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20 Questions With Rachel Kenley – Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades

A few weeks back we posted our review of Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades, a collection offering up fifty different perspectives on the 50 Shades phenomenon.  Today we bring you 20 questions with erotica author Rachel Kenley.  Her piece “Porn Writer on the PTA” takes a look at how 50 Shades has changed the interactions she has with other women in her community and the ways the dynamic has shifted since they started reading the series.

1. How (and when) did you get started writing erotica/writing about?
I started reading erotica and erotic romance in my 20s and my tastes have gotten better and my requirements higher. I submitted my first erotic romance in early 2007 and it was published later that year by Ellora’s Cave (I was writing as Rowan West then). I love exploring the physical aspects of a growing relationship and how that effects the individuals involved.

2. If you weren’t writing, what would you be doing?
You mean another job? I can’t imagine. I had dreams of being on the stage when I was younger, but this is the work that suits me best – writing, working and coaching writers, speaking at conferences. I love it all.

3. What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received from the erotic industry?
There is someone for everything and everyone’s likes and desires are different. And that’s something to be celebrated! There’s not even a consensus in the vanilla hetero world. If it makes you feel good and if it doesn’t hurt anyone else – explore it, enjoy it, and you’ll probably find someone else who enjoys it too.

4. What’s the funniest thing that’s happened while working in erotica?
Probably the faces of some of my extended family when they learned what I write about. It’s as if they are worried that writing erotic romance gives me some kind of insight into their sexual thoughts. I do love how many friends, however, are willing to ask me questions. Women need someone they can talk to about these things.

5. What do you think is the biggest misconception about women in the industry?
In the porn industry? Probably that they are brainless and can’t get work anywhere else. I don’t think people realize that this industry (in movies and in books) can also be way for us to take charge and control of our sexuality, our pleasure – and our bank accounts.

6. What did you do today?
Home-schooled my children, made dinner, did laundry, wrote about 1,000 words, and tried to save the PC from the blue screen of death (I needed to call in back up for that).

7. What would you rather have done today?
Have someone else do the cooking and cleaning for me while I sit in a perfectly decorated writing room with lots of space and light. My coffee is always hot and there’s chocolate on hand. And someone to give me a massage when I need it later.

8. If you could do a movie with anyone (living or brought back from the dead) who would it be?
OMG – I would *totally* love to meet Mae West. I’d love to write for her, talk to her and have her over for dinner. She’s an inspiration and a role model. I’d also like Anais Nin to join us, but she never made a movie to my knowledge.

9. Who is your favorite adult performer?
Okay, this is a strange question for a writer to answer, but I have to admit I love watching what Randy Spears can do with his tongue. He always looks like he is enjoying what he’s doing – and so does his partner. And having seen her on several HBO specials – I get a real kick out of Katie Morgan.

10. You’ve got 20 bucks left to your name; what would you do with it?
You mean after I panic and call my friends? I will always spend money on books, good food, and great costume jewelry.

11. If you were president, what’s the first thing you’d change?
I’d work to make sure everyone had the civil rights and equality they deserved. Marriage for all who want it. And I think our education system needs some serious attention.

12. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done?
My list of things that I’ve done which are foolish or dumb is much longer (you can ask my brother about the time I locked my keys in a Honda with the engine running – he loves to tell that story), but I think breast feeding in front of my in-laws ranks up there. It cleared the room.  🙂

13. Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey has been wonderful from the moment I first started writing my essay. I’d have to add the first anthology I edited which was called Spellbound a collection of erotically retold fairy tales. I love those stories and all the things you can do with them.

14. If you could have 1 superpower what would it be?
I hate having to choose only one (did I mention I’m a Libra?), but I’ve always wanted to fly!

15. Meat or veggie?
Meat! Veggies on the side, please.

16. What is your favorite book?
Too many to list and I’d have to go through all the different genres I enjoy, but in the erotica genre, I will read anything Laura Antoniou and Joey W. Hill write. They never disappoint.

17. What is your biggest pet peeve?
That there are always dishes in the sink and laundry to be done. I also hate having to say things more then once. I don’t love the sound of my own voice that much.

18. What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Learn what you love and then get comfortable telling your partner what you want! Being sexual power is a vital part of being fully empowered.

19. What is your favorite adult movie?
Dogma by Kevin Smith. Oh, that’s not what you meant?

20. Tell me one thing you’ve never told anyone else.
I think I would have made (and loved being) a great courtesan back in the age when they were celebrated.

Take a look at Rachel Kenley’s essay in Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades of Grey and follow her on twitter!

And don’t forget to check out our interviews with other 50 Writers contributors, Marci Hirsch and Midori!

20 Questions With Midori – Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades

MidoriA few weeks back we posted our review of Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades, a collection offering up fifty different perspectives on the 50 Shades phenomenon.  Today we bring you 20 questions with sexuality writer and sex educator Midori, author of the essay “Fifty Shades Of Snark.”  Midori’s piece looks at the kink community’s reaction to the 50 Shades phenomenon (which is quite critical) and tempers that with her own early adventures in the thrill of viewing erotica, creating a balanced and realistic view at the appeal of the series.  Spend a little extra time with Midori in her amazing !

1. How (and when) did you get started teaching bedroom skills and sexuality coaching?
In the mid 90’s I volunteered as peer educator for HIV education and safer sex in San Francisco. Shortly after that, I began writing sexual advice columns for various magazine and papers—always with the objective of giving people permission to shed shame and have smarter, safer, and steamier sex.

Slowly I began teaching classes in the local area. Soon I discovered I had a talent for public speaking, coaching, and designing effective and entertaining classes to help people live fulfilling erotic lives. In 2001 I became a full-time traveling sexuality educator.

The past few years my weekend intensive programs, including ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive and Rope Bondage Dojo, have really gained popularity. Recently, Skype and other technology have made it easier for me to help my students with ongoing coaching. It’s unbelievably exciting to be part of people’s lives as they explore, blossom, and grow into living fully!

2. If you weren’t writing, what would you be doing?
Adventure travel guide in exotic hinterlands, guiding people to achieve new peaks, experience fresh sensations, and see wondrous sights!

(Hmmm. Come to think of it, whether in the wilds of jungles and caverns or the wilds of bedroom adventures, I’m drawn to the same thing!)

3. What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received from the erotic industry?
If it turns you on, someone else out there is turned on by it too!

4. What’s the funniest thing that’s happened while working as a sexuality educator and coach?
Conversations with TSA agents as they open my luggage and find my teaching props! Then they want to come to my classes.

5. What do you think is the biggest misconception about women in the adult industry?
A common misconception about women in the adult industry is that it’s an occupation of last resort. While it may be for some, for many it’s a chosen occupation providing an outlet for creativity, agency, and flexible hours.

6. What did you do today?
Taught a group of erotic rope bondage enthusiasts the joys of passionate movement and hot rope tricks.

7. What would you rather have done today?
A lot more of #6 and then go to the kinky play party happening tonight — and a lot less office work, like work coordination e-mails and answering 20 questions.

8. If you could do a movie with anyone (living or brought back from the dead) who would it be?
Veronica Franco, Michel Foucault, Freddy Mercury, Pharaoh Hatshepsut

9. Who is your favorite adult performer?
Nina Hartley, Sinnamon Love, Adrianna Nicole, Madison Young. Why? They’re my friends and I just think they’re wonderful people! I like hanging out them.

10. You’ve got 20 bucks left to your name; what would you do with it?
Make “stone soup” with my most beloved friends.

11. If you were president, what’s the first thing you’d change?
Reform the electoral college system, and make voting mandatory for all adults with fiscal penalty for failure to comply. Vote!

12. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done?
Having to read Fifty Shades on an airplane while researching for this book is one of the most embarrassing things I’ve done lately.  I’ve read tons of sex-filled filth during flights, but nothing made me feel more uncomfortable than the possibility of people thinking I willingly chose to read this quality of writing.

13. Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Weekend Intensive!

Creating an environment and program to help women discover and tap into their authentic power source within, and to find fulfillment in a mutually supportive experience has been deeply satisfying. Watching these amazing women blossom into their fuller potential—nothing like it. Not even chocolate comes close to this.

14. If you could have 1 superpower what would it be?
Cause others to experience deep and profound kindness towards others.

15. Meat or veggie?
Fish

16. What is your favorite book?
Like Water for Chocolate by Gabriel García Márquez

17. What is your biggest pet peeve?
Litter bugs. Such a simple act exposes a person as being deeply selfish and immature.

18. What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Go ahead, be sexually selfish and ask for what you want! Put yourself first, everything and everyone else comes from that.

19. What is your favorite adult movie?
As a pre-teen in Japan I got a peek at Madame Emmanuel on late night TV. If I had to name a favorite adult film, it would be that.

I don’t have a favorite contemporary adult film, but some of my most favorite sex scenes are in these movies…
• Unbearable Lightness of Being
• Indochine
• Cabaret
• Mr. & Mrs. Smith
• The Hunger

20. Tell me one thing you’ve never told anyone else.
I do not have one of those naturally beautiful faces and bodies. I accept that my physical “package” is ordinary. At the same time, I know that I have developed myself into an attractive person, and continue to do so.

Check out Midori’s essay in Fifty Writers On Fifty Shades of Grey and her work on the screen in !

And follow Midori on Twitter!

Also take a look at our interview with Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades contributor Marci Hirsch!

20 Questions With Marci Hirsch – Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades

Last week we posted our review of Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades, a collection offering up fifty different perspectives on the 50 Shades phenomenon.  One of the writers is Marci Hirsch, the VP of Production over at porno company Vivid Entertainment.  Her piece “It’s All in the Eyes” swirls parts of her own experiences as both a sexual person and a woman within the industry with interactions that occur in 50 Shades, and allows us to view women in erotica a little bit differently.

1. How (and when) did you get started writing erotica/writing about?
I have always liked reading erotica so when I was asked to write an essay, I jumped at the opportunity.

2. If you weren’t writing, what would you be doing?
Who knows? I am trying not to schedule everything in my life. Turns out people in my life don’t like it!

3. What’s the best thing you’ve learned or best advice you’ve received from the erotic industry?
Patience

4. What’s the funniest thing that’s happened while working in erotica?
It was a “had to be there moment” that’s explanation just doesn’t give the full effect of what happened.

5. What do you think is the biggest misconception about women in the industry?
People think that the women in the industry are taken advantage of and objectified. The adult industry is no longer a boys club. Women in our industry do so much more than perform on camera.

6. What did you do today?
I went to the theatre to see Book of Mormon…LOVED IT.

7. What would you rather have done today?
Nothing. That is a great way to spend an evening.

8. If you could do a movie with anyone (living or brought back from the dead) who would it be?
John Holmes…oh wait, did you mean mainstream? Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton.

9. Who is your favorite adult performer?
You know I can’t answer that!

10. You’ve got 20 bucks left to your name; what would you do with it?
Buy moisturizer. Can’t live without it.

11. If you were president, what’s the first thing you’d change?
Get rid of Supreme Court justices having lifetime positions and appoint as many liberal justices as possible. And LEGALIZE GAY MARRIAGE already…WTF???

12. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done?
I am not very coordinated so I trip a lot and fall up stairs.

13. Which is your favorite project that you’ve worked on?
I Love what I do, but, writing erotica was fun.

14. If you could have 1 superpower what would it be?
Time travel

15. Meat or veggie?
Meat, all the way.

16. What is your favorite book?
This is a hard question to answer. Growing up I used books to escape.
Every book I read is read for a different reason. I rarely read a book I don’t like.

17. What is your biggest pet peeve?
Misspelled words

18. What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Keep your eyes open so you don’t miss anything.

19. What is your favorite adult movie?
This year it is . Check with me again next year!

20. Tell me one thing you’ve never told anyone else.
Sometimes I think of my dog, Riley, as the daughter I never had!!!
(This is not news to anyone who knows me.)

Check out Marci Hirsch’s work at Vivid Entertainment and read her essay in Fifty Writers on Fifty Shades.

And follow Marci on Twitter!

Riding Into the Sunset – J.D. Bauchery Says Goodbye!

Well, my friends, the time has come.  After 5 and a half years, today is my last day at HotMoviesForHer.com.  While I inherited the site from a bunch of amazing women (Venus, Essin’ Em and The Porn Librarian, to name a few), over the years I’ve come to consider HM4Her my baby.  It has been a great honor to help create a space to talk about women’s sexuality and offer up hot movies for all to watch and enjoy.  I am lucky to have had the opportunity to help folks get off for such a long time!

As I wrap up my time here, I wanted to look back a little and reminisce over some of the awesome stuff that I’ve had the chance to experience. For time’s sake, I’ll keep it to a brief top five.

1.  I’ve worked with some pretty freaking awesome people in the time that I’ve been at HM4Her.  Seriously, these ladies are bad ass!  (Pics are JD and The Porn Librarian; Ginger, Jo and JD; Ginger and JD; and Janie and JD)

       

And got to meet some amazing folks in the biz, like Erika Lust, April Flores, Carol QueenNina Hartley and Jiz Lee, among so many others.

     

2.  I got to use the blog as a teaching tool to offer up realistic, non-judgmental sex education to the masses, in a way that I never thought was preachy or uncomfortable.  My favorite sexy education posts I’ve written are:

– My very first blog post: Introducing J.D. – Your Newest Sexpert Extraordinaire, which talked about anal sex.

HotMovies4Her Sex Tips – Getting Real About 4 Popular Sex Beliefs

HotMovies4Her Tips – How To Be An Empowered Submissive

HotMovies4Her Tips – Goal-Oriented vs. Pleasure-Oriented Sexin’

Hot Pink: Sex and Cancer

3.  I’ve had the amazing fortune of getting to go to The Dinah and The Feminist Porn Awards for multiple years and connect with our readers/viewers.  I love talking to people about HotMoviesForHer and porn in general.  There is nothing quite like seeing someone realize for the first time that there really is porn out there they they could enjoy.

The Dinah!

      

The Feminist Porn Awards!

 

 

4.  Over the last five years, I have reviewed an insane amount of sex toys.  Like a lot a lot.  My toybox runneth over for real.  Some of my absolute favorite toys to review were:

– SpareParts’ Joque Harness
– Topsy Turvy
– Kinklab’s Triple Leather Slapper
– Fleshlight Freaks – Frankenstein
– Handmade Leather Restraints From Project TransAction
 -Pure Wand
– Hitachi Magic Wand

5.  And lastly, the porn.  Seriously guys, I can’t even pick a few movies to put in a list here.  I’ve watched a ridiculous about of porn in the last five years – some of it good, some of it bad, but all of it pervy, just the way I love it.

Thank you all for making my last five years awesome.

Adios.

xoxo
-J.D. Bauchery

3 Out Of 3 Porn Bloggers Agree

That’s right, you read 3 out of 3 porn bloggers!  The Porn Librarian facebook messaged me a few minutes ago to bring this ad to my attention.

Seriously, we can’t believe that this got through focus group testing and all that without a single person noticing that they say “bareback” a million times.

Oh man, I miss that Porn Librarian!

xoxo
– JD

Steaks, Blowjobs and Pi!!!

Oh man, today we get a twofer!  Not only is March 14th Pi Day (3.14 – get it?), it’s also Steak and a Blowjob Day, the antithesis to Valentine’s Day.  While it’s generally considered the male equivalent to the feminine Valentine’s Day, I say to hell with that – a lot of ladies love both steaks AND blowjobs!

To celebrate I thought I would offer up a few of my favorite picks from the blowjob queen herself, Belladonna.  Seriously folks, it is so obvious that she loves sucking cock – and I, for one, love watching her do just that!

 

Now that you’ve got a little fodder to whet your imagination, go get a T-Bone, some pie, and enjoy your evening.

xoxo
-JD

 

I Want To Sleep With Nina Hartley

This morning I woke up vaguely remembering that April Flores showed up in my dream last night.  I honestly can’t recall exactly what I was dreaming about, but I do know that it didn’t involve anything sexual… at least I’m pretty sure about that.  Bummer, right?

Anyway, over breakfast I was telling my fiance about April appearing in my dream, which led to a conversation about which porn performers we would most want to hump.  His pick was Wolf Hudson, which is no shocker there (yum!), but I was actually kind of surprised who came out of my mouth.

I really thought I would most want to get busy with some of the hot masculine-of-center queers I always talk about, or a fierce zaftig femme, like April, but to my own unexpected amazement, I chose Nina Hartley.


While I am surprised that she came out of my mouth automatically, it’s actually not all that shocking that I would be excited to sleep with Nina Hartley.  She is a sexy, confident woman who knows exactly what she likes, and knows how to explain it to other people in a way that keeps the moment hot and makes her lovers feel like total studs.  She gives the perfect amount of guidance and feedback while she is getting off, and always offers us up delicious, real orgasms.  And when she is in the driver’s seat, Hartley is the kind of partner that makes sure you are having the best time you can possibly be having. Also, she is a badass sex educator, so really, are we that shocked that I would be smitten here?

So there you have it, my dream porno hook up is the fabulous Nina Hartley (who just so happened to have a birthday this week.  Happy 54th, Nina!).

What about you?  Which performer would you most want to get it on with?

xoxo
-JD

 

 

 

 

Our Weekend At The GLBT Expo With Jiz Lee, Jimmy Durano And Trenton Ducati!

This weekend HotMoviesForHer.com and GayHotMovies.com headed up to New York City to preach the porno gospel at the GLBT Expo.

Along with bringing a ridiculous amount of cards for free minutes on the sites, shirts, pens, stickers, bottle openers and more, we welcomed performers Jiz Lee, Jimmy Durano and Trenton Ducati to the booth to sign autographs and generally be awesome.

Instead of a whole post about passing out porn, chatting people up and looking at Trenton Ducati’s amazing ass, why don’t I give you a little photo documentary to give you a sense of the weekend.

Also, Jiz showed me the app Vine and I got obsessed with making weird little movies, like this.

 

 

Yep, it was a good weekend!

xoxo
-JD

Passing On The Porno Torch – J.D. Is Leaving The Building

This is a difficult post to write. Yes, my friends, the time has come for me to step down from my throne as Queen Perv here at HotMoviesForHer.com and pass along the scepter (um, it’s actually a gross double-headed jelly rubber dildo that lives in my desk).

You read right, this week will be my last full week at HotMoviesForHer.  I will be moving on to try my hand at something totally different in the land of social work.  After five and a half years of bringing you all the sexiest smut this side of the computer screen, I am definitely sad to leave my sweet online porn community, but I also know that there are lots of other things to do in this big, beautiful world and I am excited to experience as much as I can.

For the rest of my time here at HM4Her, I’m going to give lots of love to favorite pornos, reminisce over all the movies and toys I’ve review and generally enjoy my final days as a professional pervert.  Get ready, because we are going to have the best time!

Note: It’s true that I’m not sure who will be stepping in to take over the site, but I will let you all know as soon as I find out.

Alright, you have me until March 19th, so let’s get to the good stuff!

xoxo
-J.D. Bauchery

2 Out Of 2 Porn Bloggers Agree…

While I know that it’s a total shock that people can look markedly different when they put makeup on, let me go a step further and blow your mind by telling you that the same principle applies to porn stars.  I know, I can’t believe it either.  Check out this awesome video to see some of the biggest names in the biz (like Dana DeArmondKristina Rose and Misty Stone) sans cosmetics.

Seriously, I would never recognize most of these ladies walking down the street without their makeup on, but I also think they are all super pretty with naked faces.

(via Gawker)

xoxo
-JD and Janie