Zack and Miri Make a Porno has been all over the news lately, apparently because the word “porno” in a title is way more than most people can handle. I’ll be heading to the theater to see it for the obvious reasons, but also because I am a little in love with Elizabeth Banks.
This morning I read a great review by Audacia Ray, director of The Bi Apple and sexpert extraordinaire. Everything Ray writes is insightful, but I really love this comparative review between the movie and her experiences in the industry. It’s funny and pretty great that Premier readers will have a better idea about the industry because of it.
Today’s Top Five Tuesday pays homage to my favorite bisexual movies and will hopefully bring to light some great flicks that fall into a genre that doesn’t get enough love from the industry. Good bi porn captures raw sexuality without restrictions and hopefully you’ll see it like I do in these movies!
In my experience, bisexual movies are really amazing or total crap. Apparently there is no middle ground when it comes to this particular genre. There’s nothing worse than watching bi porn where half of the participants are obviously not thrilled to be there. Since in the amazing world of porn all women are pretty much bisexual, it’s really important to find male performers who have a genuine interest in men and women. Not just some dude who’s desperate enough to close his eyes while another guy sucks him off.
The directors and performers in these movies set out to capture a broader picture of human sexuality, resulting in great porn for those of us who like to play outside the box.
It’s a sad time for sex writing enthusiasts everywhere, but especially in NYC.Only weeks after discontinuing Audacia Ray’s “Naked City” column, the Village Voice is pulling the plug on Tristan Taormino’s sex column “Pucker Up” too.After nine years and more than 200 columns, the paper cited budget cuts as the reasoning behind relaxing their pucker.Very disappointing, but not to worry, you can still hit up PuckerUp.com to get your fill of the Anal Sex Queen’s signature sassy sex writing.
And you can always check out Tristan’s super sexy instructional films and her amazing reality-porn Chemistryseries on HotMoviesForHer.com!
Back December, Craigslist posted an ad in NYC looking for someone to buy a lightly used sex machine from a sex toy reviewer who had no room for it.
Sex machine for sale (not a person, an actual machine) - w4mw - 27
Date: 2007-12-03, 9:37PM EST
So I’m a sex toy reviewer, and a little over a year ago I acquired a fucking machine to review (Topco brand, it retails at $395). It’s kinda big, and I really want it out of my apartment. It has all but one attachment (the one I used, which I will throw away), and technically it is lightly used.
Yes, it’s true, I’m trying to sell my lightly used sex machine on CL. I’m asking $100 for it, you come pick it and get it out of my life. It’s manageable to get it on the subway (probably easier with two people), but I recommend wrapping the box in brown paper or something, since it has pictures and words that will make your package very obvious.
CL doesn’t allow me to post the link to the review, but go to fleshbot[dot]com and search “Marital Aid Test Kitchen: The Fucking Love Machine,” and scroll down to the bottom of the page - the review was posted on October 20, 2006.
Turns out the mystery reviewer looking to ditch the dong machine was none other than HotMoviesForHer’s contributing writer and all around sexpert Audacia Ray. Sure we found this out only days after the inital post, so why are we talking about it nine months later, you ask?
Well, a good project, just like a baby, takes a while to come together and make something with legs. Or a running motor and attachments that thrust, in this case. Anyway, it turns out the ad was way more than an ad… more like fodder for Audacia’s latest film project. I present to you:
In the five minute clip (embedded below) it’s easy to see why you’d want to shell out the $2.99 to check out the whole 25 min short. It’s awesome! Unfortunately for us, Audacia is having issues with her online checkout provider as we speak and has no way to accept payment right now. But she is working hard to fix the sitch and should hopefully be back online soon!
Ever since watching the Audacia Ray’s interview with Marisa DiMattia of Needled, a site for everything tattooed, on the third installment of Live Girl Review, I’ve been thinking about tattoos and sex and how they overlap and influence each other.
Lucky for me, when I arrived into the office this morning, I had not one, but two(!) links waiting for me in my messages. Both were for Marisa DiMattia’s new column on Suicide Girls called Marisa DiMattia’sErotic Ink, which is all about, what else, sex and tattoos. In her column, Marissa not only talks about sex and its links to both tattoos and the act of tattooing, but shares results of a survey she did with 561 tattooed people about their experiences with tattoos and sexin’. Read the rest of this entry »
It’s Wednesday at the news is flowing. Instead of going on and on about humpday being the best day for loving links, let’s just get to em!
- Dan Savage makes me so happy. Aside from giving some of the best sex advice ever and making Santorum a word I can say again without throwing up in my mouth, Savage has perfectly captured how I feel about Sarah Palin and all the prego scandals. Check him out on Real Time with Bill Maher over at Daily Bedpost.
- A whole article about the perils of wearing high heels, then one line that totally makes the bunions and fucked up tendons worth it. (via Jezebel)
- This looks like such a good movie! Even if it doesn’t include Dolly Parton… let’s just be thankful that no one tried to actually remake the original. (via fleshbot)
- What the what? Roald Dahl was a sex spy? That TOTALLY changes my take on Willy Wonka… ok, not really. And he wasn’t a sex spy, per se, but he was a spy and ”A certain amount of hank-panky was condoned, especially when it was for a good cause.” But a sex spy sounds sooo much better! (via TheFrisky)
- Porn star fired from Subway because of his porny past. Apparently an angry customer recongized gay porn star Kurt Wild from his movie days and threatened to boycott the store if he wasn’t fired. A few questions… why?? … and who cares? … and how did this guy even recongize Wild if he wasn’t watching the porno himself? And if he was checking out the old porno, what the fuck gives him the right to judge someone performing as bad, but someone watching as good. Holy hypocritical. Read more about this on $pread Magazine’s blog.
While my pre-brithday day off yesterday was awesome, unforutantely I missed the hump day link love. I’m not complaining, of course, but who am I to deprive our readers of their weekly porno/sexy news? So, instead of forgoing for the week, I figured I would just take this lovely Thursday afternoon and turn back time (Cher style, of course) to bring hump day once more. I can do things like that, it’s my birthday!
- While masturbation isn’t really a taboo topic over hear in pornoland, it definitely is thought to be in the real world. I get the whole idea of patriarchy and women seen as mothers and sexless beings without a man sexin them up (I was a women’s studies major after all), but I just can’t understand why it is still so damn risque!! Masturbation is the safest sex, totally healthy and the best way to get to know what gets you off. Anyway, the folks over at TheFrisky rounded up a bunch of lady self lovin’ stories that are definitely worth a looksie. (via thefrisky)
At 28, I’m not “old” by any standards - except the standards set by the porn industry. Twenty eight is full on MILF territory, even though I don’t have any children. I started working in sex when I was 21 and all the models were essentially my peers, but as I’ve hung around the biz over the years and gotten older, porn performers suddenly seem freakishly young to me.
It’s possible that I’m getting conservative in my old age, but these days I find myself attracted to women and men who are in my peer age group or older. I mean, it’s true that I’m also something of a chubby chaser but I like the fuller shapes that come with age, and while I’m not lusty over granny porn (yet?), I appreciate the mature look. Maybe I was naive when I was younger, but despite knowing that sexuality is fluid and can change over time blah blah blah, I didn’t necessarily think about how age factors into that equation.
Though I’m well aware of the dangers of extending my personal tastes into the realm of thinking how others should conduct their business, I’ve become ever more acutely aware of the fact that most people who watch porn probably aren’t in the same peer age group as the performers. This is, incidentally, not dissimilar from the fact that most people who watch television shows like Gossip Girl aren’t in that peer group either - so its not exactly a revelation.
But still, I think about who I was at 18 and at 21, and I do sometimes feel weird about those young women making the porno. Its purely subjective, but I definitely didn’t know jack shit about sexuality when I was that age: I hadn’t yet perfected the Art of No, nor had I gained knowledge of my limits. Adults of all ages are both capable and incapable of making good choices for themselves, so it’s tough to actually enforce the Ready For Porn Age. The government says its 18. This is something that comes up from time to time within the porn industry, and I know of some directors and companies who have informal or sometimes formal policies about the age of their performers. Oren Cohen at TightFit Productions stepped up a few years ago and publicly stated that he wouldn’t work with women under 21 because he didn’t think they would be fully ready for the intense, SM-inspired shoots he does.
But although the debate about porn and age will undoubtedly rage on, and while Barely Legal as a brand and a wank-inspiring concept continues to be a huge share of the porno market, it wasn’t always like this. Not by a long shot. The sadly defunct but still online Eros Zine has a great interview that Joanne Cachapero did with porn legend Seka last December, in which she talks about how the age and attitudes of performers has changed:
I have girls come up to me that are like 19, 20 years old, and they say, ‘I want to be like you when I grow up…’ And I say, ‘Do you have a college education? Do you have a savings account? Do you have a plan?’
‘Well, no…’
Then I’m like, ‘Go back to school.’
They think I’m out of my mind. But I was like 25, 26 years old before I started. I didn’t just step off the bus. I owned seven adult bookstores before I even got into the performing side of the business.
However, I don’t mean to use my opinion and Seka’s opinions to shame young people about their porny decisions nor to shame older people who like getting off while looking at younger bodies. To this end I asked Trixie Fontaine, a mid-thirties indie webwhore who runs a personal porn site called Tasty Trixie, about how her attractions to younger porn performers have changed over the years, and her answer completely contradicts my feeling on the subject. For Trixie, the attraction to younger models have gotten stronger as she’s gotten older. She had this to say:
I’m not sure if it’s my age and distance from my own youth or being a pornographer whose job it is to see things from the perspective of dirty old men (or just naturally being a dirty old wo-man myself OR it just being natural in GENERAL to think ripe, young women are hot, beautiful to look at, and slightly taboo to jack to). The older I get, the guiltier I feel about it . . . and the hotter it all is. While I’m critical of the way women, especially young women, are portrayed in porn, it doesn’t quash my arousal upon seeing a big cock stuffed in a small-breasted, wide-eyed teen’s mouth.
There’s no one perfect and healthy way to think about it - I mean, its sex and sex is messy and complicated - but the category “adult” really kind of white washes the whole issue. Though clearly the Cult of the Hot Young Thang is strong and influential in the porn biz today, porn certainly allows for more body and age diversity than mainstream media. Even if that diversity gets quickly turned into a fetish, its still worth something.
Only months after it’s launch, the Village Voice’s Naked City sex blog is no more. Sadness! I know we are bummed because it was an awesome site and one of our frequently visited hotspots, but what’s worse is that the public is denied another venue for sex-positive, accurate, fun and queer/kinky/open-minded writings. Plus, it really sucks for editor Audacia Ray, our friendly neighborhood sexpert.
But not to worry on the Audacia Ray front in the content area, just pop over to Audacia’s column right here on HotMoviesForher!
Stuck in the hump? The midweek hump that is. No worries, Wednesday is all about the linkage in these parts. Sit tight, click the mouse and enjoy the sexy, sexy ride.
- You Condoms is taking safe sex a step further with a service that puts you right in the action, whether or not you are the one getting laid. The company imprints custom pictures and designs directly on the front of the condom wrapper - all you need to do is send in a picture and they take it from there. While fun in theory, I think it sounds a little creppy actually. and I know there should be a “go fuck yourself” joke in here somewhere, but I can’t seem to pull it off without sounding too harsh… (via TheFrisky)
- Check out HotMoviesForHer contributing writer Audacia Ray’s newly redesigned and elongated Live Girl Reviews. This almost ten minute video features a slew of book, toy and product reviews, as well as a quick tip from sexpert Jamye Waxman and a free give away to the first few commentors! Get to writing in!
- CW goes GLBT. The newest installment of Tyra Banks’ America’s Next Top Model empire will include a 22 year-old transgender woman named Isis. Though there have been transgender characters on popular TV shows before, the self identified ”woman born physically male” will be the first trans-woman on an American reality show. Big props to Tyra and the CW for being awesome and inclusive! (via TheFrisky)
