavors. We are so happy to have such an awesome woman like Angela in the industry making beautiful movies that showcase empowered women in porn. Check out more of Angela White here!

The Authentic Lesbian Review: Lily Cade Interview

Lily Cade is at the top of the charts when it comes to making and distributing lesbian porn for lesbians. I’ve talked about her features countless times over the year as they just keep coming, and all of us here at HotMoviesForHer.com thought it was about time we get an interview with the lesbian legend herself! She never disappoints.

Lily Cade in pool

Authentic Lesbian: Congratulations on all the recognition and mainstream attention you’ve been receiving over the past year! You can’t Google “real lesbian porn” without a Lily Cade scene popping up and, as Porn Valley’s Gold Star Lesbian, that has to be a great feeling. The conversation on lesbian sex and what it looks like is changing and expanding in large part because of your movies. Did you consciously take on the task of producing genuine lesbian porn in an effort to present it accurately or was the mindset to make movies you would want to watch and just see what resulted?

Lily Cade: I’m not going to lie, it does feel great to be me. I’ve been able to make some really awesome movies and showcase beautiful, authentic sex in so many variations. When I first encountered porn, I was really put off by “lesbian” content. It didn’t look like the sex that I had with my lovers. I have sex to connect, and that connection was missing. It was bodies touching, but not souls. It was straight girls putting on a show for men. It offended my young heart, watching this mockery of lesbian love.

While I was at USC, I watched 70s era porno features and fell in love with the work of Radley Metzger. I wanted to make movies like that, but for a lesbian audience. I wanted to push the boundaries of erotic content in cinema. I thought I would go about it from the indie film side. I took my first porn scene on a whim, but I discovered a community and a job that I really loved. As a performer, being genuine and showcasing authentic connection has always been my goal. I saw an unfilled niche and sought to fill it. As a director, I want to create erotic content with characters that feel like real women with whom the viewer can identify, not fantasy creatures that exist only to be consumed. Of course, I make what I like, but I do put a lot of thought into what I’m representing.

AL: Now that you’re being looked at as an authority on lesbian sex within the industry do you ever feel pressured or burdened down by the responsibility that can come along with that?

LC: Honestly, no. I feel a lot of pressure, but it’s about deadlines and how I’m going to get funding to make larger movies and the challenges of being an artist. I get bogged down sometimes by worrying and frustrated by dealing with bullshit.

Last night I went to the XRCO awards. I started chatting up a newbie. My wife tried to bet a guy that I would take her into the bathroom, but he wouldn’t take the bet. I took her to the bathroom, fisting her while looking into her eyes, her body suspended between the stall walls. Back at the party, another model stopped her. “The bathroom? It’s incredible, isn’t it?” I watched them lock eyes and share a moment. This is my life. The sex is the easy part.

AL: Speaking of pressure and responsibility, how do you juggle writing, directing, starring in, and editing your own movies? Does one role trump the others?

LC: I just do it, because no one else will. The hardest part is finding the inspiration. Once I have that, they rest falls into place. The most annoying part is scheduling and dealing with the last minute cancellations and other disasters. As far as which is more important, that’s sort of like asking whether my heart or my lungs are more important to the functioning of my body. I do feel like my performance sometimes suffers when I’m directing myself because I worry about other responsibilities, like whether the set is running on time or where the lights are. During the sex, being in the moment feels natural, but I’ve been focusing on improving my non-sex acting skills and immersing myself in my characters. I consider Heartbreaker vs. Obscura my best performance as an actor, in part because I was able to delegate some of the set running and stay “Heartbreaker” instead of myself.

Latex Lily Cade

AL: Gender and sexuality are at the forefront of societal conversations in terms of understanding how people view themselves and want others to view them. As a person who identifies as being somewhere between butch and femme, do you ever find these topics creeping into your work? How much of an influence do they have on your plots and characters?

LC: It’s always been a component of my work, from the very start. I feel this split within myself – butch/femme, virgin/whore, good/bad, boi/girl – sort of both, sort of neither. I like to fuck with people’s expectations. I like to make people question themselves. Men tell me all the time that I make them wish they were a woman. I’m an avatar for my male viewers. I fuck girls the way they wish they could. I fuck girls the way they wish men would.

I joke that I’m “male talent” and my first released scene was a drag role in Elexis Unleashed, in which I played a Victorian era girl pretending to be a boy so she could get a job. As a director, I like to riff on boy/girl plots and characters. One of my first scenes as a director featured Dylan Ryan as a pizza “boy” who turns out to be a girl to the surprise but ultimate delight of India Summer in Hard Working Girls. My features take place in a butch/femme universe, with the boy parts played by girls. I don’t so much talk about gender or issues of identity with my work. I just show these things and let people think about it.

Lily Cade in cowboy boots

AL: Your first scene ever with Capri Cavanni was lost to the world forever so sadly we won’t get to see it, but what made you answer that Craig’s List ad in the first place? What did you buy with the $200 you made?

LC: I’m pretty sure I put it towards rent or food. I’ve always been very practical. I did put a down payment on a motorcycle for my wife with the money I earned from my first “real” shoots for Sweetheart Video.

AL: You mention in a lot of your interviews that your type is more of an energy that you feel with a woman. So far, who have you worked with that brought the most energy?

LC: I’ve had amazing chemistry with so many women, but if you want to see my deepest on screen connection, watch me with Jess Gatsby in Fuck The Police or at makelovenotporn.tv. Jess and I were dating at the time. She’s this gorgeous, hardbody butch, a type I had been dying to represent in porn for a long time. The Fuck The Police scene was really intense and a highlight of my career, the only time I’ve bottomed for a strap-on on camera. When it was over, Jess and I sat together as the crew put equipment away, our focus still only on each other. I held her and told her that I loved her for the first time.  The whole movie is great, but that scene is special.

AL: Cops seem to be an ongoing theme in your work. What is it about that power and abusing it that turns you on so much?

LC: I grew up watching cop shows and started to notice the women in uniform. I had a crush on Olivia Bensen from Law and Order SVU back when I didn’t quite understand what I was feeling. I’m into masculine clothes on women, and police uniforms are a particular favorite. As an artist, I find the police fascinating. Whether the police are “good” or “bad” depends on your position in society. Cops have middle class incomes but life and death power. They can get away with fucked up stuff. It’s a dynamic that lends itself well to porno style exploitation and my black sense of humor.

Lily Cade cop uniform

AL: Officer Cade and Heartbreaker are falling off a cliff and you can only save one, who lives?

LC: Officer Cade is fun at parties. She loves her life. She filters the world through an enormous later of bullshit, but she enjoys it. Heartbreaker doesn’t like herself. She’d be mad at me if I saved her.

AL: You do standup!? I had no idea…how did that start and what’s it like? Is porn a big part of your comedy?

LC: It’s definitely part of it. Porn is a unique world. The office politics and the difference between the show we put on and what’s really happening are funny to me but porn is not the only source of my material.

AL: After 8 years in the adult industry what advice would you give young women, gay and straight, looking for their start?

LC: Porn’s tough. To do it well requires a lot of emotional labor, and neither the money nor the fame are what they used to be. “Mainstream porn,” so to speak, has consolidated as fewer companies compete for a dwindling marketplace.  If you’re a traditionally hot girl, you can go to one of the better porno agencies and get a certain number of shoots. Success beyond that requires dedication, and running a brand, and acquiring fans. Porn will shoot whatever sells. If you can prove that you sell, you work. The business of being a “porn star” is not just going to set but interacting with fans, monetizing content, affiliate marketing, appearances, etc. Most girls also webcam, escort, or otherwise sell their services. What worked for me was standing out rather than fitting the mold, and I’ve seen others have success by focusing on creating niche content that fans can’t get elsewhere. If you decide to go into porn, do your research and go in with your eyes open.

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The Authentic Lesbian hails from Baltimore City, lives in Philly, and is healthily addicted to everything involving naked women. Follow her on Twitter @authenticlezz1 to watch adorable dog videos and occasionally porn.

Women of Gonzo: Dana Vespoli Interview

Dana Vespoli directorIt’s no secret that here at HMFH HQ we’re all big fans of performer turned director Dana Vespoli. Over the years, she’s helmed both dark, dramatic features and hardcore, dirty gonzo flicks, sometimes even blending the two. Porn’s gonzo genre has often been looked down upon by mainstream as being something that the average woman could not enjoy, with its usual focus on the more extreme side of pornography and unwillingness to examine the relationships and emotions of its subjects. Vespoli is seen as a pioneer of the genre, approaching gonzo with the sensitivity and candidness of an artist, a documentarian, and longtime fan of pornography. With movies like Fluid, Dana Vespoli’s Real Sex Diary, and the genre/gender blending Girl/Boy and its recently released sequel Girl/Boy 2, Vespoli makes it clear that she’s one of the most porn’s valuable directors working today. She generously agreed to an interview with me about her work as a gonzo director.

Judy Hologram: How do you define gonzo porn?

Dana Vespoli: I know that most people think of gonzo porn in the Hunter S. Thompson “breaking the fourth wall” way, but I think of it as indie movie making—so the crew is smaller, you’re working with fewer resources. It has a more intimate feel to it.

JH: Who are some other adult directors who have influenced you or who you admire?

Dana: John Leslie, Joey Silvera, John Stagliano, and Radley Metzger are major influences. I really admire Nica Noelle, who has been a great ally and friend in the business. She taught me a lot about the seduction aspect of porn. The importance of restraint. Her work is very elegant, and she’s smart as a whip.

JH: A lot of the gonzo porn that comes into the office has this strong sense of machismo to it and feels like it was made for the male gaze. Do you think that being a woman affects the way you approach gonzo?

Dana: I don’t know. I think it has a lot to do with the fact I was heavily influenced by the porn from the 1970s—it was the first porno I ever watched, and it felt very free, and happy and magical to me. There were all kinds of people having sex—black couples, women of all shapes and sizes and pretty decent narratives. Men weren’t cropped out of frame, and the scenes were very much about people giving and receiving pleasure. I carried that sensibility with me when I started shooting my own stuff, although I let it go for a minute, in my anxiety to try to keep up with the current times and see better financial returns. Everything now is so fucking compartmentalized because porn has turned into a fast food culture.

Dana Vespoli and Markus Dupree
Dana Vespoli and Markus Dupree in Girl/Boy 2

JH: When I interviewed B Skow, I learned that that he has a broader definition of gonzo than what I had, and his doesn’t necessarily include breaking the fourth wall and directly addressing the camera. He considers some of his plot-based and vignette movies to be gonzo as well. Do you think of any of your movies the same way?

Dana: Yes

JH: What made you a fan of the gonzo movies?

Dana: I became a fan of gonzo because I had endured so much of the stuff coming out of Vivid and it felt very cold and phony. I was trying to find movies that had the same intimacy as the old movies I had watched when I was 12. I found Seymore Butts and was hooked. After that I found John Stagliano and John Leslie.

Dana Vespoli and Chanel Preston
Dana Vespoli and Chanel Preston in Real Sex Diary 3

JH: A lot of your earlier work for Evil Angel was POV, but in the past two years or so you’ve started moving back in front of the camera with series like Lesbian Public Sex Fetish and Dana Vespoli’s Real Sex Diary. You’ve said in past interviews that female directors who held the camera, like Mason and Francesca Le, were influences on you. Do you think that you’ve started moving away from those influences and coming into your own as a director, or is there a different reason for this change?

Dana: My first movie with Evil Angel was a feature called Forsaken. After that feature I needed to shoot something inexpensive so I made Lesbian Anal POV, and then did another feature called Descent, and then created a pattern where I would follow a feature with something more cost effective to shoot. I prefer features or vignettes and really just shot POV movies, and Public Sex Fetish as a way to offset the cost of my features. I stopped doing those titles because they didn’t perform very well, and honestly they felt awkward to do.

Dana Vespoli photographed by Joshua Darling
Dana Vespoli photographed by Joshua Darling

JH: I’ve reviewed the past three installments of Dana Vespoli’s Real Sex Diary and you know that I’m kind of obsessed with it. In the last one you were kind of musing about whether or not you would continue the series. A lot of gonzo series will just go on forever and have dozens of entries if it’s successful. On the other hand, you seem to have ended Lesbian Anal POV at #5 in 2014. How do you decide when to end a series?

Dana: I end a series when it doesn’t make money, and as it turns out both my Real Sex Diary and POV didn’t not sell well. I will also end a series if I just can’t stand to do it anymore, like My Evil Stepmom or My Evil Stepson. I sold my soul to the devil in the interest of money, and tried out the [family fantasy] shtick, and I just couldn’t stomach it anymore. Not a fan of faux [family fantasy].

Dana Vespoli and Stoya
Dana Vespoli and Stoya in Fluid 3

JH: You live next door to Manuel Ferrara and Kayden Kross, which is like the Bohemian artist lifestyle fantasy of Andi’s and mine. Do you guys collaborate with each other or exchange ideas? Are there any other people in the industry who you collaborate with?

Dana: Manuel and I have kids together, so the arrangement made sense. I’m their daughter’s godmother, too, so it is nice to be able to see her every day. We all respect each other’s privacy and they very much do their own thing creatively and I do mine. I adore Kayden, and love what she and Stoya have with Trenchcoat X, where I’ve licensed all my best work.

JH: Have you had any ideas that you’ve wanted to do but weren’t able to execute for any reason?

Dana: I’ve wanted to do more blending—including scenes with TS performers in non “specialty” marketed movies, as well as gay. I have been discouraged from doing this because it is hard to sell, but I did it anyway with Girl/Boy 2, which comes out in a few weeks.

Buck Angel and Valentina Nappi in Girl/Boy 2
Buck Angel and Valentina Nappi in Girl/Boy 2

JH: What do you think has been your greatest success in this industry?

Dana: Finally being described as iconoclastic in a recent article. I can’t remember where I read that.

JH: You’re known for being a huge movie buff. Naturally that drives some of your plot-driven pornos, but does it also work its way into your gonzo movies?

Dana: Absolutely. I reference stuff all the time.

JH: What mainstream movies have had the biggest influence on your work as a director? What other works of art have influenced you?

Dana: Blue Velvet, and Lost Highway from David Lynch–Lickerish Quartet, and The Opening of Misty Beethoven from Radley Metzger–Romance, and A Real Young Girl from Catherine Breillat—Persona from Ingmar Bergman and everything Almodovar has ever done. I am also inspired by literature, since I spent all of college studying comparative literature and literary theory, and poetry: Rainer Maria Rilke, especially Sonnets to Orpheus, Federico Garcia Lorca, Virginia Woolf, the Ancient Myth, the Bible as literature, it goes on and on. I’m in love with Faust and also the story of Orpheus and Eurydice.

Dana Vespoli porn director

JH: What’s next for you?

Dana: I’m trying to figure that out right now. I am still shooting for Sweetheart Video, and have begun doing some shooting for Icon Male and Transsensual, which is exciting. It has been a struggle to find a happy medium between the art of what I do and commerce. What I love doesn’t translate well in the current porn consumption climate. I’m just trying to find my footing and reach my demographic. We’ll see what happens. I hope to land on my feet.

You can watch Girl/Boy 2 and the rest of Dana Vespoli’s filmography here on HotMoviesForHer.

Judy Hologram is a writer for HotMoviesForHer. You can follow her on Twitter @JudyHologram and the rest of us @HotMoviesForHer.

Porn and Sex Education

Peggy Orenstein
Peggy Orenstein

Last month, the New York Times published an OpEd from author Peggy Orenstein titled, When Did Porn Become Sex Ed? When it hit my social media feeds, I braced myself for an anti-porn diatribe about how the industry is destroying our youth and must be more strictly regulated by the government. Instead, I was pleasantly surprised to find that Orenstein’s main focus was, in fact, on the failure of responsible adults (parents, schools, health care providers, community leaders) to provide factual, comprehensive sexual education to young people. Even when sex education is available, “we still tend to avoid the biggest taboo of all: women’s capacity for and entitlement to sexual pleasure.”

These omissions lead young people to “consult pornography, at least in part, as though it were an instruction manual, even as nearly three-quarters say that they know it is as realistic as pro wrestling.” According to Orenstein, the many young women that she interviewed are not prioritizing their own sexual pleasure. When they begin having partnered sex, they gauge their own satisfaction by their (presumably male) partner’s satisfaction.

Curiously, Orenstein writes very little about porn itself; the dearth of comprehensive sex education in American schools bears the brunt of her concerns.  Porn performer, dominatrix, and podcaster Tina Horn tweeted at Orenstein, “This piece has great research. Why does it have to blame porn when it clearly argues bad sex ed is the issue?” Indeed, it seems that the NYT used the headline When Did Porn Become Sex Ed? simultaneously to make porn the scapegoat and to give the article a sexier, click-baity edge. Tina continued, “It’s the most sad when clear researched arguments are made and we are expected to infer porn as malevolent force.”

Even though Orenstein and the NTY manipulatively used porn as the framing device for a piece that was not really about porn, the article did spark important conversations about the intersection of sex education and pornography, and where our responsibility as porn industry workers begins and ends. It’s a conversation worth having, especially when young people are being denied information about their own bodies. I reached out to several porn performers and other industry workers to get their opinions on the matter.

Tina Horn
Tina Horn

Judy Hologram: What are your thoughts on Orenstein’s When Did Porn Become Sex Ed?

Princess Kali: Reading these kinds of articles that describe the ways in which young women are particularly affected by porn are always a bit heart-breaking. It’s tragic that ALL youth, regardless of gender, are left with porn as the only way to learn about the mechanics of sex, but young women seem to bear the brunt of the resulting pain, both physically and emotionally. It’s criminal (or it should be) that schools and government agencies do such a horrible, damaging job with sex education.

This is a generation that has grown up with the internet at their fingertips and cell phones in their pockets, so trying to keep information out of their hands is a battle that’s lost before it’s even begun. This is a generation that is not used to being denied information or dealing with “gate-keepers,” and so a system that was already hurtful has also become ridiculous.

Alyx Fox: The article points to the fact that Americans have trouble talking about sex, especially parents and [young people], and I think that’s true. Porn is often the scapegoat, but actually it is one of the only resources most people have to explore their fantasies and figure out their desires. I like that the author points to a need for adults to have intelligent conversations around sex—especially with each other, but also with [young people].

Kitty Stryker: I agree with Orenstein that parents, teachers, etc need to be in a position to talk about sex in a direct, honest, consensual, and respectful fashion. That said, when she discusses the Dutch’s openness around sex education, she fails to mention the study that suggested porn doesn’t seem to affect the sexual behaviour of Dutch teens. Another seemingly relevant study would be the Danish one about the impact of porn on relationships, where access to a variety of porn seems to benefit couples rather than hurt them. This leads me to question if, perhaps, porn is being scapegoated because of a lack of comprehensive sex education, rather than because it’s inherently “bad.” Just as a TV is not really a substitute for parenting, porn is not really a substitute for communicating about sex, nor should it be.

JH: It has been argued that porn literacy is an essential part of sex ed for young people. What does porn literacy mean to you? How can porn literacy be approached in sex ed?

Princess Kali
Princess Kali

Princess Kali: I agree that porn literacy should be a part of sex-ed for young people now, but I also believe that MEDIA literacy should be part of the curriculum. Teaching young people to understand, analyze, critique & reflect on what media shows and its effects on each of us both consciously and unconsciously is a part of living in the 21st century. To deny that porn is part of the “usual” sexual experience is an effort in futility. I personally don’t know how incorporating porn literacy in youth sex ed can be accomplished, which is one of the reasons I’ve always stayed away from youth sex ed in my personal career. But there are some brilliant sex educators (not necessarily in academia but in the schools, that are actually working with [young people]) that I’m sure have some amazing ideas. They should be sought out and listened to.

Alyx Fox: The most basic and necessary form of porn literacy is the one pointed to by the NYTimes article — knowing the difference between porn fantasies and personal realities. But to me, real porn literacy would mean knowing what kind of porn exists — who porn is made by, for, how, and why (insert cis het male gaze education here / alternative sexualities and feminist approaches). There should be a historical survey of porn with an understanding of the American film rating system and how it came to be. Add some cross-cultural study looking at other cultures and their ratings systems and restrictions, or lack thereof, around erotic media. An advanced course should include legal issues surrounding porn production and distribution with both a domestic and global POV. It should include a study of the economics of porn including piracy, “high risk businesses,” and the way financial institutions exert control over what gets produced.

Porn is often the scapegoat but actually it is one of the only resources most people have to explore their fantasies and figure out their desires.

Kitty Stryker: I think porn literacy is really important. For me, porn literacy is entangled with teaching [young people] (and adults!) that sex work is work. The adult industry is an industry, and like other industries involving entertainment, performers are paid to perform. Just as you wouldn’t try to do gymnastics like Cirque du Soilel, I think people should see porn as a job that involves practice, skill, athleticism, and, frankly, training! The more that people understand that and treat it as a job, I think the easier it is to explain the intricacies of porn as an entertainment and marketing industry.
How would you approach that in sex ed? I’m not sure, considering in some states you can’t even have proper sex ed, just abstinence only education. Despite the fact that maybe talking about porn and masturbation would help encourage abstinence, I doubt the places that go for that approach would go for it. Once you can tell [young people] how to have safer sex, then maybe you can begin to deconstruct their porn viewing habits. This site, however, is pretty well done and is made for teens.

Kitty Stryker
Kitty Stryker

JH: Are there instances where porn can be educational?

Princess Kali: My first response to this is always, “meh.” Can 2 Fast 2 Furious teach you to drive? Can Point Break (the 1st one) teach you how to skydive? Can 50 Shades teach you what a kinky relationship is like? (Hint, the answer to all three of those is no.) I think that porn is entertainment, and of course we can “learn” from entertainment, but I don’t think that makes it educational. That may seem like splitting hairs but to me it’s an important differentiation. Victoria’s Secret Catalogs aren’t porn but are often used as it (or were before easy online porn access!). Intention matters.

One of the reasons I created KinkAcademy.com & PassionateU.com is because I wanted to show sexual techniques (especially edgy or more dangerous ones) without the distraction of being super turned on right in that moment. When it comes to bondage or impact play, learning technique is truly a matter of safety, so I wanted people to learn how it works and then be safe to go create their own erotic in-person experiences.

Alyx Fox: Definitely. Right away I think of Crash Pad’s Guide to Fisting and Kink University but I know there are many titles that take an educational approach. But education is something that porn companies can do around porn, not only in porn. Producers can provide resources on their sites or find ways to engage in discussions around porn and talk about what they do. Foxhouse has not produced any educational titles yet, but we do participate in porn festivals and interviews and look for ways to talk about what we do and why we do it. And I think this is a very effective way to educate around porn without requiring all films to be educational. Sometimes it’s ok to have a film just be fun or twisted and taboo. With so much moral policing in our culture I think porn provides a much needed, more relaxed, indulgent experience and I’d hate to see that change.

Sometimes it’s ok to have a film just be fun or twisted and taboo. With so much moral policing in our culture I think porn provides a much needed, more relaxed, indulgent experience and I’d hate to see that change.

Kitty Stryker: I mean, educational porn is a whole genre, so yes. 🙂 That said, I think even when porn isn’t seeking to be education it can have some educational impact. I’ve discovered new turn ons through watching porn, or experimented with new positions I’ve seen other plus size performers do. I learned how to put a condom on with my mouth through watching porn. These are all great things! I have a context for sexual education, though, so I think critically about what I’m watching and if it makes sense for me. Unfortunately, we don’t tend to teach critical thinking in schools either, which doesn’t help our teens make sensible decisions.

JH: What responsibility does porn have to educate its viewers?

Alyx Fox
Alyx Fox

Princess Kali: I personally always err on the side of responsibility. I think if we had more porn literacy, there would be LESS responsibility, because viewers would have learned that it’s for entertainment and not as a how-to manual. But as of now, with porn so often acting as a form of education, I’m glad when they include safe-sex and consent discussions. When porn-as-entertainment is used as porn-for-education there’s often not much context for what’s going on or whether everyone involved has consented and is enjoying it. At least not in what is considered most “mainstream” porn. There are feminist and/or ethics driven companies creating porn and I wish mainstream media would promote those companies more.

Alyx Fox: I don’t think that porn has responsibility to directly educate. Porn should not have to pick up the slack just because Americans have a problem talking about sex, their fantasies, and desires. There are some non-pornographic films that are educational and other films that are not. If this is ok I don’t think porn should be held to a different standard just because of moral stigmas around sexually explicit content. I think it’s great that some porn takes that approach and definitely agree that those resources should be made available. This definitely makes a good case for porn literacy—helping people to understand how to view porn that is not directly educational—but that doesn’t need to come from porn itself. This is something that could also be provided by writers, sex educators, or parents.

Kitty Stryker: I don’t know that I feel porn has a responsibility to educate its viewers, per se. I would argue, more, that porn is accountable to its viewers. For example, I do believe that when people see slurs in porn is helps to normalize them, so I personally don’t use them in my work and I don’t tend to work with people who do. Is that my responsibility? No, but for me it’s a way of staying accountable to my politics and my community.

JH: How can young people/millennials affect the ways in which porn is produced, and the kinds of porn that is produced?

#PayForYourPorn
#PayForYourPorn

Princess Kali: I think this is one of the toughest problems to solve actually. Because I’d naturally say boycott those companies that don’t produce ethical porn. But no one pays for porn anymore, so it’s harder to use dollars as influence. So maybe the opposite stance. Millennials have to become willing to pay for porn that matches their desire for how it’s produced. Small companies that produce ethical porn have a very hard time staying in business these days thanks to tube sites and “amateurs” being willing to post free videos of sexual escapades in celebration of exhibitionist expression. So put your money where your mouth is, and buy porn from small indie companies!

Alyx Fox: I think it’s important first of all for young people to know about the different kinds of porn that are out there. I mean, wasn’t it just recently that Emma Watson said there needs to be a feminist version of porn? Which is a nice sentiment but actually is misleading and kind of laughable to those of us who know the amazing female directors who are already producing content right now. If Ms. Watson is clueless, then we can assume most of the people who are finding free content on tube sites are as well. Once people are aware of what is out there, we really need to drive home the fact that paying for porn is what keeps these studios and performers going. It’s really that simple. So find what you like, and pay for what you like. Even the mainstream porn industry will change once they see that independent and feminist studios are successfully producing different kinds of content. That’s already started happening, and I’m sure it will continue if porn watchers just continue to support the studios they like.

Kitty Stryker: The easiest way is to pay for your porn. Yes, you can find porn for free on hub sites, but that porn is often stolen. When producers don’t see money coming in from a particular performer or type of porn, they won’t bother booking more, which means your fave hub performer may be losing work when you’re jerking off to them for free. Help us continue to make the porn you like by paying us! Even better? Many models have their own clip stores, allowing them to be in charge of marketing and production themselves. Pay them directly and help influence independent business over big industry!

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Princess Kali is a former dominatrix and is the founder of Kink Academy. You can follow her on twitter @Princess_Kali.

Alyx Fox is a performer, producer, and director at Foxhouse Films. You can follow her on twitter @AlyxFoxxx.

Kitty Stryker is a BBW performer. You can follow her on twitter @KittyStryker.

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