One of the best things about sex is that there are so many ways to have it. Oral, anal, in a box, with a fox… in just the vaginal intercourse realm alone, you could screw all night and never run out of new positions to explore. So, I’m digging in, checking them out and reporting back to give you the lowdown on getting down. I know – I have a really hard job.
The funny thing about sexual positions, though, is that one woman’s hot doggy style is another chick’s “what the hell, are you trying to kill me?!?” Different positions result in different parts of the vagina being stimulated (including G-spot stimulation!!!) and each one comes complete with their own lists of pros and cons. But your pro might be my con, so take these helpful hints, find your own interpretation and enjoy what works best for your body and experience.
I decided to control myself and keep out of Kama Sutra territory, as there is such an insane abundance of various positions to choose from, this column would hit book length before I even skimmed the surface. So I’m sticking with a few of the most “common” positions and giving a rough overview and cost-benefit analysis (i.e. is the incredible depth of penetration worth the nausea from being upside-down for so long) for each sexy style.
Just to clarify, yes, we are talking about penis-vagina sex here, though said penis can just as well be a big purple glittery silicone cock as one that’s built in. I know that I’m excluding folks, but I promise you’ll get your day in the sun too. I am going to try to use “partner” as much as I can, but sometimes I will use the words “man,” “guy,” or “his” as signifiers for the penis-baring party, but by no means do I think the person needs to be male (heck, sometimes it’s even me). I just think calling whomever “the penis-holder” is a little weird and amorphous. Let’s get to it!
A customer favorite for many, this old standard is a great position if you’re looking for the intimacy of eye contact, facial proximity for kissing and full body touch. The woman on her back with her legs spread and knees raised with the guy on top of her – either putting his weight on her or using his arms to hold himself up. They are face-to-face, with penis and vagina lined up for penetration.
Missionary gets fairly deep penetration and is usually pretty physically comfortable for both parties. Access to the woman’s clitoris is dependent on the position/distribution of weight of her partner. If his upper body is further away from hers, she has room to reach down and rub her clit. On the other hand, her partner is sometimes able to stimulate her clit through the friction of their bodies being so close.
A great variation on the classic missionary position is the woman holding her legs open in a “V” shape and back toward her body, allowing for even deeper penetration. As well, the higher the woman’s hips are raised, the deeper her partner’s penis can go. It’s all about angles!
The Final Word: Sometimes this position gets a bad rap for being boring or not adventurous enough, but I say if it feels good and works for you, who cares? I wouldn’t stop eating vanilla ice cream just because I like rocky road, too. In fact, I want the whole damn sundae! I am a firm supporter of the missionary position and knowing that no position is the wrong position.
Woman on Top (aka: cowgirl, jackhammer)
In most aspects of life, the person on top gets to be in control. And sex is no exception. The name of the game is control with this position – as in the woman gets all the control. As her partner lies on their back, the woman straddles the pelvis and literally sits on their penis (usually stabilizing herself with her knees bent and her shins on resting on the bed, or knees bent with her feet planted firmly on the bed). Whether she leans forward, back or sits straight up, because the woman is on top, she is in control of the rhythm, depth and speed of the penetration.
This is a really fun position. Shift your angle even just a little and you can change the entire region being stimulated. Not only do you get eye contact and a super hot view with girl on top, her breasts and clit are right there for the taking!
The Final Word: It’s fucking hot to watch (or be) a woman rubbing her clit while she “rides” her partner. Yee Haw!
Rear Entry (aka: Doggy style)
While it may sound like it from the name, this position is not the same as anal sex. Penis is still in vagina, just from behind. For rear entry, the woman is positioned on all fours, with her weight supported by her knees and hand or forearms and both her vagina and ass are exposed behind her. Her partner kneels between her legs and thrusts his penis into her from behind.
This is by far my favorite position – to both give and receive. You get access to all the good stuff (i.e. clit, breasts, ass and a hot view) plus the perfect mix of leverage and angle to get super deep penetration. Gripping the woman’s hips to pull her into the thrusts is an awesome way to get even deeper. Not too much eye contact, unless she swivels her head to face her partner, which I can see getting really uncomfortable, really quickly.
The Final Word: This position can be hard on the knees. I would recommend opting out of this one if you have any kind of knee or joint injury, weakness or pain. But barring any intense discomfort, the awesome g-spot stim and deep reach of rear entry outweigh possibly feeling a little sore the next day.
Side-by-Side (aka. spoons, spooning)
The side-by-side position can be done in two different ways, either back-to-front or facing each other. I can’t logistically imagine how back-to-back would work, but I’m sure it’s been done.
A lying down variation of rear entry, the back-to-front position works with both people lying on their sides, woman’s back pressed against her partner’s front – basically naked spooning, hence the nickname. The woman can lift her leg up or bend her knees upward towards her chest to make penetration a little easier. Breast and clit access are a definite bonus.
Front-to-front is the ultimate in intimacy and equal control. Both people lie facing each other and intertwine their legs, with usually the woman’s resting overtop her partner’s. This is basically the missionary position turned sideways, without the leverage for hard thrusting.
Neither side-by-side position is great for leverage and deep or hard penetration, but slow, gentle thrusting can sometimes prolong the experience. Since one side of each person is resting on the mattress (or couch, table, etc.), movement and range of motion aren’t so hot, but both partners’ hands are free for touching each other. Plus face-to-face allows for maximum kissing and eye contact.
The Final Word: Perfect for sleepy or just waking up sex. If you’re looking for an intimacy-heavy, slow and sensual experience, you’ve found your match.
And just a quick nod to a few others:
Either pressed up against a wall or freestanding, from behind or with legs wrapped around her partner, this position sometimes be a little tricky, but super hot, especially for a quickie. The magic word is short skirt.
This is an awesome alternative for those more comfortable sitting than lying down, such as people with back issues, offering deep penetration, access to full body touching and the option of going at it facing each other or from behind.
Whether you like standing, sitting, kneeling, crouching, being upside-down or hanging from the ceiling, remember that finding the right position that works for both you and your partner can turn blah sex into fucking mind-blowing. Yes, it might take a while to figure out what works best for all parties involved, but in this case, the journey can be just as good.
And don’t forget to have fun!
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