Ah, the booty, a magical, taboo place of wonder.  The anus has an amazing amount of delicious nerve endings that are just waiting to be stimulated.  Unfortunately the stigma and mystery around it causes so many folks to forgo the fantastic action they could be enjoying.  Along with being a great place to play, the bum has a few rules you need to abide by when flipping over.  Today’s HotMovies4Her Tips focuses on the 4 Cardinal Rules of Anal Action.

Lube, Lube, Lube.  When you think you’ve lubed enough, lube some more.  Unlike the vagina, the anus is not a self lubricating orifice and you need to add lube to the mix to cut down on the friction.  Why would you want to soften the friction, you ask?  Because the anal canal is made up of delicate tissue that can easily tear if you thrust around without proper lubrication.  I heard a great analogy the other day that I just need to pass along.  Trying to have anal sex without lube is like trying to go down a waterslide without any water in it (yes in your bathing suit, where all your skin is rubbing against the slide – ouch!).  Lube it up.

Slow down!  Nothing about anal sex is a race, so if you are looking to get in, get off and go about your day – find something else to do.  The opening to the ass is guarded by two muscle rings – the inner and outer sphincters.  Though they are right next to each other, they function very differently.  The outer sphincter is controlled by you; when you flex your butt and clench it, that’s the muscle you are working.  It’s also the outer sphincter you are opening when you take deep breaths and try to relax to have anal sex.  The inner sphincter is controlled by the autonomic nervous system – the same system that tells your heart to pump and your lungs to breathe.  You have no control over it, though with time and patience, you can train it to relax and open up.  If you are rushing and plowing into as ass without time for it to relax and open its muscles, you are going to create a painful and unpleasant experience for the person attached to the butt.

You have certain flair!  Well, it’s really flare I mean actually… flare as in flared base, which anything you put up a butt should have.  A flared base just means that the base of the toy should be larger than the shaft; it acts as an anchor so that what you are playing with will not get lost in your anus.  You do not want a toy (or anything) to get lost in your butt, which it easily can when lubed up fingers are holding on and powerful orgasm contractions are involved.  A toy lost in your bum is a trip to the emergency room – and a vibrating toy is a go-to-the-ER-right-now situation.  Save yourself the pain and embarrassment, and just make sure you have a toy with a flared base.

Going from mouth to booty is great and going from vag to butt is fine, but going from ass to anywhere else is a no go.  You don’t want bacteria from your bottom getting into your vagina or your mouth because it can cause serious infections, so when you want to play in the ass then move to somewhere else, just be sure to wash your toys, fingers, penis, whatever before sticking them anywhere else.  Or even easier, just use a condom and take it off and change it when you want to move around!

Keep your anal action safe and sexy!  Enjoy!

xoxo
-JD

While “Stick It In My Poop Shoot 45” seemed appetizing (not!), I thought that a movie called “Anal Pleasure” would be a little more up my alley, so to speak.  I am I huge anal advocate and while anything that has to do with enjoying the booty is a-ok with me, I still prefer to watch pornos that treat the ass with the respect it deserves.

Along with just doing anal adventuring, the performers in this Viv Thomas flick take the time to get into to action, kissing and groping each other’s entire bodies.  That, coupled with high quality video and beautiful “sets,” gives this movie a hotter edge than most.  Sure, that’s my own opinion, but isn’t that what you came here for anyway?

Within the first few minutes, we get two sexy people (Teena Dolly and James Brossman) getting straight to business and love up on each other wholly before heading to the booty – and before even taking off all of their clothes.  Sure I love a plot, but sometimes you just want to get down to it without having to know all the details of why they are fucking.  They are fucking… isn’t that enough?

When it comes to anal porn, I do really wish that they would show folks actually using lube.  It frustrates the hell out of me that people think they can just head to asstown without lubing up the highway.  Seriously people – when it comes to ass play, you need to use lube; and when you think you’ve used enough, use some more.  Yes, it’s true that porn is just fantasy, but I don’t think it would ruin the illusion to show folks using lube.  And it would probably really make a difference to the women who are experiencing super painful anal sex because their partner thinks that because women in porn take it with no lube, then their woman should be able to do the same.  Little do they know that these performers are having their assholes prepped with lube and action before the scene starts.  Just a thought, porn makers, from your friendly neighborhood sex educator.

I’m going to be perfectly honest with you here and say that my favorite part of this movie was that the editors/directors left in those little-bit-funny sounds that happen when air gets trapped in a vagina during vigorous thrusting in doggy-style.  You know, those “farty” sounds that happen… the ones that can totally mortify you if your partner isn’t mature enough to know what it is.  I really appreciate that those were left in there, as well as all the moaning and groaning.  I do love music in porn, but I also love when it’s left out to let the natural sounds come out.

All in all, Anal Pleasure was a total pleasure to watch. Thanks Viv Thomas!

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If there is one thing I am, it is a total Anal Advocate!  This amazing orifice is not only super sexy, it’s filled with all sorts of delicious nerve endings – even on the outside!  For all you people who still shy away from the backdoor, fear not, this fantastic starfish of pleasure is sure to thrill you and have you begging for more!  Check out our top five hetero Anal Adventures for some action from the rear!

Rock & Roll In My Butthole: This awesome Burning Angel porn has an accompanying theme song written specifically for it – need I say more?  No, but I will anyway.  Nearly three hours of butthole-tastic sexin’!  Thanks Joanna!

Butt Seriously Folks: With a name like this, could I seriously leave it off the list? While it doesn’t look too old, this flick is definitely considered a classic… and who am I to deny you some classic anal activity? Nobody, that’s who!

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Advanced Anal Play: The Anal Queen, Tristan Taormino, is back with an advanced guide to getting it on, booty-style.  But don’t think this instructional flick is some dry educational piece – Taormino keeps it fresh and super sexy, all while inserting some of her delicious knowledge where the sun don’t shine… in your brains!

Le Tour Anal: What is one non-sexual activity that has you constantly thinking about your ass?  Bike riding, of course.  So why not mix a bike race with a little butt sex pit stopping?  I mean, it’s European, so clearly it makes the most sense.  But it’s all about anal, so who cares?

Belladonna’s Ass Wide Open: Belladonna and butt sex go together like peanut butter and jelly – a match made in heaven.  Actually, come to think of it, Belladonna and ANY sex are a match made in heaven… but we can’t seem to ever get enough of watching her get her fill, if you know what we mean. Even when she is directing, like in this quality flick.  Yum.

Awesomely Anal!  This list gives me some ideas.  Who’s ready to head home?

xoxo
-JD

I was looking through our movie reviews and realized that we hadn’t watched an instructional flick in a minute.  Being a sex educator myself, I just knew I couldn’t let this opportunity pass by without taking the time to get my schoolin’ on.  And who did I go to for this, you ask?  Why, the fabulous Nina Hartley, of course!  Rocking the educator role in more than 30 “Nina Hartley’s Guide To…” movies, Hartley is a totally authority on all things sexy.  This time I decided to go with a topic I know very little about – double penetration (DP).

As is with all Nina Hartley guides, this educational adventure started out with a nice, healthy dose of conversation and communication before any DP action was even mentioned.  Along with covering all of the how-to basics of where to put what and maneuvers to make that work, Hartley discusses all of the details of picking the right partners (both anatomically and emotionally), being in the right mindset, and so much more.

Seriously, the lady makes sure to cover all the bases, which I think is totally amazing and what makes this video really worthwhile to anyone watching it.  She even has co-star Kylie Ireland lie back and give us a female anatomy lesson with her pussy.  Oh, Nina, you are such a rock star sex educator!

Once the foundation of communication and all that good stuff is in place, Nina joins Randy Spears and Mario Rossi for a full on demo, showing us viewers at home exactly how to get a double penetration party going.  Starting with lots of dick sucking and solo fucking, this scene takes it’s time building us up to the double dick headliner.  Nina doesn’t just take it all like a champ, she shows how totally into it she is with a bunch of dirty talk and lots of loud, delicious moans.  Yum.

Whether she is sitting on a couch talking or getting pounded by two big cocks, Nina Hartley is a total class act and definitely one of the hottest women in porn.  You’d be smart to take a look at all she has to offer!

Every once in a while I receive a question from someone looking for a specific kind of porn, and I get to spend a little extra lovin’ time researching the movies they are interested.

Last week I got an email asking me about female-on-male booty sexin’ – better know as pegging.  This reader was specifically looking for flicks that show more loving domination and less pain/humiliation.  Instead of just keeping this awesome info between the two of us, I figured I should  shout it from the rooftops and do a whole Top Five Tuesday dedicated to babe-on-boy butt love!

Fantasy Sex:Strap On Love 2: This awesomely cute tattooed guy mentioned that he’d like to be fucked up the butt.  His partner is nervous, but goes for it and realizes how much she loves it.  Sounds like a rom-com, but this is all porno, baby!  Sweet, tender and totally fucking hot!

Fuck You… Fuck Me: Two couples explore some of the many exciting things that you can do when you open your mind to super hot different kinds of sexing.

I Strap On My Man 11: Four different scenes of ladies bringing their men loads of butt joy, as well as plenty of BJs, pussy licking and straight up penis in vag lovin’.

Strap On Couple: Dirty, Wet and  Intimate Fun With  Zora and Zane: Real life couple Zora and Zane add a little spice to their sex life with lots of anal, toys, squirting and more!  Fun for all!

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure for Men: While yes this flick is mostly an educational guide, the suuuper hot demo scenes are so worth a watch for just getting into butt loving for men.  You can never go wrong when it comes to Tristan!

Bottom’s up! Enjoy!

xoxo
-JD

It had been way too long since I saw the amazing Nina Hartley in action, so I did a random search recently and stumbled up on this one. Once I saw that she and Sean Michaels were together in this one, I knew I needn’t look any further!

I didn’t know much about Tom Byron’s Seasoned Players, but have to say it looks pretty decent. Over the years, they’ve shot a number of women who have impacted the industry lately and it’s nice to see them get their due. It’s easy to find XXX films starring women who a bit older, but Byron really highlights some of the best to ever work like Hartley, Ginger Lynn and Lisa Ann in the series. Of course, he also sneaks in some relatively new players at the same time, which is nice for those of you who like fresh meat.

Back to Volume 12 – Things start off well because I love Tommy Gunn. First of all, he ends all of his tweets with “nice!” which makes me think this is a dude who really appreciates life. Secondly, he fucks like a jack hammer and I love it. He’s partnered with Ariella Ferrera, who I have never heard of, but definitely enjoyed. As much as I talking about settings, I really appreciate watching two attractive people fuck in a mostly white room.

Now for the whole reason I started watching this movie – Hartley and Michaels. I assume you’re all familiar with both stars, but for those of you who aren’t: Nina Hartley is a goddess and Sean Michaels has an enormous cock he’s been sticking in ladies for decades. Things start off pretty slowly, which I always appreciate, but before long Michael’s breaks out the lube (!) and Hartley has a glass plug up her ass. Once that’s in place, Michael’s fills her other hole and slowly fucks her. Things get a little more frantic once the plug is set aside and he’s fucking her ass from behind, but overall this is a more realistic portrayal of anal sex and I loved it.

Please note that both of these people are total pros when considering how realistic it is, but I love the fact that they take their time and use lots of lube. Of course, I’m guessing Michaels has to use lube just to get that massive piece of meat into his pants in the morning, but hopefully you get the point.

I’d also suggest the Aurora Snow/Tom Byron scene. She’s one of those legends I mentioned earlier and it’s a really fun scene with some really hot doggie style sexing!

If you like watching ladies who are no longer on their parent’s health insurance fuck, I was pretty impressed with my first foray into this series.

When it comes to reviewing a movie I really love, sometimes it is hard to do anything but point and grin. That is about how I am feeling right now, as I try to put pen to paper (finger to keyboard?) and express just what I feel about this fabulous Dr. Carol Queen/Robert Morgan instructional butt romp.

As a sex educator myself, I spend a great deal of time figuring out exactly what information is important to fit into a limited time frame, and the best way to keep things fun, frisky and engaging. That said, I really can’t give higher praise to Bend Over Boyfriend for creating a truly sensual and educationally explorative experience for the viewers. Queen and Morgan (directed by the amazing Shar Rednour) bring a warm, informed presence to build an atmosphere of sex-positivity, as well as keep it hot enough to send sparks flying.

Bend Over Boyfriend, which I consider the seminal video of its subject (this is before Tristan Taormino brought her anal lovin’ to the educational screen), eases us viewers into the wonderful world of anal play and pleasure for men – focusing on men with female partners. Touching on all the important info, like lube, communication, toys and pace for the first half of this hour long movie, the flick naturally transitions into sexy activities and demonstration by the middle mark. Like I said, it’s difficult to find a good balance between educating and arousing, but these folks were right on the money.

One of my favorite aspects of this movie is that the educators and demonstrations are quick to show that there are many kinds of ways that pairs can have sex and communicate – from talking about various positions, to explaining more abstract things, like a woman with a strapped-on dildo feeling just as feminine as ever. The attention to detail and normalization of a fairly taboo act went a long way without ever seeming super process-y or preachy. That, to me, is the sign of a awesome educator.

All-in-all, this has been a movie I have loved for a long time and am ecstatically thrilled that we now get to share it with our viewers. So, whether you have an interest in boys, butts or even just bettering your knowledge base, definitely check this movie out!

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Back in the summer of 2001, sex columnist (and my personal hero) Dan Savage held a contest to give a proper name to the act of a woman fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo. After a month of receiving ideas and casting a reader vote, Savage officially welcomed “pegging” into the pervy lexicon.  Since then, “pegging” has caught on like wildfire and is now common knowledge for the anally awesome act of strapping-on and going to town on your boy’s bottom.

This week’s Top Five Tuesday is all about asses  – well, men’s asses really, as we are featuring pegging aplenty and celebrating all the fabulous things a woman can do with her dude’s dirt star*!

Straight Guys For Gay Eyes & For Women Too! – Plug ‘N Play: This awesome studio offering straight porn made for gay men finally takes on guys getting it up the butt!  Whether it’s digits or dildos being used, each scene ends with everyone super satisfied.

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure For Men: No one makes an instructional porn quite like Tristan Taormino.  Her perfect mix of education and keeping everything hot hot hot takes on a life of it’s own in this flick, as Taormino teaches about anal – her signature style of sex.  This is a must see for anyone interested in adding a pegging play to their lives!

Jazzmon Private Collection #40 – Strap-On Smoking Amazon: I’m not gonna lie – Jazzmon kinda scares the crap out of me, but I kind of love her too.  This muscly mistress is a force to be reckoned with and any ass that gets a taste of her hardcore FemDom action better love it… or else.  Plus this is a REAL FemDom session to boot, so no porno posing or here. Only the real deal!

StrapOn Chicks: Bella’s Bitches: Aww, it’s Belladonna’s very first  female-on-male strap-on scene!  Known for her awesome anal antics now, this flick is a stroll down memory lane of the amazingness that is Belladonna bending over a boy butt.  Ah, memories.

Strapped On: A mix of both ladies getting pussy plowed and men getting bottom banged, this three hour fuck fest is a win for anyone that loves a good penetration party. And if you get a chance, check out the box cover closely to see some premium penis font action.  Is that Comic Sans?  Nope, it’s cocks.

Xoxo
-J.D. Bauchery

* Best butt name ever!

ps. Dan Savage is also responsible for the awesomeness that is “Santorum.”

Earlier this month I ran a workshop on anal play for a local toy shop.  Since the class turned out so great and people had so many great questions, I decided to share my handout with our HM4Her readers to make sure that you guys are getting the best of the best when it comes to sex education.  There was so much info that I had to break it into two parts (check out Intro to Anal Play, Part 1)! What what in the butt, let’s get to it!

In the first section I covered all the basics of why people have anal sex, the fears surrounding anal play, the expectations involved with anal sex and all of the basic anatomy of the butt.  Now we get to talk about safety, prep, techniques and toys – all the super sexy good stuff!

Safety Basics

- Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you are doing something wrong.

- Lube, Lube Lube, Lube, Lube! When it comes to butts, you can never use enough lube! Your ass does not self lubricate (like a vagina) so lube is super, extra important. For anal sex, thicker lubes are great. Your best bet is either silicone or water-based lube (as oil-based lubes can weaken condoms, if you are using them), but remember that you cannot use silicone lube with silicone toys. Also remember to add more lube frequently. If you think you’re using too much lube, add some more.

- Whatever you put up your butt must have a flared base that is bigger than the object, keeping it from going all the way in and getting stuck in your rectum. It is no fun and usually ends with a trip to the ER to get whatever it is extracted.

- Never go from the anus to the vagina or mouth without first washing off the toy, penis, finger, what have you. You can go from vag/mouth to butt, but the other way can lead to all sorts of nasty infections that you don’t want.

- Patience! Start slow and keep communication open throughout the experience. Make sure the person attached to the ass is doing alright and feeling good.

- Desensitizing lubes and gels that have a numbing effect (like Anal Ease) aren’t the answer to pain free anal sex and they can actually cause more injury. What you can’t feel can end up hurting you. Plus, if you can’t feel anything, what about your pleasure? Pleasure is the point.

- Keep your fingernails short and clean with smooth edges. The butt has delicate tissues that don’t like to be scratched or torn. If you want to finger an ass and also maintain your mani, try wearing latex gloves. They aren’t just for doctors! Also, if you do have long nails that you want to keep, put a cotton ball in the fingertip of each glove and get to business.

Preparation for Anal Play

- Make sure you are turned on. Get yourself in the mood and get comfortable. Maybe even have an orgasm first to relax and get your blood pumping!

- Take lots of deep breaths! Play some calming music to get relaxed. Anything that gets you comfortable.

- Clench and release your sphincter muscles a few times to get to know your body and how it feels. Try doing it fast and slow to see how it feels.

- Explore yourself. Get to know what’s back there! Start by feeling around the outside of your anus with your finger and when you’re ready, try inserting a well-lubed finger inside your anus.

- Take advantage of shower time and explore while you are nice and soapy.

- Speaking of soap. If you are nervous about dealing with feces, go to the bathroom prior to anal play to clear out anything in your bowels. You can also shower first and insert a soapy finger into your anus to get rid of anything additional. Some people prefer to do an enema before anal sex, but it is not a necessity. You/your partner can also wear a latex glove and/or condom to make clean up a snap.

Techniques & Tips

- Start with a butt massage to get your partner in the mood and relaxed. Begin with kneading the cheeks and running your fingers along the crack before you even reach for the butt hole.

- When you do get to the butt hole, spend some time on the outside before heading straight in. Trace little circles around the opening to the anus with a well-lubed finger. Press the puckered opening (like you would a doorbell) without inserting your finger. Ask your partner (or you, whoever’s ass is being played with) to clench and relax their sphincter muscles while you play with their anus.

- Use your fingertips to press along the butt crack, including the anus.

-Lube up your thumbs and press the pads of them against the anus, switching off in a circular motion – kind of like you are twiddling your thumbs slowly.

-Don’t forget about the genitals too! Just because you are having fun in the back, you should still remember about the vagina, clit, penis, testicles, breasts, kissing , etc. Have your partner play with their own genitals while you have fun exploring their butt!

-When you are ready to go into the anus, have your partner breathe deeply a few times and the last time they exhale, insert your index finger (well-lubed!) into their anus to the first knuckle. Go slowly and be sure to ask your partner if they are ok, if they want you to slow down, go faster, add fingers, etc.

- Once your finger/fingers are inside your partner’s butt, don’t just start thrusting in and out. Stay still for a little bit to get them accustom to the feeling. Have them clench and release a few times to see how they are enjoying it.

-Some people really like when you explore them by pressing your fingers along the inside walls when you are inside their ass. Try up, down, left and right. Go slow and don’t push too hard.

-Once they get comfortable with your fingers and are having fun, maybe incorporate a toy into the experience. A butt plug is always fun because it is designed to stay put while you have fun with other parts of their body (just wash your hands/take of gloves).

- Anal sex can be done in just about any position that vaginal sex can be done. Some people really enjoy the access that they have with doggy style (entering the ass from behind while the recipient is on their knees, bent over), while other people prefer the “bottom” to be on “top,” as they can control the speed and depth of the penetration better with that position. You can also try missionary, spooning, standing, legs over the head, whatever! As you as you can reach the butt you need!

- Remember, the first few inches of the butt are the most sensitive, so you don’t need to go in super far to have a pleasurable experience.

-Don’t forget about the G-Spot and P-Spot, which are both accessible from the anus.

 Here are a few tips of anal toys, including some we have reviewed!

Anal Beads:A series of small beads that are attached by a string or a stalk. Sometimes the beads are the same size and sometimes the increase gradually in size. (Flexi Felix is pictured)

Butt Plug:Diamond or mushroom shaped anal toy with a tapered neck and a flared base. Designed to stay put in your butt. (Little Flirt is pictured)

Anal Beads:Usually a smaller, thinner dildo with a flared base. Great for thrusting in and out. They can be used in a harness as well. (Compact is pictured)

Anal Vibe: A toy that vibrates to stimulate sensitive genital and anal tissues. Lots of butt plugs and dildos come with vibrating bullets that can be inserted into the toy. (Waterproof P-Spot Vibe is pictured)

Prostate Toy: Toys that are specifically designed to stimulate a man’s prostate gland and can intensify orgasm. (Pictured is Aneros MGX)

Now that you’ve got all the sexy, sexy info, go hit those sheets!

Remember to enjoy yourself!  It’s sex, it’s supposed to be fun!

xoxo
-J.D. Bauchery 

Find out more hot butt tips from the Instructional Queen in Nina Hartley’s Advanced Guide To Anal Sex For Men And Women:

Studio: Vivid Ed Category: Instructional

There is no one I would trust more with my ass than Tristan Taormino. You don’t get the title of anal sex queen for nothing and Tristan more than lives up to her moniker with this instructional butt sex for boys movie – not to mention her entire line of anal awareness flicks.

My favorite part about Tristan Taormino’s instructional movies is the way she educates without ever making you feel like you are learning something. What I mean is that she never makes it boring or tedious, even when she’s pointing out a prostate on the anatomy chart. Educating like that a pretty difficult feat and she has mastered it with grace and ease. If I end up being half the educator that Tristan Taormino is, I will consider myself to be doing a good job.

And Ms. Taormino keeps it hot hot hot. I think I retained all the new info so well because I was watching Penny Flame fuck Devin’s asshole up and down the screen. With lots and lots of lube, of course. It really is such a shame that Penny Flame left the business, because she is an amazing performer with an energy and enthusiasm that I don’t see very often. She was definitely my favorite part of this video, after Tristan, of course.

If you are looking to for an anal adventure of your own, definitely check out this awesome movie. It covers everything from anatomy and safety to positions, toys and how to hit the prostate just right. Everything you need to make a magical night with your man and his butt. Enjoy!

-J.D. Bauchery

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