Spot G. Gives Some Pointers on Pussy Eating
Contrary to popular belief, cunnilingus is not a natural skill that every man and lesbian is born with. Regardless of what your boastful partner may say, pussy eating is a learned talent. Trust me. It’s not something that you master the first time you go down into the breach, dear friends. And because pleasure differs from partner to partner, experience is something that’s obviously accumulated. What one girl likes isn’t necessarily what another finds enjoyable. Every woman is different. While everyone would like to read a detailed “How-To-Guide,” (like The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus by Violet Blue) there is no way of creating one that is accurate for all women. It’s an art form, really, and one that this dyke takes very, very seriously. But when you get it right and make your woman cum in your mouth, the reward can be overwhelming. So here are a few things that I’ve learned over the years…
Talk to Each Other:
It’s in every relationship guide, every Cosmo article, every Loveline episode, we learn that communication is key. And honestly, that’s not bullshit. Talking can be the single most important act of foreplay you and your partner will engage in. Ask questions, find out what she likes and what her limits are and learn about what gets her off.
Every Girl Has Her Own Smell and Taste:
It’s their essence, their calling card, and every girl’s is different. Some girls may taste quite salty while others leave sweetness on your lips. If a woman is to permit oral stimulation of her vagina, she must first come to accept her normal bodily functions. If she feels that she may be having a less-than-fresh day, she needs to express this to her partner before doing the deed. Likewise, if you are going down on your partner and you aren’t comfortable with her scent or taste, ask her to take a shower with you. It’s a great way to break the ice and will help everybody feel much more comfortable.
Find a Comfortable Position:
I’ve found that the best positions are those in which the recipient and the performer can be totally relaxed and able to have freedom of movement and control. The standard position is where the recipient lays on her back with her legs spread and her partner between them. Placing a pillow underneath the recipient’s head allows her to see the action taking place while another pillow under her ass will raise her pussy up just enough that her partner has a direct angle. My favorite position is that in which the performer lays on his or her back and the recipient kneels over his or her head, lowering her pussy down onto the performer’s mouth. Having the recipient face forward also allows the performer to grab onto her partner’s hips, pulling her weight down onto her mouth. This can be very arousing, especially if the recipient grinds back, face-fucking the performer. This also gives the performer a clear view of his or her partner’s body in motion, which aids in stimulation. However, if the recipient faces her partner’s feet, she can easily lower her face down onto her partner’s pussy/cock, otherwise known as the “69 position”, which is always fun.
Sweat the Technique:
Technique is, obviously, key to this entire endeavor. As I said before, each woman is different so your technique will vary from partner to partner. (Note: If you are monogamous with one partner, don’t get your mind set on just one game plan because spontaneity is sexy.)
Unless you know she wants it NOW, don’t dive right in and get right to oral. Foreplay is huge. “But isn’t cunnilingus considered foreplay in itself?” Sure, but not to all couples. For some (especially lesbians), pussy eating is the grand finale…the pièce de résistance if you will. So if this is the case, work her up to it. Don’t go straight for the clitoris. Spend some time kissing her lips, shoulders, breasts, tummy, hips…(God, I love the hips!). There’s some good stuff there, it’s not all about the pussy just yet. Make her want it. Nibble on the inside of her thighs while you just happen to brush your fingers over her clit and then run your tongue from one thigh to the next, going over her pussy ever-so lightly. When she’s breathing heavy, lick up and down her outer lips and slowly make your way to her inner labia. Spend time on different parts of her vulva- kissing, licking and gently sucking. Pay attention to her breathing and to how wet she’s getting. Take note of what she likes. When you think she’s worked up enough, spread her labia and move your tongue to her clit. This is the tricky part…the part that isn’t written in stone. Some girls like a lot of pressure on their clitorises while others prefer a light circling of the tongue. Through trial and error, you should be able to determine what your girl likes and doesn’t like. If she likes pressure, flatten your tongue against her clit and push your head into her a while moving it around a bit. If you feel her start to buck against you, you’re gold. If she pulls back, lessen the pressure because her clit is a bit over-sensitive.
Use your hands. Inserting a finger or two into her vagina can send her over the edge. Some girls like a little anal play too, which can also push her past the point of no return. Just make sure she’s comfortable before you go for it. Circling her anus lightly with your fingers is a good place to start, see what kind of reaction you get. Wrap your arms around her hips, cupping her ass, and really get to work on her clit. Vary your speed, intensity and pressure. When you start to feel her body tense up, she might be ready to cum. Do not stop! I repeat: DO NOT STOP. There is nothing worse than being right there, ready to explode and your partner stops the stimulation that was driving you wild. So if you feel that she’s ready to have an orgasm, continue whatever it is you are doing, increasing the intensity just a bit and allow her to climax. Remember, women can have much longer orgasms than men and can experience waves of pleasure that can last several minutes. Let her enjoy herself and continue until she tells you to stop.
Every woman’s body is different so ultimately, there is no predetermined primer to follow when it comes to cunnilingus. Remember to talk to your partner and find out what she likes before you head down south.
-Spot G.
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