“How can I introduce a little kink to my bedroom?” – Kylie, Ohio
They say, “March comes in like a lion”, and we at HotMoviesForHer.com say that you should too (except that we’re here to make sure that your’s lasts all year long)! Now is the perfect time to break out of your routine and add a little extra spice to your sex life.
When most people think of kink, the four letters that come to mind are BDSM, which stand for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. Now before you run away scared with visions of being shackled in a dungeon with a leather-clad, whip-wielding dominatrix spanking you raw, don’t be afraid to incorporate some of these fetish elements into your usual sexual repertoire (then again, a dungeon with a dominatrix may be tempting!).
Many different emotions and feelings can arouse different people – the power of dominance, the vulnerability of submission, the adrenaline rush from pain and its anticipation, or even the release of inhibitions by embodying another persona. While not all of these thoughts are for everyone, it can be healthy and fun to experiment and explore your own desires and fantasies.
Arousal from bondage is known as vincilagnia. Rope is most the commonly used instrument for bondage, but by far not the only means. There are many different techniques that can be used to tie someone up, from simply binding one’s arms to their sides, to using bars to keep ones arms and legs spread as wide as possible, to hog tying, where one’s wrists are bound to their ankles behind their back. To those who practice this lifestyle, the pleasure can come not just from being restrained, but also from the tightness and pressure caused by the binding that squeezes and pushes on the breasts, genitals, and other sensitive areas. The Japanese style of bondage is known as Shibari. Using minimal knots, the intricate patterns and body positions created are viewed as works of art. Originating from military practices, it’s sexual practice developed over time, and more recently it has been embraced by Western BDSM participants.
You don’t need a rack to enjoy a little bondage with your partner. A simple pair of handcuffs can keep you or your partner’s hands restrained, or if you want a more sensual experience you can use scarves or stockings. You may not want to have your first time be in an uncomfortable position though. You can easily start with just tying your partners hands to the bedposts or over their head, or restrain their ankles to keep them spread eagle – now your partner is helpless against any teasing, tickling (yes, tickling can be tortuous fun!) or any other ultimate ecstasy that you wish to give. Depending which one of you is tied up, the vulnerability or the open opportunity will definitely add to your excitement.
These are just a few ways to introduce a little bondage to your bedroom. Be creative and have fun! As always, never do anything you or your partner doesn’t feel comfortable doing together. There’s nothing wrong with experimentation, but only if it’s consensual, and you both are willing and enjoying it.
Next week I’ll delve deeper into the world of Domination. Until then… you can learn the ropes from the experts!
Looking for More?
Nina Hartley’s Guide To Erotic Bondage
Join your host Nina Hartley and her sexy guests as you “learn the ropes!” Nina and special guest Carmen Luvana begin by teaching you the key rules of safe play, then see Nina take veteran hunk Randy Spears on a wildly erotic bondage play session!
The Sensual Art of Rope
Steven Speliotis, Rope Master and professional photographer, brings to you “The Sensual Art of Rope”. This is an excellent introductory video to rope bondage and some basic BDSM play.
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