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Sex Toys for the Holidays

Now that we’re in the midst of the Holiday season of 2014, we’re all scrambling to find the perfect gift for our special someone, or even just a treat for ourselves! Kids aren’t the only people who look forward to finding toys under the tree, so I visited Philadelphia’s Kink Shoppe, a sex positive and gender neutral adult toy and fetish boutique and spoke to Caitlin, a sex educator and customer service representative. She gave me a ton of information about how to go about buying sex toys for your significant other, and had dozens of great gift ideas!

“When it comes to purchasing something for a partner, a lot of people either tend to think about what they want to see their partner using or what they think their partner would like, and if they haven’t had a lot of experience using toys with their partner, that can often backfire. So they might buy something and say, ‘You know, I bought this dildo because it looks like me.’ It can sometimes not be what they want. Usually I’ll tell people that if you don’t have a lot of experience using toys with your partner to think about what they like or ask them what they like and what they want. In terms of buying things for yourself, it’s the same thing. Think about sensations you like. It’s good to experiment with your body and feel around.”

Caitlin also recommends taking into consideration what materials are in your sex toys so as to avoid risk of injury or disease. “Toxins in sex toys are becoming less of a problem now. I know that a lot of toys now use less pthalates, which is a really toxic material that softens plastic and can cause irritation and can possibly lead to problems with your endocrine system. But there’s still toxic materials and porous materials in general; jelly, elastomer, TPR, things like that are still going to degrade over time and get certain bacteria trapped in them. They could potentially transmit an STI or a bacterial or vaginal yeast infection. So generally I tell people that it’s better to keep with non porous materials like silicon, glass, metal, stone, ABS Hard plastic, ceramics, and treated wood.”

We-Vibe Touch sex toys
We-Vibe Touch

Keeping in mind the who, what, where, when, why, and how in mind, I asked Caitlin what sex toys would be good for anyone to gift to a female partner, especially someone who has never used sex toys before. She recommends, you guessed it, vibrators! “A lot of women can’t orgasm without clitoral stimulation, and vibrations are really good for that.” She showed me We Vibe’s Tango and Touch vibrators, two cute-as-a-button Bullet style vibes. The Tango is a hard-plastic bullet that can also fit into toys with bullet sleeves, including We Vibe’s own Pleasure Mates collection, making the versatile Tango perfect for whatever mood strikes you and your lady. The Touch is wider and covered in silicon, thereby giving We Vibe’s powerful motor a softer transmission of sensation.

lelo mona 2 sex toys
Lelo Mona 2

If you’re looking for a vibrating toy that can be used either internally or externally, Caitlin points towards the strong and waterproof Lelo Mona 2, whose powerful vibrations will hit both the g-spot and clitoris.

we-vibe sex toys
We-Vibe

What about toys that you and your lady can use together? “Any toy is a couple’s toy,” said Caitlin, “but a toy made specifically as a [straight] couple’s toy would be the We-Vibe, which is a c-shaped vibrator that can be worn during penetrative sex and vibrates against the clitoris and g-spot.” Not going to lie, the We-Vibe is my current dream toy. However, Caitlin does caution that the We-Vibe “doesn’t work for everyone. It might not sync up with everyone’s anatomy, and not everyone likes how it feels, but that’s any toy. There’s no guarantee that somebody’s going to like it.”

tantus c-sling sex toys
Tantus C-Sling

We then talked about a couple’s toy that I have a little more experience with: cock rings! These guys can give those of you with penises a harder, more sustained erection and you can wear it while your partner present or while you’re having some alone time. In terms of non-vibrating rings, Caitlin recommends the Tantus Super Stretch C-Ring, a stretchy silicone ring that is super inexpensive at about $10. You can also try the Tantus C-Sling, made with a firmer silicon than the C-Ring. This guy has a teardrop shaped base that will stimulate your perineum (taint, grundle, gooch, fleshy fun bridge, etc.) for added orgasmic possibilities!

jejoue mio sex toys
Jejoue Mio

Vibrating cock rings have gotten me into trouble in the past; whenever I put them on my boo’s cock and turn it on, the ring’s goofy space-age look and the loud vibrations make me think that his dick is a rocket ship, sending me into a fit of giggles. I don’t think that I would have that problem with the elegantly designed and whisper quiet Jejoue Mio. According to Caitlin, “It’s silicon, waterproof, rechargeable, has a really stretchy ring, and it’s really strong. It’s top of the line because it’s more comfortable than other rechargeable cock rings that I’ve seen on the market.”

tenga egg sex toys
Tenga Egg Collection

If you’re looking for a stocking stuffer that takes its name seriously seriously, give your guy Tenga’s Egg or Cup! These Japanese masturbation sleeves with keep your penis-owning SO happy while you’re away. The Egg can be washed out and used a few times, while the pre-lubricated Cup is for a single use. These are especially great for a guy who isn’t ready to commit to a more serious sleeve. “The cups would be a good one to start out with because they’re similar to the bigger ones like the Tenga Flip Hole… which opens up so that you can clean it out.”

BS Atelier G-Spot Rainbow sex toys
BS Atelier G-Spot Rainbow

It’s your time to shine, lesbians! “Some lesbians like penetrative toys, others don’t. If you do, I would recommend a strap on harness of some sort.” Caitlin showed me the SpareParts Hardwear harness, which is super adjustable and machine washable, as well as a simple O’Ring Harness which allows you to change the size of the ring and work with whatever size cock you want. From there, you have lots of different options for what cock you like; there’s the super realistic VixSkin line from Vixen Creations, or you can get a totally bonkers fantasy cock from Bad Dragon. Personally, I’m head over heels in love with the beyond cute and friendly looking dildos from BS Atelier.

Vixen Creations VixSkin Line sex toys
Vixen Creations VixSkin Line
Image courtesy of HeyEpiphora.com*

If someone in your relationship is a transman looking for a really realistic toy, Caitlin again points toward the VixSkin line from Vixen Creations. “They’re super realistic in terms of texture and look, and they come in a few different skin tones. And not necessarily for sex, but New York Toy Collective makes really nice packers.” Caitlin also showed me New York Toy Collective’s Love Bump, which adds balls to your dildo and includes a bullet vibe. As for transwomen, “It really depends on the person. Any trans person is going to have very varying preferences, and some trans ladies might prefer not to be penetrated. It depends where they are in their transition.”

Tantus Beginner Ball Gag sex toys
Tantus Beginner Ball Gag

If you and your partner are interested in exploring kink and BDSM, Caitlin and I both suggest that you learn about safety first, be it through books, films, whatever. Check out Tristan Taormino’s Guide To Bondage For Couples, Midori’s Expert Guide To Sensual Bondage, and Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples. Once you know what you’re getting yourself into, try Tantus’ Beginner Ball Gag. “It’s silicon and it fills your mouth, but it has a small base so it doesn’t prop your jaw open too much, which can be uncomfortable.”

njoy pure plugs sex toys
NJoy Pure Plugs

If you want something to put in your butt, check out NJoy’s Pure Plugs and Pfun Plug for the male g-spot. They’re made of weighty surgical stainless steel, with a deliciously bulbous head and a tapered stem for easy retention. Not only that, they’re just gorgeous and super sexy looking.

All of these toys (and many more!) are available at Kink Shoppe in Philadelphia, or at your own locally owned adult store. All of us at HMFH wish you the merriest of sex lives as you head into the new year!

*HeyEpiphora.com is one of our favorite sex toy review sites, run by veteran sex toy reviewer Epiphora. We also encourage you to read her awesome holiday sex toy guide from 2013 here.

6.9 Questions with Sinnamon Love

Sinnamon Love interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminist Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions. Below is the fourteenth in the series, featuring the Goddess of Glam-Everything, Sinnamon Love.

 

 

As always, check back every Wednesday for the next installment of 6.9 Questions, since we dug some more up from our secret vault.

6.9 Questions with Jiz Lee

Jiz Lee interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminist Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions. Below is the fifteenth in the series, featuring the gender-and-genre conqueror Jiz Lee.

 

As always, check back every Wednesday for the next installment of 6.9 Questions, since we dug some more up from our secret vault.

6.9 Questions with Dylan Ryan

Dylan Ryan interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminist Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions. Below is the twelfth in the series, featuring porn superhero Dylan Ryan.

As always, check back every Wednesday for the next installment of 6.9 Questions, since we dug some more up from our secret vault.

6.9 Questions with James Darling

James Darling interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminine Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions. Below is the tenth in the series, featuring trans-male porn star (and 2012 FPA Heartthrob of the Year) James Darling.

 

As always, check back every Wednesday for the next installment of 6.9 Questions, since we dug some more up from our secret vault.

6.9 Questions with Tristan Taormino

Tristan Taormino interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminine Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions. Below is the ninth in the series, featuring director/columnist/sex educator/tons more Tristan Taormino.

As always, check back every Wednesday for the next installment of 6.9 Questions, since we dug some more up from our secret vault.

 

6.9 Questions with Madison Young

Madison Young interviewed by Kelly Shibari.

While at the Feminine Porn Awards for HotMoviesforHer.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions.  Below is the final in the series, 6.9 questions with Madison Young.

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Well, that’s the last of the 6.9 questions series from Kelly Shibari at the 2013 FPA’s.  We hope you learned a lot of the stars and how they got their start in the porn industry.

6.9 Questions with Kali Williams AKA Princess Kali

Kali Williams (AKA Princess Kali) interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminine Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions.  Below is the seventh in the series, 6.9 questions with Kali Williams.

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Keep an eye out for next Wednesday for the final post in the 6.9 questions with porn stars series by our very own Kelly Shibari!

6.9 Questions with Wolf Hudson

Wolf Hudson interviewed by Kelly Shibari

While at the Feminine Porn Awards for hotmoviesforher.com, Kelly Shibari interviewed a few of our favorite stars and asked them 6.9 questions.  Below is the sixth in the series, 6.9 questions with Wolf Hudson.

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Keep an eye out for on Wednesday’s for the next 3 weeks for more 6.9 questions with porn stars by our very own Kelly Shibari!

Introducing Evelyn James (Emja)

Evelyn JamesThis is the first Wednesday I’ve been up before 8am since early 2012 (freelancers get the greatest schedules but the worst sort of writers block). And before lunch I’ve already seen around 74 pairs of boobs , learned the average amount of minutes my co-workers watch porn, and have edited 30-second clips of monumental, climactic scenes of fucking. If it was possible, I’d put money on being jaw-droppingly jealous of myself.  My friends will no doubt envy me while I discuss the perks of this wonderful new position, but I will be humble and add that I was not withheld from also filling out endless New Hire forms. But then I got to list all the movies I wanted to review in the coming week in ranking order of bounciest breasts.

You will come to know me as Evelyn James or formally Evelyn Mae James, but typing long names can get annoying so I’ll just finish things as Emja (pronounce: m-juh). I gained interest in HotMoviesForHer easily because I like boobs. I’m a straight girl who borderline obsesses over porn and a great set of lovely bubbles. Yet here I will get to take my lifelong hobby of gawking to connecting; with the stars in my industry, some wicked studios that keep us glued to (any sort of) screen, and to you.

Things I’ll need your help with as we get to know each other:

Convince me to love and cherish the hashtag. I’m a Twitter freak (@emmmmja) yet the hashtag seems so snobby to me.

Explain why Game of Thrones ditched all the sex scenes. It’s unfair and I’ve secretly fantasized working on Wanted posters for more booty bumping.

Pictures of boys on bikes without shirts. Tweet them to @emmmmja.

Send me your feedback on what you need to see/read/experience, if you want us to keep you turned on. Seriously, my thing might not be your thing, so let’s keep the lines of communication open and this site will become your daily moment of sexual zen.