I’m not sure where or when this myth started circulating, but for a long, long time, folks have been under the impression that women can and should be able to orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. Friends, I am here today to tell you that this is a load of hooey and that the truth is that 50-75% of women are not able to climax from vaginal penetration with no other type of stimulation. Not only can that myth set up unrealistic expectations for both partners, it can leave women feeling like their bodies are wrong or broken. Yuck. Anyway, today we received a request about orgasm through penetration, so we thought we’d give 4 tips on how to help get to that big “O” with a little of the old in and out (and more).
1) Positioning. One of the best ways to enhance penetration is to try out positions that stimulate the clitoris. Because the clit has 8,000 nerve endings specifically hanging around to offer up pleasure, that is the sexy center that you want to engage. Missionary position can do a great job of hitting the clit for some people, while the penetrated party on top can also rock that sensitive little bean. Explore various positions for angle, depth and places that are stimulated (the g-spot is another hot button).
2) Get Involved. As great as penetration can be, more often than not the clit is gonna need some love of its own to really get the climax action going. Don’t be afraid to join in and touch your own body (or encourage your partner to touch theirs) while the deep dickin’ (be it attached by skin or strap-on) is heating up. If your hands aren’t doing the job you’d like them to do, reach for a vibrator to add a little buzz.
3) Lube. We here at HM4Her are major supporters of lube. I don’t know if you’ve noticed. While lube may not be the main player in getting you off, it only ever helps to decrease the friction going on by getting everything nice and wet.
4) Relax. The biggest piece of advice we can give is to take a deep breath and calm down. This is not a test. You will not pass or fail it. This is your pleasure, so really, who cares how you get off, as long as you are both enjoying yourselves. Even if you are one of the folks that can get off from penetration alone, will a bunch of pressure and stress help get you in the mood for makin’ love? I didn’t think so. So take a few deep ones (breaths, that is) and make sure that you are having a good time above all.
Enjoy!
xoxo
-JD
