Since I started working in porn, most of my friends has at some point asked what kind of impact my job has on my sex life. Some of them are subtle about it, some accuse me of being some sexual superhero, and others just want to know if I can still somehow manage to enjoy porn.
Before leaving me for what I’m sure will seem like forever, J.D. sent me this great feature from The L Magazine that discusses the line between the bedroom and work with people who, one way or another, work in sex.
Here’s an excerpt from Jamye Waxman’s response:
How has your job impacted your personal sex life? For starters, I’m desensitized to sex talk. I can talk about orgasms, penis, vagina, whatever – anywhere. The titillation factor is gone. Also, I don’t make as much noise as my partner would like because I work in porn (hosting, directing, producing) and I can’t stand when a girl sounds overly fake. Since I’m around the loud oohs and oh baby’s often, I don’t want to say anything unless it comes naturally. So my partner might complain that I’m too quiet in bed, but I’m working on that. We just took a Tantra workshop last weekend and I’m learning to express myself. Also, I’m numb to porn since I watch lots every month for work. What I find even funnier is that my partner will sometimes beg me to turn off the porn. It’s such a gender reversal. And I love to use sex toys. Which is positive mostly, but sometimes I think it’d be better if I spent more time with hands. Get back in touch with my body that way.
There are lots of interesting responses from a pretty diverse group of people including author Rachel Kramer Bussel, Lux Alptraum, and Ron Jeremy. You should definitely check it out for an interesting look into the lives of the people who make sure you have access to great smut!
P.S. I am totally a sexual superhero. Only in the sense that I like to wear boys underpants and run around the house using my towel as a cape – but that’s something, right?
I can totally relate to all those things. Porn is always on my computer to the point that I’m afraid to take it with me on a business trip (the computer that is). My husband is always laughing at me when I talk “business” because it is so unlike any conversation his friends would have with their wives.