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Watching Porn Isn’t Cheating

Since time immemorial, human beings have been the filthiest, horniest, and most downright dogged organisms when it comes to fulfilling our sexual needs. While single people nowadays have the luxury of finding a partner pretty easily with dating apps like Tinder and Bumble, those of us in committed relationships face a predicament when alone and in need of release. As we *should* know by now, masturbation is not only a natural biological response – but a healthy alternative to letting out those pent-up urges we all get from time to time. Not everyone is the same when it comes to our solo time; whether your preferred method of choice is using your imagination, reading erotica, or watching porn, these are certainly better options than, I don’t know, ACTUALLY cheating on the person you’re with.

But some of us are of a different opinion. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard stories of jealous partners flipping out on their significant others upon discovering them having special solo-time. It’s about time we faced the facts: watching porn when you’re in a relationship is not cheating! Don’t agree? Check out the following reasons why not:

By choosing to stimulate themselves with porn when alone, your partner is alleviating the desire to go out and otherwise entertain themselves

In these instances, it seems that jealousy stems from knowing their partner is getting off using the image of another person. But there should be some piece of mind in the fact that the porn viewer isn’t actually sleeping with anyone else, right? By that logic, shouldn’t that same jealousy be applied to anything that sexually stimulates your partner? Are sex toys now suspect when discussing fidelity too? We have to know where to draw the line.

We’re kidding ourselves to think those in a monogamous relationship don’t still have a wandering eye… it’s only natural. Think of it this way, would you rather your partner be checking out hotties at the bar, or go home and fantasize about some completely unattainable woman like Jessica Drake?

Jessica Drake
In his dreams!

Porn provides inspiration for the bedroom

Whether we like it or not, viewing porn informs our own sexual habits to some degree. If you’ve been in a monogamous relationship for any extended period of time, you know that things in the bedroom can kinda get stale after awhile. This isn’t necessarily either partner’s fault, but the fact of the matter is that doing any activity over and over again tends to lead to habit-forming behavior. Unfortunately, a lot of times, this includes sex with your partner.

Want a simple way to spice things up in the bedroom? Watching porn is certainly an accessible and pleasurable way to learn a new position, trick, or how to implement a new toy into your stalling sex life. If you catch your partner watching porn in their alone time, rather than being upset, try considering it research!

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Watching porn with a plot can even help you last longer in bed

Oftentimes the argument against watching pornography is that it leads viewers to suffer from premature ejaculation. No one can dispute that a succinct and sexy video may bring about a faster, possibly premature climax, but if you’re only watching porn for the most visceral imagery and nothing else, that’s (arguably) kind of your fault.

Sure, gonzo gets right to the point – the “good stuff,” if you will. But there’s a wealth of porn with thoughtful, tantalizing plots that are meant to entice and romance the viewer to their desired end goal. If your partner doesn’t feel rushed or shamed about their porn-viewing habits and they can actually take time to enjoy themselves, they can appreciate more nuanced videos, simultaneously building up masturbatory endurance that will translate into their sexual performance.

That’s right folks – maybe instead of destroying relationships, viewing porn is the single key factor in saving your monogamous partnership? It’s a novel idea that is certainly up for debate, but hopefully next time you catch your significant other having some significant alone time, you can ease up on the criticism a bit and see how it might actually benefit your partnership in the long run. You could even try watching it with them and invite a new kind of intimacy into your relationship!


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5 Reasons Porn is Good for your Marriage (or Relationship)

I have recently had a few conversations with my girlfriends about porn and their husband’s and partner’s porn viewing habits and almost all of them lump porn in with cheating or going to strip clubs.  I personally don’t mind if my husband and his buddies want to go to a strip club, but I guess if I reach I can understand why it bothers them.  Cheating on the other hand, I always feel is completely unacceptable in a marriage or relationship.  Porn, though, really?  I think Porn is good for your marriage and can be healthy, exciting, and empowering.

 

Here are 5 reasons that porn is good for your marriage or relationship.

 

1.  Porn can get you in the mood.  Let’s face it, after a long day at work, or a long day at home taking care of toddlers, you don’t always feel so sexy.  You are tired, you got bags under your eyes, haven’t shaved your legs since last summer and you just want to put on your long-john-looking pj’s and pass out when your head hits the pillow.  But, you can’t do that every day. Sex is actually a great stress reliever and can help you sleep better and we all want to have it, we just aren’t in the mood.  Cue the porn!  Watching porn alone or with your partner can help get you in the mood and ready for some hot sexy lovemaking (or quick no so sexy lovemaking if you don’t have time to shave your legs first!).  Watching porn to get in the mood doesn’t mean your marriage or relationship lacks intimacy or desire for each other, or that your partner is not attracted to you, it just an acknowledgement that sometimes you need to a little kick start and fantasy to get your head of the stresses of your everyday life.

2.  Porn can give you that extra push to explore your fantasies (or your partners).  Ever been in a relationship and your partner told you they like something you have never tried and they wanted you to try it with them?  Assuming you are in a trusting, loving and healthy relationship (and what your partner is asking is not dangerous) you might want to try it for them.  But you also might be scared, confused, or not even know what it is or how to do it.  Cue the porn!  Porn can help you introduce your fantasies or hidden desires to your partners and allow you to explore it with them to see if it is something they would be willing to try with you.  Without porn, you might just get a simple “no way in hell your putting that there,” but exploring your fantasies with porn and your partner could actually introduce them to your desires and get them more comfortable and give them the courage to try something new.

3.  This works with your own fantasies too girls, ever think you might want to try something with your partner but don’t know how to bring it up?  Cue the porn!  Porn can open lines of communication within a relationship or marriage regarding your turn-ons, turn offs, boundaries and desires.  Maybe you will learn that you both like to listen to music during sex, or maybe your partner would like to have the lights on, there is no end to the conversations that porn can bring up that there really otherwise might not be a comfortable time to discuss.

4.  A lot of my friends think that their partners only watch porn because they are no longer attracted to them.  This is so far from the truth, and they should watch some porn so I can prove it to them!  There are porn videos with every body type imaginable and watching porn and being turned on is nothing to be ashamed of and it doesn’t mean your partner is any less attracted to you.  If you are just diving into porn with your partner and you are concerned about your partners attraction to you and your body type, choose a porn that featured women similar to you, and I bet your partner is just as turned on by it as they are when you are alone in bed after it’s over.

5. Watching porn can be empowering to women.  Women sometimes get so hung-up on making sure their partners aren’t watching too much porn that they forget it’s OK for a woman to fantasize and masturbate and explore their own sexuality too.  Maybe the next time your husband goes to the strip club for a bachelor party you put the kids to bed, make yourself a strong martini and put on a porn with some men or women that you fantasize about and enjoy your evening.  Cue the Porn!

So how about we get rid of the porn stereotypes that men and women in relationships shouldn’t need to watch porn, or porn promotes violence or negative behaviors towards women, and just finally see it for what it really can be, a healthy outlet, entertainment, and a way to help heighten your sex life with your partner.  Porn is good for your marriage and relationship, try some out today and get 10 free minutes.