As I mentioned in my lookback at Dinah 2008 (and again on Monday…), dyke culture magazine Velvetpark interviewed me about HotMoviesForHer and being a lez and all that good stuff when we were out in Palm Springs. It was awesome - editor Anna Romer came and hung out and we had all this awesome conversation about queer identity and smart porn and sexuality. Trust me, that’s such a nice change when the whole weekend is about dancing, drinking and partying.
Anyway, the interview went live today on Velvetpark’s site! I know I’m kinda nerdy because I get excited about stuff like this, but definitely check it out, along with the rest of their site. Velvetpark does some pretty awesome stuff - I still can’t believe there’s an interview with me up next to interviews with amazingly rad dykes like Guinevere Turner and Ariel Schrag!
Welcome to another rainy Friday here at HotMoviesForHer.com. You know it just can’t be a great day when you walk into work with soaking wet clothing and sit freezing in a damp hoodie all day. Nope. So, I’ve decided to embrace the disgustingness of a miserable rainy day and go with the most misery-loving, dramatic, woe-is-me music that I could possibly muster up for today’s Mixtape rewind, and who better than Morrissey?!?
I’ve loved The Smiths since I was in high school and never fully got over the angsty teenage giddyness of watching Morrissey swing around a bunch of flowers and croon in his signature swoony voice.
Prepare to be subtly uplifted, in the way that only ’80s new wave melodrama can bring.
Have a good weekend. Fingers crossed for sunshine.
Finally California got it’s act together and overturned the gay marriage ban. I’m not one to usually talk about political stuff like this on the blog, but seriously people, it’s about time.
SAN FRANCISCO - The California Supreme Court has overturned a ban on gay marriage, paving the way for California to become the second state where gay and lesbian residents can marry.
The justices released the 4-3 decision Thursday, saying that domestic partnerships are not a good enough substitute for marriage in an opinion written by Chief Justice Ron George.
“Under these circumstances, we cannot find that retention of the traditional definition of marriage constitutes a compelling state interest,” the court said in a majority decision.
“Accordingly, we conclude that to the extent the current California statutory provisions limit marriage to opposite-sex couples, these statutes are unconstitutional.”
The cases were brought by the city of San Francisco, two dozen gay and lesbian couples, Equality California and another gay rights group in March 2004 after the court halted San Francisco’s monthlong same-sex wedding march, which took place at Mayor Gavin Newsom’s direction. (via msnbc.com)
I’m not going to get into a discussion about gay marriage or my views about marriage in general, but I will say that for me, the fact that anyone can commit to anything is freaking amazing and I can’t see how people wanting to celebrate their commitment to each other is offensive.
Then again, I am a big liberal lezzie queer, so of course I am for the gays.
So, even though she has left us for the week to go on vacation (and yes, I miss her), I still wanted to be sure and wish The Porn Librarian a very Happy Birthday!
Ok, I’ll admit it. I am as excited as everyone else for the Sex and The City movie coming out later this month. More excited even - ok fine, I can’t even get through the trailer without getting goosebumps of sexcitement. what of it.
Ok, ok, and I’ve got to the point of looking at spoilers (ps. thanks Jezebel, for making that so easy). Anyway, to the point of this post. I knew it was only a matter of time before main stream media started cross-marketing into the sex toy realm. Or really, I should say sex toys started taking advantage of mass media’s sparse mentions.
Little did I know that UK-based toy shop, already jumped the gun and long ago released their Sex and The City Rabbit Pearl Vibrator! Good work gals! Now, as the movie release nears, the LoveHoney crew is jumping on the SATC bandwagon and releasing an extra special rabbit pearl vibe named, of course, Mr. Big.
And this aptly named toy is not lying, with a full inch and a half extra insertable length than the original SATC rabbit! And let’s not forget that Mr. Big touch of class that comes with a black base and clear shaft (which highlights the internal pearls, of course). Very swanky!
Hopefully Ironman and Speed Racer will hop on this amazingly smart trend and use their summer blockbuster status to create some really freaking hot sex toy cross-marketing. Come on people, make it happen!
Ready to hit the airconditioned theaters! And no, I’m not counting down the 16 days until the Sex and The City Movie comes out…
So, the foxy ladies over at the Jez just put up this hilarious posting called “5 Mistakes That “Sexperts” Make When Giving Advice.” Sure, it’s all about mocking some Fox News advice lady, but still it made me feel the need to just let you guys know that I promise never to be that person who makes those mistakes. I’ll make my own mistakes, I’m sure - I always do, but I don’t ever plan on giving such ass-backwards opinions. Ok, rant over. And now I leave for the day.
I got this in my inbox a few minutes ago from our local LGBTQ health organization and I thought it was important to spread this news about this to everyone I can.
A few days ago the American Psychological Association announced who would write the new revision of the DSMV, the manual of mental disorders that controls the diagnosis and treatment of gender and sexual difference. The “expert” just named to chair the revisions on
sexuality and gender is Kenneth Zucker. Zucker is the major remaining proponent of “reparative therapy” to “cure” kids they think are LGBT. Read the rest of this entry »
Yeah, it’s Monday - a day which can usually suck it - and it’s pouring rain where I am, and everyone in the office is in a grumpy-ass mood, so I decided to lighten the hell up and post some stuff to make the day a little brighter.
- This Boinkology post made my day for real. I LOVE that this guy ends his photo caption with “And now I’ve got my own little fuck-you-gender/sex-binary body.” xoxo Elliot! and ps. even with the black bar over your face, you are still super cute!
- Velvetpark interviews my favorite cartoonist ever, Ariel Schrag. Oh yeah, and she wrote for the L-word… weird, but kinda cool. aaaand ps. an interview with ME will be up on Velvetpark in the next few days. Crazy, huh? Their super cute editor Anna interviewed me at The Dinah and she just let me know it’s going up soon. I iz essited!
Ok, it’s offically quiting time for today. Enjoy the rest of your Monday and see you ladies in the AM.
As you know, I am big on words. A word nerd you could even say. So I was super excited when I read Jamye Waxman’s blog entry about Time Out New York’s “The Horny Issue” with the article “How About a Quickie?” Basically the magazine asked all their local dirty birdy erotica and sex writers to come up with something to turn them on in ten words or less. Ooooh a challenge! (Plus, it reminds me of OneSentence.org, one of my absolute favorite websites.)
Here are some of my favorites from the Quickie article:
“Is there a reason your hands aren’t in my pants?”
—Molly St. Michael, erotic poet (mollystmichael.blogspot.com)
“Stick. Slide. Suck. Swallow. Rinse. Repeat.”
—Jamye Waxman, author of Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation (jamyewaxman.com)
“Your tongue in my crease/Soft fingers pinching my thighs/Insert now, I plead.”
—Twanna Hines, blogger and self-described “sexpot” (funkybrownchick.com)
Now I’m trying to come up with my own ten word turn ons. Here are some from around the office:
- “Her gracefully sweeping neck, the perspired dew on her bud.”
- “I bite my inner cheek, wishing it was your nipples”
- “smell of your neck.
designer scent mixed with sweat
intoxicating”
- “I’m desiring an erotic, breathtaking, pulse racing electric orgasm.”
- “The pain came when he pushed deep into my ass.”
- “Her pulsing womanhood was felt warmly on my tongue.”
- “Licking your inner thighs… best part of my day.”
- “Begging for you to go even deeper.”
-” Tell me to ask nicely. Or else…”
-”Slow and deep. After you ask real nice.”
- “Dirty thoughts swirl in my head, I have a secret, I will whisper in your ear.”
- “the laundry can wait”
- “then her panties slid to the floor”
Hot! Hmm. Who ever thought dirty texting would eventually help my work? Another hard day at the office.
Just to beat it into your heads, May is Masturabation Month, and who better to talk about than Joycelyn Elders, the Surgeon General under Clinton, until he FIRED her for saying that masturbation should be taught as a way to prevent unplanned pregnancies and STI transmission. (Though that’s not really what exactly she originally said, it was more like this wiki entry:
In 1994, she was invited to speak at a United Nations conference on AIDS. She was asked whether it would be appropriate to promote masturbation as a means of preventing young people from engaging in riskier forms of sexual activity, and she replied, “I think that it is part of human sexuality, and perhaps it should be taught.” This remark caused great controversy and resulted in Elders losing the support of the White House. White House chief of staff Leon Panetta remarked, “There have been too many areas where the President does not agree with her views. This is just one too many.” Elders was fired by President Clinton as a result of the controversy in December of 1994.)
I’m not going to get political here and talk about all the reasons I glare at the Clinton admin., but this is pretty damn high on the list. Maybe if old Bill had listened to a thing or two Elders was talking about he wouldn’t have had all that stained dress/cigar drama later on. What goes around, comes around… I’m just saying.
Anyway, as a firm supporter of comprehensive sexuality education and sex-positivity, I think Joycelyn Elders is amazing as she still fights for sexual health and the future of our youth. Check out this speech by Dr. Elders. She is one hell of a poignant speaker and this ten minute clip might just teach you a thing or two about what needs to happen in this country regarding sexual literacy and why masturbation is more than just a good time.