Lost in Translation

I live abroad and met someone that I want to have sex with, but I’m nervous because have no idea how to get passed the language barrier, as I don’t speak her language (I speak English and she speaks French). How do I make this work and what is a safe way to ensure no boundaries are crossed when you are having sex with someone who does not speak the same language as you?
- Besoin d’aide

Ah, the language barrier. A source of both great irritation for some and incredible hotness for others. Traveling or living in a country where you don’t speak the language, or even meeting a non-English (or whatever language) speaker close to home, can make it difficult to negotiate getting it on. And sometimes it is that difficulty that makes it so damn hot!

The language barrier can work in a few different ways. It can:

A) be super frustrating trying to understand what someone else is trying to get across,

B) work just the same as being able to speak the same language, or

C) be really freaking sexy to not have to say anything and be able to communicate completely through actions.

Yes, language differences can be very hot, but this column is going to be focused on when a language barrier gets in the way. So, you’ve met someone you want to get busy with… but you’re having a hard time making it happen because you can’t figure out what the hell they are saying. Working around the language barrier can be broken down into two ways:

Non-Verbal Communication

We’ve all used non-verbal communication at one point or another, even with a partner who we could talk to as well. Communicating non-verbally means using gestures, facial expressions, and body language in the place of saying something verbally. Letting someone know that you are interested in sex could be as easy as using your eyebrows to look coy, or licking your lips, or looking them up and down with your eyes.

In my experience, I find myself relying on non-verbal cues much more than verbal when figuring out what someone likes. Moaning and breathing heavy are usually pretty good signs that you’re right on the money. Also, moving someone’s hand to exactly where you want it might seem too overt, but it gets their hand where you want it, without having to pull out the dictionary and stop to figure out how to say “nipple” in German (Nippel).

Managing boundaries using non-verbal communication can work well. I would say tensing up (not in a good way), pushing back or even getting up and walking away, are three fairly direct ways to let your lover know to back the hell off. Of course these aren’t guaranteed, but paired with a firm “no” in any language and appropriately serious facial expression, the point usually comes across. Or if it’s not as serious a demand as one that merits leaving – say you just don’t want them to touch your cootch right then – communicate by turning your hips away, changing positions or moving their hand. Non-verbally expressing safe sex can be a little trickier, but if you pull out a condom and hand it to them, it takes the guesswork out. Or, just consult the dictionary…

Studying the English translation dictionary

Sometimes it just comes down to not knowing the words to say. Maybe all you need to heighten your experience is to know how to say “harder” in Spanish?
Remember, a translation dictionary can be your best friend when you’re talking language barriers. Don’t worry about getting the pronunciation just right or conjugating your verbs perfectly. This is not your 7th grade French class. If you try to say it and maybe add in a gesture or point, you’ll most likely get your idea across.

Along with your trusty translation dictionary, try picking up a street dictionary or everyday language book. They usually have all the good slang that’s prefect for keeping it hot!

Here are a list of a few choice words to help to you get started (or stopped if that’s what you need). And bear with any variations that you see elsewhere… they were all researched with reputable online translation dictionaries, but sometimes spelling/accents/etc. can vary by publication or even regional dialect. Be sure to check up on words local to your region.

Sex
Spanish – Sexo
French – sexe
German – Geschlecht
Italian – sesso
Dutch – sexe

Condom
Spanish – condón
French – préservatif
German – Kondom
Italian – preservativo
Dutch – kapotje

Penetrate
Spanish penetrar
French – pénétrez
German durchdringen
Italian – infiltrarsi
Dutch – doordringen

Lick
Spanish – lamer
French – faire eau or lécher
German – lecken
Italian – lambire
Dutch – likken

Suck
Spanish – chupar
French – sucer or téter
German – saugen
Italian – succhiare
Dutch – opzuigenL

Breast
Spanish – pecho
French – sein or mamelle
German – Brust
Italian – torace
Dutch – boezem or borst

Vagina
Spanish – vagina
French – vagin
German – Scheide
Italian – fòdero
Dutch – schede or vagina

Penis
Spanish – pene
French – pénis
German – Glied
Italian – Penis
Dutch – penis

Ass
Spanish – asno
French – aliboron
German – Arsch
Italian – àsino
Dutch – aars

Softer
Spanish – tierno (soft) más (more)
French – moelleux (soft) plus (more)
German – weicher
Italian – placido (soft) più largo (more)
Dutch – zoet (soft) meer (more)

Harder
Spanish – rápido (hard) más (more)
French – dur (hard) plus (more)
German – härter
Italian – solido (hard) più largo (more)
Dutch – hard (hard) meer (more)

Faster
Spanish – rápido (fast) más (more)
French – vite (fast) plus (more)
German – beschleunigt
Italian – presto (fast) più largo (more)
Dutch – vasten (fast) meer (more)

Slower
Spanish -lento (slow) más (more)
French – décélérent (slow) plus (more)
German – langsamer
Italian – fiacco (slow) più largo (more)
Dutch – langzaam (slow) meer (more)

Deeper
Spanish – hondo (deep) más (more)
French – viscérale (deep) plus (more)
German – tiefer
Italian – cupo (deep) più largo (more)
Dutch – lag (deep) meer (more)

No
Spanish – no
French -non
German – keine
Italian – non
Dutch – neen

Stop
Spanish – estacionamiento
French – cessation
German – anhalten
Italian – ostruire
Dutch – logeren

Rape
Spanish – violar
French – violins (violate)
German – vergewaltigung
Italian – violare or rubare
Dutch – een aanslag plegen op (violation)

Pain
Spanish – dolor
French – Mal
German – stich
Italian – pena
Dutch – wee

Communicating verbally, non-verbally, or anything in-between, just remember that they are in the same boat as you and they can’t understand you any better than you them.

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Try to leave your frustrations at customs and just enjoy the sights!

J.D. Bauchery

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