I’ve been struggling with a way to approach this topic for quite a while. Most of the approaches I’ve attempted ended up coming off as overly ranty and almost as bitter as the bitter ‘advice’ posts I was railing against. Hopefully this one will be more helpful.
Personally – I hate games almost as much as I hate drama. This is not to say that I haven’t engaged in both; games much more often than drama, I am sadly/fortunate enough to very rarely care enough to start any drama though I am stubborn enough to stick it out if I get drawn into someone else’s drama. But I digress, the way I see it, if you’re going to bother playing any dating game at all – why not make it a fun game instead of a desperate one?
Things I consider to be fun dating games? Trolling for numbers: dress up, go out and see just how many people beg for your digits or readily hand over their own, you can use any technique that you want except physical touch. Wink, giggle or smile: dress up again and practice making eye contact in various ways. Crushing hearts like tinfoil: self explanatory. Dating games I consider less than fun, actually kind of desperate at best and a pathetic type of delusion at worst? Anything that involves rules or denying how you feel and what you want. Like not approaching him if you’re interested and making a mandatory three day notice rule for dates.
I’ll be the first to admit approaching someone you’ve been drooling over all night is hard. Really hard, hard enough to turn the usually assertive loud mouthed me into the shy school girl I used to be in a land far away and a time long, long ago. Still all you have to do is remember it’s probably going to be just as hard for them to approach you and it’s not really fair to make them do all the work now is it? Of course if you like being role playing and that’s your thing then go for that, personally I prefer the ability to switch things up a couple thousand times.
On the drama front – just try and avoid it. That’s easier than nabbing a slice of your favorite pie if you’re not that into them, harder than the dick of doom if you’re really into them or just extra competitive. Luckily if they’re feeling you too they’re much less likely to do something shady/sneaky/unclear/infuriating that’ll bring out the wall punching, hair pulling, and hissing diva within. Unless of course you’re always straddling that insane edge in which case more power to them for wading into the crazy end of the pool in the first place.
So my tip for the weekend? Go out there and get what you want or at least have fun looking for what you want. After all do you want someone that’s already has enough low self esteem to be insecure because you made the first move or someone that’s too bowled over with your awesomeness to care who spoke first?