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Is it true that there is more than one type of female orgasm?
-Curious in California
Well, in fact, there are at least four types of GENITAL (I’m not even going to start talking about breast orgasms, mouth orgasms, etc in this column) that women can have. Yes, you heard me right; they would be four, quarto, 4, to be exact.
The most common and most intense female orgasm is the clitoral orgasm, achieved by, you guessed it, stimulating the clitoris (for those of you unfamiliar with this area, a- get a mirror and check out your genital region, STAT, b- I’m sorry you haven’t found it yet, and c- it’s the bundle of nerves at the top part of your vaginal region, hidden usually by a small hood of skin…it has more than four times as many nerves as the ENTIRE penis, and has no no purpose other than to give a woman pleasure).
This type of orgasm can be facilitated in a number of ways; fingers, tongues, shallow thrusting (PS, when I say thrusting, or talk about positions… it doesn’t mean you need to have a penis; dildos and vibrators work just as well). A good position for a penetrative clitoral orgasm would be female superior (with her leaning forward, ie “riding high”).
The next type of female orgasm is that of the G-spot (nickname for the Grafenberg spot… try saying that three times fast), which as previously discussed, is located inside the vagina, about 1.5-2.5 inches (about 4 cm) in, on the top part of the vaginal wall (so if you’re lying on your back, it would be the ceiling side of the vagina). It’s not an anatomical area; you can’t draw a map to it, or point it out, but it feels kind of spongy, and becomes more engorged when aroused. This is a very high amplitude orgasms, washing over the whole body, and usually has a bigger build up. Stimulating the G-spot can be done by fingers, dildos, vibrators or a penis; sadly, unless you’re dating Gene Simmons, your partner’s tongue probably just isn’t long enough. A good penetrative would be the woman on top again, or rear entry (‘fondly’ referred to as doggy style).
Then we have the vaginal orgasm, the orgasm people usually think of as the “intercourse orgasm”…but remember, tons and tons of women don’t come from penetration alone. This orgasm is preceded by either deep thrusting or deep finger stimulation, kind of in a filling up of the vagina. For a coital position that will work best towards having a vaginal orgasm, having the female on her back, with her legs raised, or bent up towards her chest, opening the vagina for a deeper penetration.
The last orgasm is something I just discovered… the urethral, or “U-spot” orgasm. When I say urethral, I don’t mean penetrating the urethra, I mean stimulating the urethra… you might not know this, but the nerves from your clitoris extend under the skin down towards the urethral opening… meaning when you’re stimulating it, you’re getting some indirect clitoral stimulation. When this is stimulated, you might kind of feel like you have to pee, but that’s normal, and no, you’re not going to pee all over your partner. Keeping a dull, yet constant pressure around the entire urethral area, not focusing on any specific spot (unless of course it feels amazing!). The best position for this kind of orgasm would be the lady on her back with her legs spread apart as wide as possible, and using circular thrusting.
Just some new things to try; since us ladies have so many exciting types of orgasms, I figured it be worth some exploring and experimenting.
Keep them coming!
Essin’ Em
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It’s about time that y’all have figured out that I collect sex books. This is definitely among the best. It is written from a friendly, feminist, pro-sex, pro-woman point of view. The book is open to all types of sexualities and orientations and covers pretty much anything you will even need to know about sex… EVER. Aside from one small typo (it suggests using two condoms… which is a huge safer-sex NO-NO), the information in this book is extremely accurate, open minded and up to date. It’s great for a beginner who is just beginning to explore the field of sexuality, or for someone that owns or has read almost every sex book available on the market. To add to the fun and entertainment, the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex also contains fun illustrations to go with the wonderfully written text.
Buy it Now – “Good Vibrations Guide to Sex”
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A Hairy Situation:
Part 2. Waxing
Before you read about my conversation to the cult of pubic hair shaving. After shaving for a while, I decided that the amount of time I dedicated to my razor could clearly be eliminated if I switched to the similar, but slightly different, church of waxing.
Having made this decision, I again began to explore waxing. What type of wax did I want them to use? What exactly did I want wax; just the visible part, the lips too, or everything but the kitchen sink? Where should I go to do it? How much was it going to hurt? Was this just a really dumb idea? It seemed to me that if I was going to do it, it had to be all or nothing, and finally, I came to the conclusion that I was ready for my first, all hair removing, slightly exotic sounding, Brazilian wax.
After much debating back and forth, I started talking to my friend, and found that she was considering getting waxed too, but didn’t want to go alone. Amused at our similar mind sets, we decided to go get our hair ripped out together. We were in need of a female bonding experience, and this one fit the bill, so we busted out the phone book and started our search for a salon to help us with our hair removal needs. The decision had to be made as to whether we wanted to go to a cheaper, middle of the range place, or something a little more high class. In the end, we decided for our first time to go to an upper-end, fancy schmancy salon.
In preparation, I googled “Brazilian Wax” to get some tips as to what to expect. First and foremost, you need a hair length of at least 1/4-1/2 inch long. How do you know it’s the right length? Well, in my case, I decided that guys aren’t the only ones needing to bust out the ruler.
Some people said it hurt more than they had expected, and others said that it hurt far less. Everyone agreed that drinking alcohol or doing drugs beforehand is a worse plan than Britney marrying K-Fed. Many people suggested drinking LOTS of water before the process to make it easier to remove the hairs (I don’t understand the logic behind this, but I drink 80 oz. a day anyway, so it was easy enough), and to take a few Ibuprofen an hour or so before hand.
I drank my water and took my Advil, and headed in with my friend, a little nervous, a little excited, and not really knowing what to expect. After signing in, I headed back to a room playing soft music with some mood lighting, and was given a few minutes to lose my skirt (I decided jeans rubbing against my newly nude naughty bits was a less than pleasant picture) and underwear, and was then laid down on a chair that reminded me of the dentist… not the best experience. Shortly I felt a pleasantly warm (but definitely not burning hot) sensation on my nether regions. Then a strip of cloth was placed over the wax, and as she told me to bear down, RIP! Definitely a sting, but not nearly as painful as I expected. As the process continued, it got a little more tender, but nothing horrible to write home about. The whole thing took about 30-45 minutes, and I left with my friend (whose process took slightly longer), and we walked off to the sunset, arm in arm (and I looked like I was riding a horse… without the animal). I will say I was a little sore for the first few hours.
All in all, it was definitely a different experience. My poor pussy was a little sore and red for a day, but after that, I could believe how much I loved this whole waxing thing better than shaving. It got EVERYWHERE, which I definitely can’t do with my razor, and lasted almost a month before I should have gone in again (but was in Montana at the time, and I didn’t want to go try and find a waxing salon in the middle of Glacier National Park). It definitely is a little pricey ($65 + tip at a nice salon in Colorado, and prices vary depending on where you are), but I thought it was worth it. While I can’t afford to head to the spa once a month, I treat myself every once in a while, and just go with the razor in between. It’s certainly not for everyone, but if you’re adventurous and wanting to give it a try, find a good place, grab a friend for moral vaginal support, drink your water, pop your pain killers… and head on in for a new experience. And let me know what you think.
Hair today, gone tomorrow!
Essin’ Em
Hair removal is painful enough – so here’s a fun movie that has absolutely nothing to do with it! Wax On Whacks Off:
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Written by: admin on February 15th, 2007
I can’t be the only girl out there who really wants to sleep with, oh… maybe at least half of the gay guys I meet… right? Well ladies, here is the movie for you. Guys who used to star in gay flicks (including gay for pay) have gotten together, and are now starring in Straight Guys for Gay Eyes videos. Yup, that’s right. In this film, Anthony is a former gay porn star who has decided it’s the right time to go back to the ladies. He’s sweet, good looking, and isn’t loud or rude while having sex; his moans are delicious, and this film certainly fueled my fantasies of turning all my gay boyfriends straight… I mean, if this blonde can do it, I can too… maybe. Anyways, a good film, fairly simple with a sex sex sex plot line. Only thing I would have added; I would love to see him licking some clit, but other wise, Straight Guys for Gays Eyes totally delivers… don’t let the “Gay Eyes” fool you – this is for all man-loving eyes!
-Essin’ Em
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Written by: admin on February 15th, 2007 Written by: admin on February 15th, 2007
Sexy, sexy…
In the industry for less than a year, Sasha Grey took no time making a big name for herself with her dirty desires. She’s already won 2 AVN Awards: Best Group Sex Scene in a Video for Fashionistas Safado – The Challenge and Best Three-Way Sex Scene in Fuck Slaves. Known for her personal love of extreme sex and submission, she’s also a pretty cool chick – and apparently a martian to boot!
How did you get started in the industry?
I started in April of 2006. I started my research and decided this was what I wanted to do in August 2005.
If you weren’t in the adult industry, what would you be doing?
Most likely be in a techno band.
What’s the best thing you’ve learned from industry?
It has taught me to be very responsible and grow at a faster pace opposed to most people my age.
What’s the funniest thing that’s happened on set?
I saw a girl shit on a couch.
What do you think is the biggest misconception about women in industry?
That they are manipulated and ignorant – which sadly is true for a large percentage.
What did you do today?
Fucked a dick, and sucked two more. Then I had sushi with Melissa Lauren.
What would you rather have done today?
A scene for my website.
If you could do a movie with anyone who would it be?
Jimi Hendrix and Jim Morrison.
Who is your favorite adult performer?
Belladonna
You’ve got 20 bucks left to your name; what would you do with it?
Give it to a homeless person because then I might as well be dead and hungry.
If you were president, what’s the first thing you’d change?
I wouldn’t want to be president of this country.
What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done?
Took my first communion.
Which is your favorite project you’ve worked on?
The Fashionistas 2 and The Awakening of Sasha Grey (coming in spring 2007).
If you could have 1 superpower what would it be?
The ability to cure all ailments.
Meat or veggie?
Meat.
What is your favorite book?
Look at my myspace – I have a list of favorites – not just one!
What is your biggest pet peeve?
Ignorant people.
What is your best piece of sex advice for women?
Seduce and destroy.
What is your favorite adult movie?
I don’t have one.
Tell me one thing you’ve never told anyone else.
I am from Mars.
Keep your eye out for lots more ultra hardcore sexiness from Sasha Grey…
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 This set of clips from all sorts of gorgeous and glamorous pin up girls was a real joy to watch. Including famous pin ups like Blaze Starr and yes, even the widely known Betty Page, this film holds all sorts of allure for those who miss the golden days of beauty, where women were 100% real, all natural, and just loved to dance around and pose for the camera. With a soundtrack of beautiful classical music, these black and white beauties hold more than just sexuality; they exude sensuality, making me wish that I too had lived in the 40′s and 50′s and was as exquisite as the lovely ladies in this film. An ideal movie for someone looking at their first pornography, someone who values the female form and body, and someone who just loves women, as there is no sexual activity in this movie; just the beautiful girls that we have all come to love. With perfectly coiffed hair, and soft, seductive bodies, these girls held me in rapture and awe as I watched an era of old come alive on the ‘silver screen’.
-Essin’ Em
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It’s that time of year again…
The day that when you’re in a relationship is supposed to make you be super sexy romantic, or if you’re single, just kind of rubs it in. Fortunately for us, porn is a wonderful thing that you should utilize on this day – regardless if you’re with a loved (or just lusted) one or alone! No picks for you today – be adventurous and try something new!
No matter how you feel about Valentine’s Day, you should at the very least appreciate the friendly love around you… it’s more than you think. Halcyon and his grandpa Caleb of HugNation.com share their loving thoughts and hugs with weekly broadcasts, and have an extra special show for this Valentine’s Day. If you’re feeling lonely, or even if you’re already feeling full of love, join their Huggable campaign and check out their special V-day broadcast at 1pm PST – I guarantee they will warm your hearts. (And if that’s too mushy for you, just watch because Halcyon is really nice and fucking hot.)
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In conclusion: Happy Valentine’s everyone – enjoy your porn, and share some hugs!
Love ya later,
-Venus Vegas
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It’s almost V-Day, and I have no idea what to do for my girlfriend, and not a lot of money… ideas?
-Broke in Brooklyn
I’m single, AGAIN for Valentine’s Day, and am so sick of it. How come there is a holiday for couples, and not one for singles?
-Single in Saratoga
As February 14th approaches, people’s hearts tend to fill with either one of two emotions; joy or dread. It all depends as to whether you’ll be celebrating Valentine’s Day or S.A.D. (Single’s Awareness Day for those new to the loop). Regardless, it’s a fun day if you approach it with a fabulous attitude, and I’ve put together some suggestions for everyone, depending on which situation you are in.
If you’re partnered, then this is the day traditionally reserved for you. Pink hearts, red roses, chocolates; these have all be designated for couples celebrating Valentine’s Day. Now, don’t get caught up in the consumerism; there is more to this holiday than how much cash you or your partner can plunk down on the table (remember, Green is for St. Patrick’s day, not V-Day).
This is a great day to let your partner know how much you appreciate them, and please note that not all gifts are available for purchase. Think about one of your favorite moments with your partner, and try to take the best pieces from it and recreate it. Had hot sex in a rainstorm? Try flickering candles and a CD of storm music. Been together since high school? Go find a lover’s lane to park your car, put on your song from that time period, and go back to the hot and heavy making out that you remember so fondly.
Better yet, listen, really listen, to your partner’s desires. Do they tell you how much they love having their back rubbed? Tonight, bust out the massage oil and rub away. Maybe they enjoy a certain genre of adult entertainment; girl on girl, oral sex, foot fetish; check out our collection of films, find one you think would be perfect, and have it set up for the beginning of an evening of fun. Set aside a few hours to just lie in bed together, and really explore each other’s bodies, to find out what each of you really like. Let this day traditionally reserved for lovers be just that; a day for lovers, to rekindle and re-stoke (I said stoke, not stroke, but that is just fine too!) the fiery passion which you share.
NOW! For you single ladies out there, please welcome me into your flock. I am single, but I am certainly not going to let Valentine’s hearts and powdered flavored candies get me down. Firstly, chocolate. Amazing food, and all over the place. Take some time to get a present for yourself; your favorite truffle, or one of those giant hearts. You are your own lover; give yourself a gift.
Next, if you’re anything like the average single gal, you’ve got company; lots of single gal pals. Make it a night! Last year, my closest girl friends and I dressed up in our fanciest dresses, and went to a dazzling sushi restaurant together. Granted, we were the only non-couple there, but we had more fun than all of the love birds put together, and we didn’t have to deal with the stress of *drum roll* VALENTINE’S DAY!
Think about what you and your lady (and single guy) friends like to do. Have someone host a passion party (what I like to refer to as a fucker-ware party), and turn it into a toy-shopping, drink making, love-bashing fling. Have games to see who can get the cherry out of a bowl of whipped cream the fastest (no hands of course) and who can fit the most Twinkies in their mouth. Share your favorite sex tips, and reveal embarassing sex stories that make you so happy you’re not still with that person. Talk about favorite positions, locations, fantasies, toys.
Go out dancing… anyone you meet that night is probably not married or dating, so you’re pretty safe that the hottie hitting on you is single as well. Catch a movie, go to dinner, do something that you love. Pamper yourself. This day is about love, and we all know that self love is the absolute best.
Whichever way you are celebrating February 14th this year, I wish you a wonderful time, lots of good company, and tons of love.
Happy Valentine’s or S.A. Day!
Essin’ Em
Unwritten Love – Enjoy it with a loved one or just by yourself!
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Whether you’re the woman in charge or prefer being the one who is tied up, these stunning red and black, satin-lined leather restraints (useable on wrists or ankles) are the perfect gift either to yourself or to your partner. Adding a little bondage can spice up any couple’s love life, and trying new things is always fun. The satin prevents the ouches that can occur from cheaply made, unlined cuffs and the beautiful color choice makes these restraints something that you (or at least I) would be proud to own and possibly even display. Buy one set, buy two, but make sure you and your lover try out these cuffs; great gift idea for Valentine’s Day!
Cuff me up, baby – get your own here!
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